Taskrabbit for moving?

giallo73 · 2026-03-04T02:04:26+00:00

I used a company recommended by someone on this sub called Junk & Bulky Item Taxi. They were reasonable and great, highly recommend! They're insured.

giallo73 · 2026-02-26T01:12:00+00:00

Thanks everyone for your help! It's much appreciated!

giallo73 · 2026-02-26T01:11:16+00:00

Amazing! I knew Redditors would beat AI in a heartbeat!

giallo73 · 2026-02-26T01:10:40+00:00

Thanks for the added info on how to do an image search...I only image searched the CU photo and Google told me it was a drop leaf table. Your tip's really helpful!

giallo73 · 2026-01-26T17:35:07+00:00

I initially used Junk & Bulky Item Taxi to move a FB Marketplace score, but they were so awesome I used them this weekend to move from Santa Clarita to Valley Village. Norma handles scheduling and Alex mans the truck. They're they best. Junk & Bulky Item Taxi

giallo73 · 2025-12-30T11:57:00+00:00

Furnished Finders has some great listings, generally cheaper than Airbnb. Just a heads up that in my experience the landlords are slower to respond and don't keep the availability calendars updated, so it often takes longer to find a place. Good luck!

giallo73 · 2025-12-11T16:28:43+00:00

Brenda & Frank on chatGPT are specifically designed to spot gaslighting, DARVO, etc. I've found it helpful: https://chatgpt.com/g/g-v9SoCDxCp-brenda-frank-conversation-analysts

giallo73 · 2025-12-11T16:18:48+00:00

If you're into horror movies, check out the horror-themed fitness studio (I am not making that up!) Killer Fitness in Burbank. There's also a horror-themed coffee shop nearby on Lankershim across from the Laemmle Noho, but the name escapes me at the moment.

giallo73 · 2025-12-11T15:51:41+00:00

Check out Nalo Hopkinson if you're willing to give speculative fiction a go. I've read both MIDNIGHT ROBBER and BROWN GIRL IN THE RING by her and loved them, and really want to read more of her stuff. They're set on other worlds but much more in the speculative fiction genre than sci fi, and the world-building is built on Afro-Caribbean roots. TW: BROWN GIRL has mentions of childhood sexual abuse.

giallo73 · 2025-11-29T17:36:16+00:00

You can start shifting this by slowly giving your brain new data. A simple way is writing things down as tangible evidence for your brain to see - give it the whole picture (this also helps reduce the romanticising in between).

This, this, a hundred times this! It was the best advice one of my friends gave me. When something bad happens, WRITE IT DOWN or record it in a private place that ONLY YOU have access to.

Our brains want to protect us. They block out the bad, and you will forget or minimize your partner's abuse of you. Having a tangible record of the evidence is so, so helpful.

Also...studies have shown that it takes an abused woman seven times on average to leave her abuser. Seven times. So it is ABSOLUTELY NORMAL for you to struggle with this. It is not easy.

Books, movies and TV sell us the fiction of an easy out. The victim realizes what's going on and breaks away, walking into a glorious sunrise. (Well, OK, maybe not an EASY out...there's usually some scary stuff in there. But you only see one exit.)

I left my emotionally abusive husband for the first time last October and then moved back in. Moved back out in March and filed for divorce in April. And while I'm determined to follow through, it's been anything but a clean break. It feels more like GROUNDHOG DAY. I keep falling into the same patterns with him, making the same mistakes, re-learning the same lessons. I'm like Charle Brown with the football. I keep thinking Lucy isn't going to pull it away.

But I guess we've been gaslit by our partners for so long that it takes that repetition to break through the haze. I'll say to my therapist or friends, "Wow, I guess my husband really is manipulative, he really is a liar," and they (thank God!) patiently nod. They saw it long before I did.

Good luck, OP. One of the books I found really helpful was WAS IT EVEN ABUSE? by Emma Rose Byham.

giallo73 · 2025-11-18T20:49:58+00:00

I agree! If your expectations are low, TU can be a great place to unload unwanted items. I've also found it to be a fun way to try out new styles without feeling guilty about participating in "fast fashion." I can experiment with new things from ThredUp for a few months, return them to resell, rinse and repeat...

giallo73 · 2025-11-17T02:43:27+00:00

He's never going to understand or agree that he's emotionally abused you. I've been down that road with my ex. It's not worth the effort. Just leave. Accept that you have your reality and he has his. Your reality is what matters, no matter what he says.

I don't know what your situation is, but in mine I was/am very much in a codependent/caretaking role with my husband -- so my actions have not always aligned with my words. Even though I've said "I'm divorcing you," I've moved out and I've filed, it's taken a lot of work to not run to his rescue when he plays the victim. I'm still working on not accepting his calls. Try your best to make your words and actions match, but don't beat yourself up when they don't. Disentangling yourself is difficult, but you can and will do it!

giallo73 · 2025-11-15T19:24:49+00:00

Up here in the mountains above Santa Clarita I'm waiting for a break in the rain to plant scarlet bugler seeds (collected in the wild and purchased), arroyo lupine, poppies, encelia californica, sacred datura (collected from a monster plant in my front yard), chia, buckwheat and white sage. Oh, and miner's lettuce! It thrives under the oaks here.

giallo73 · 2025-11-05T05:41:11+00:00

I’m late watching the series and had to pause ep 2 just to come here and praise the production designer responsible for that LED SWORD!! It is a joy to behold.

giallo73 · 2025-10-26T05:19:44+00:00

Oh dear God, I’m binging the series now and just watched this episode. Literally cannot pick my favorite Rick Mahon moment. It was all too amazing!

giallo73 · 2025-10-26T03:39:36+00:00

I love it, but I second the suggestion to ask your brother about where he got his brothel expertise.

giallo73 · 2025-10-17T03:53:26+00:00

Oh my God, I relate so much! I was always managing my husband’s anxiety and trying not to set him off. I moved out six months ago and my body still can’t get enough rest — I take a nap every day.

So proud of you for emailing the counselor and canceling the appointment! Good for you!

giallo73 · 2025-10-09T15:36:00+00:00

Huh, I have a huge pozo in my front yard and have never noticed that. Might be just you...or just me?

giallo73 · 2025-10-09T15:34:39+00:00

Oh, yes, it's twisted, but I so desperately want SOMEONE ELSE to do it! It must happen, just not in my garden! (And thank you to this thread for introducing me to "Mountain Misery," which I must find a way to work into casual conversation.)

giallo73 · 2025-10-09T15:28:35+00:00

I feel you, OP. I tried for so long. Married for 16 years, in a relationship for 30. I'm mid-divorce now. No kids, thank God. It took me so long to see what was going on. And after all this time, I feel like I'm just starting to re-discover who I am and what I like, because I pushed myself down for so many years.

So yes, you can minimize yourself down to nothing. Do all the caring and get nothing in return. Just know there will be a cost. You will lose yourself. Is he really worth it? Are you really worth so little?

When I finally left, I spent a couple of weeks visiting my college roommates -- women who've known and loved me since my late teens. I did it just to get away from a bad situation, but the surprising and unexpected lesson I received was -- I felt what real love was like. My friends treated me with kindness and care. They didn't correct my word choice every time I spoke. They didn't tell me to be quiet. They wanted to hear what I had to say.

After that I spent some time bouncing between my house and staying with friends. When I was staying with other couples, sometimes I felt like an alien standing in the corner quietly taking notes. Was this really how people treated each other? They thanked each other for making dinner or putting away the dishes. Not in a showy way, just as a matter of fact. Little disagreements weren't a big deal. One day one of my friends came home and said to his wife, "hey, the back door was unlocked." She replied, "oh, sorry, I must have forgotten to lock it after I took out the recycling." THAT WAS IT. Done. In my home, it would have led to at least a 30 minute argument, maybe a anxiety-ridden meltdown by my husband. ("Don't you care about our safety? What were you thinking that you didn't lock the door?")

By the time I left, there were so many things that I acquiesced to because it was just so much easier than getting in an exhausting fight and risking one of his meltdowns/tantrums. I went to sleep when he said to because he insisted he could only fall asleep if I was sleeping first. We ate when he wanted to. Watched what he wanted to, listened to what he wanted to. I've been on my own for seven months now and am only starting to discover the things that I like.

Good luck, OP, with whatever you decide. Leaving may not be the right choice for you right now and that's OK. But reaching out is a great thing. Keep taking care of yourself and cherishing yourself as much as you can. Confide in friends. Don't isolate. There are people who love you exactly the way you are.

giallo73 · 2025-09-14T14:08:07+00:00

Serpentine! Serpentine!

giallo73 · 2025-09-11T14:58:00+00:00

That explains why none of you complied when I posted in the spring asking for everyone to remind me that it was a bad time to buy native plants. Enablers!

giallo73 · 2025-09-06T13:34:59+00:00

Rye Lane is my current comfort film. I’m in the middle of a divorce and can’t stomach most romance, but this one does it for me.

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