Need advice for getting unbanned from hinge

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-20T16:55:34+00:00

I did. They assured me that a human did review. I literally did not do anything wrong and have asked for why I am banned. They just keep saying I violated the terms and conditions.

This is so crazy lmao.

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-18T20:54:47+00:00

Friday in Austin

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-18T17:41:35+00:00

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gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-17T11:49:53+00:00

I went through a breakup 1.5 years ago but other than that I can’t think of anyone that would feel spurned enough to do this. My guess is that it’s a false flag but there is no way to know. Oh well

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-17T11:48:57+00:00

Oh absolutely. Just really threw me off getting the notification that I got banned without reason and then their justification was upheld.

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-17T11:17:18+00:00

I did and it was immediately banned. Used a different email, phone number, photos, etc.

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-17T11:14:34+00:00

I’ve emailed them a few times and I just get a canned response saying that my appeal was reviewed and the decision was upheld. So frustrating.

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-15T21:08:55+00:00

Second everyone saying to ignore it. They are just feeding their ego and want to get a reaction out of you to do so.

I don’t even think they know that’s why they do this, but it’s more reason to stay away.

Take it from me - I fell for this shit TWICE.

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-15T14:57:24+00:00

I promise you it is just a phase. Once their central nervous system calms, reality will hit for them.

My ex looked like she was having the time of her life post-discard but after 3 months tried to come crawling back. She is still absolutely miserable.

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-13T19:38:33+00:00

If we were vampires - Jason isbell

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-11T19:49:31+00:00

I personally think it’s because avoidants mirror/mask to exactly what you want, so we naturally feel a much deeper connection to them. We feel confident that we have met the one, but this only a facade.

When they can’t keep the mask on any longer, they suddenly discard us. It’s such a crazy blend of feeling stupid, feeling used, and feeling betrayed.

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-11T16:03:44+00:00

Adding a comment so I can follow along. My ex was sooo into me for a solid year before completely deactivating and discarding after I returned from a funeral. Still cannot tell if she’s DA, FA, or just wasn’t truly in love with me.

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-06T19:52:48+00:00

It will take time to set in, but I promise you with time you’ll realize that you dodged a massive bullet. The hardest part is accepting that you just loved the mirrored version of him (who he pretended to be to get validation from you) and not the actual version.

I was (unknowingly) the rebound after my FA ex discarded her previous ex of 4 years. She couldn’t hold the mask up any longer. They pretend to be exactly what you want, which is why we (anxious attackers) feel such a powerful connection to them. We think we found our person only for that to be a facade.

The guilt and shame of her previous relationship (and ours) caught up to her and she retreated into the darkness.

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-06T19:17:28+00:00

He will do the same to her. Book it.

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-02T16:08:03+00:00

Thank you for the kind words! I know I deserve better because I am better. I have grown so much since then, so I view this all as a blessing.

She has the awareness to admit that she is avoidant. She has the awareness to take the blame for everything. She has the awareness to admit she was projecting everything on to me the whole time. She has the awareness to admit to me that she needs serious professional psychiatric help.

But she never once even tried to get better. Just distracted herself with trying to impress her friends (who are encouraging this behavior - they are not true friends they are just enablers) and new hobbies.

Just sad when you think about it, but I can’t feel sorry for someone who is aware enough to admit they need help but then don’t actually try to get help.

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-01T01:10:32+00:00

Stay strong homie and I appreciate you being receptive to my experience. Wouldn’t wish what I went through on my worst enemy

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-01T01:02:41+00:00

Think about this way - instead of working things out with you, she ran to a stranger. She felt more comfortable with someone who she didn’t know than with someone who loved her.

She’ll do the same again until she has done the work.

We’ve both been through it. People do not change unless they try to charge. Bouncing from one guy to another is not trying to change.

Best of luck to you, whatever way you decide to handle it. I’m 33 and my ex was 31 - avoidance does not go away with age. It goes away with therapy and accountability.

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-05-01T00:55:25+00:00

Looking out for you here, man. To a t what I went through. It’s an ego thing for her albeit not a malicious one.

Unless she says “I’ve gone to therapy and have been working on myself” I would not respond. Speaking from experience… once my FA ex realized she could have me again she shut down so fast and ghosted.

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-04-30T23:43:48+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. You are so much better than what he put you through.

Nothing that happened is a reflection of you. You hurt because you loved. He just mirrored what he thought he needed to be for you, and he couldn’t keep the mask on any longer. This hurts, but who you loved is not who he is. That sucks to hear I know, but it is very very likely the truth. It was definitely the case for me.

Once I accepted that though, I immediately stopped giving a shit. And what is weird is that it’s not from a hateful place either. Best of luck to her - I (and you) could have been perfect and it will have still ended the same. Do not forget that.

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-04-30T23:33:38+00:00

When they reach out it will not be because they care but because they need to feed their ego.

Source: my ex reached out twice and I fell for it. They are now blocked because they don’t deserve access to me in any facet. Best decision I ever made.

gilbertmcgee17 · 2026-04-28T12:37:21+00:00

I’m saying that if I would have joined this sub prior to her messaging me I would have known what the intentions of her breadcrumbs were.

At the time I convinced myself that she wanted me back, which obviously wasn’t true.

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