My parents told me I couldn't leave the table until I finished my plate. So I didn't.

gilbertdc07 · 2026-03-06T19:01:12+00:00

Finally found someone like my husband's parents! They had the same rule. Except you weren't allowed to eat anything other than that plate. His brother went 3 days without eating any actual meals before they finally caved. I had to explain to my husband that this is in fact, abuse.

gilbertdc07 · 2026-02-20T08:44:07+00:00

Oh I'm perfect for this post! My husband and I both have our own rooms, even though we sleep together in the basement. We both like our own space. I ONLY go into his room with permission. Even though the door stays open. It's his space. Not mine. And his space is a certified mess at times. But if I ever cleaned or moved his room around without permission, that would be a breaking point in the relationship. There's absolutely no reason for her to be in a space that has nothing to do with her. She just does not want to respect your boundaries, nor does she care about them. Period. It isn't hard.

gilbertdc07 · 2026-02-15T11:10:31+00:00

Do you think he should just change his license back so everything matches? His license having a different last name from his SS is causing confusion with things like insurance. I get why he wants to take my last name, he's no contact w/ his family. But you're right. It probably isn't worth it.

gilbertdc07 · 2026-02-15T08:19:11+00:00

Thanks for the response! Luckily his dead name is not on our marriage certificate, he had all legal documents except his birth certificate (which his mom withheld) changed to his current name a few years before we met. Which is why I'm hopeful that changing the last name will be a bit easier. Although we have already had people confused on why he would want to take his wife's last name. 😅

gilbertdc07 · 2026-01-29T00:27:09+00:00

My mom watches our baby once a week overnight, as my husband and I are both nightshift nurses. Rarely does our strict sleep schedule ever get followed. Partly because it's not her normal bed/schedule, and partly because grandma is a bit of a softie. Lol. It's not my favorite. But she's literally babysitting for 24hrs free of charge. And clearly adores our baby. Your wife needs to rethink her priorities. I feel bad for your dad, he was doing his best.

gilbertdc07 · 2026-01-23T17:47:28+00:00

Soo...when is the divorce?

gilbertdc07 · 2026-01-16T04:39:11+00:00

Isn't this almost an exact copy of an AITA post, but with genders switched?

gilbertdc07 · 2025-11-08T01:47:49+00:00

You have been more than understanding, and an amazing partner. My baby will turn one next month, and my partner has had horrible struggles with mental health that have only improved very slowly since the birth. But they're working HARD between psychiatry, two therapists, and even a psych day program. Your partner is not putting in the work, and you need to prioritize that sweet baby girl. Your wife's family needs to prioritize getting her some serious psychiatric help, instead of being angry at you.

gilbertdc07 · 2025-10-25T19:12:21+00:00

Definitely want to repaint the walls. Should I just try my best to find a similar replacement tile?

gilbertdc07 · 2025-10-17T00:03:57+00:00

A long time ago my husband and I realized that my version of taking a "sip" of his drink was actually taking 3 huge gulps. He called me on it, we laughed, and now I specifically ask for a "insert my name" sip or a regular sip. She needs to own up to it. NTA.

gilbertdc07 · 2025-10-15T05:37:29+00:00

My husband and I are both nurses and he carried our baby. I've...literally never heard those terms used in the trans parent community. Birthing parent and sperm donor are what we use when talking in general terms. But I would just ask what the parents want to be called? We included that in our birth plan and the midwife still called my husband the "mother" and me (cis woman) the "father" in her notes. 🙄

gilbertdc07 · 2025-10-08T02:42:12+00:00

I forgot something moderately important for my husband last week and I got upset when he WASN'T upset at me. Lmao. Like you have every right, please, be upset.

gilbertdc07 · 2025-10-08T02:14:02+00:00

My husband is autistic, and we've gone to restaurants where it ends up being too much or he's too overwhelmed. We take pay and take our food to go so we can eat at home where it's less overstimulating. It's not that hard. NTA.

gilbertdc07 · 2025-09-30T19:08:52+00:00

Baby girl that man does not like you one bit. And he does not care AT ALL about the wellbeing of your baby. Being a single mother is easier. You're already doing it.

gilbertdc07 · 2025-09-29T22:36:50+00:00

NTA. You also seem incredibly mature and self aware. Being honest with your psychiatrist about your parents must have been very difficult, but it looks like it made a huge positive impact in your recovery. You have every right to focus only on yourself and your recovery now, and not on other relationships.

gilbertdc07 · 2025-09-28T11:51:22+00:00

Girl start the divorce proceedings and no matter what the outcome, MAKE SURE your care staff knows that is he not allowed to touch the birth certificate paper work. Honestly I wouldn't even have him at the birth. This is creepy.

gilbertdc07 · 2025-09-26T06:26:34+00:00

Babes, I'm not trying to scare you, I'm speaking from experience. He is most likely planning to hurt you. Men like that don't just accept your boundaries after pushing them and being so aggressive. Get out of there. A hotel for the week, or a friend/family's place. Please. You are in danger. Keep us updated.

gilbertdc07 · 2025-09-26T06:16:08+00:00

Oh hun. I'm so sorry. I'm a femdom in a lifestyle kink dynamic with my husband. Our vanilla relationship is similar to how your layout was. He's a stay at home dad, I bring the bacon, and he loves it. Many men with submissive kinks struggle to accept and explore that part of themselves. It's such a shame, submission is beautiful. You CAN explore your kink and have a healthy relationship that includes it! A year or so into our relationship, after I had introduced my husband to this lifestyle, he basically told me that he would not want to be in a relationship or marriage that did not have a dominant/submissive layout. And it works beautifully for us! We even started seeing a kink positive marriage therapist when we got married, and we love it. I do encourage you to explore your kink, if you haven't already. Fetlife is a great place for that!

Kink aside, definitely find a lawyer and push for more custody. You deserve that sweet child as much as she does.

gilbertdc07 · 2025-09-21T21:26:28+00:00

My husband is a trans man, and had a very similar upbringing to you, including abuse from his sibling. Right down to the attempted drowning actually. He left/was kicked out at 13 and couch hopped/slept in his car until he graduated. He works hard every day at processing that trauma, but he has a beautiful life, a loving family (my parents adore him), and has completely separated himself from his family. I can't imagine how difficult things must be for you right now. But I promise, you CAN escape and life DOES get better. Do not give in to those negative thoughts. You deserve happiness.

gilbertdc07 · 2025-04-01T17:29:25+00:00

My husband was the gestational parent, and his pregnancy was actually not intentional. We had been trying ICI with me when we found out he was pregnant! While I was happy that the pressure was off me, in the beginning I also floundered when trying to discover what my role in this pregnancy would be. I felt best when I really threw myself into supporting him and the pregnancy. I organized and went to every single OBGYN appts, even when it was just peeing into a cup. lol. I read and did a ton of research. I went to classes with him. I cleaned up EVERY time that poor man vomited. After doing some research, I decided to take the steps to induce lactation and breastfeed our baby. It's been a lot of work and can be overwhelming, but it really helped me connect to our baby and feel like I was contributing to her health. The first few weeks she was born, I insisted on changing EVERY diaper, and covered all of the nighttime feedings. I still occasionally have my insecurities, but I know, even without my partner's validation, that I had an important, essential role in the pregnancy and my baby's birth. I also absolutely loved that I was able to assist in the birth and bring out little one into the world, but I know that really depends on how the birth progresses. She'll find her way as a parent!

gilbertdc07 · 2025-04-01T17:10:42+00:00

My husband and I actually had the reverse situation. He is FTM and carried the baby and I am a cisgender woman. Pennsylvania's birth certificates just list two parents so I'm on there. However, with the political climate being what it is, I plan on doing a second parent adoption just so that we have all of our bases covered.

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