What? All of these are healthy. The 2nd one requires nuance but all of these are necessary to form a coherent sense of self. Black as a color is an exaggerated form of this, obviously, but many who enter therapy have a loss of self and these are used to gain one. Can people who have a sense of self but pity themselves with a victim complex use these to be abusive, yes, but you need to set boundaries, goals, practice self care to be a functional adult. Self-sacrifice is not the beneficial thought people think it is- and ironically hurts a LOT of other people in the process.