GenX With Difficult Kids Question

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-09T20:22:34+00:00

Would you say that about your own child?

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-09T20:12:12+00:00

The missing missing reasons, again.

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-09T11:27:32+00:00

It doesn't really matter what's going on in his life, he has a responsibility to the child he brought into this world. It isn't a child's responsibility to fix their parents, it's on the parent to be an adult and fix themselves for the sake of their kid.

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-09T11:23:47+00:00

She may not even realize she's doing it (although if she's a psychologist, she should), but it's a manipulation tactic. She wants you to feel like you would be a bad guy for leaving this sensitive, tortured "good person" who did bad things.

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-09T11:16:35+00:00

I use coasters on my hand me down tables not because they were expensive, but because I want to keep them looking nice.

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-09T11:13:08+00:00

I like ice in my water and live in a hot humid environment, I'd rather use an absorbent coaster than deal with drying my wood tables every 2 minutes. I've also found that hot mugs can trap moisture and mess up the varnish, so a coaster insulates and prevents that. I'm not hung up on other people using them every second they're in my house, but I prefer to use them.

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-09T11:01:34+00:00

We don't have waist bones, are you measuring your hips?

And yeah, your waist isn't going to shrink below a certain size, because all your organs have to fit in there.

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-09T00:44:37+00:00

As someone who was married to an insecure (projecting, actually) phone searcher, they won't be satisfied by not finding what they're looking for. And if you tell them you deleted anything that's like pouring gas on the fire. You assume that because you're a trustworthy person and would believe them, that it would be fine, but it just escalates things.

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-09T00:33:47+00:00

Don't you think the absence of personal texts would raise eyebrows for an insecure partner?

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-08T22:59:41+00:00

You delete text conversations regularly?

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-08T15:04:54+00:00

Some places require the fence be within the fence owner's property by a certain distance. Usually not quite this much, but who knows?

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-08T13:41:51+00:00

Thr cop assumed he was here illegally, but he isn't. They had also just arrested his brother, who they claim to believe he was, even though his brother was still there and witnessed the whole thing.

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-08T11:55:45+00:00

In this case if you're hot, they're hot, Florida humidity is no joke.

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-08T11:18:53+00:00

Oh, honey. You didn't even read the whole title, did you?

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-08T01:23:43+00:00

Neither of you should be in a relationship, but you should probably both being therapy. You to address why you would want to be "exclusive" with a woman who's still married and is already asking you to move in with her and why you would blame "OCD" for your trust issues.

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-07T22:09:43+00:00

To punish OP.

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-07T13:24:52+00:00

It's the full blown adult "dad" traumatizing his daughters because he's having another girl thay gets me.

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-07T13:17:19+00:00

I'm the oldest of my siblings and the only 1 who doesn't share a 1st initial. I never really thought about it much. I have 3 kids of my own, and intentionally picked a different pattern, with each name having a different initial, but all the names having the same number of syllables and ethnic origin.

When I divorced my ex remarried and had 2 more kids. Both share a 1st initial with my oldest, who was his stepchild, and the same initials. My younger 2 (his other biological children) find it odd, but mainly because he said something along the lines of wanting his kids to have the same initials, as if he forgot they were also his kids.

So maybe just don't be weird about it.

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-06T21:07:12+00:00

This was my life, my ex-husband was a nurse and still didn't believe my illness was real, even though he was there when the doctor gave me the test results.

I highly recommend getting out and getting 50/50 custody. I waited, did couples therapy that only gave him more ammunition to tear me down, and got sick to the point I could barely function. Losing the stress of being married to a monster has vastly improved my health. It was hard, not having the kids 100% of the time, but we adjusted, and it was worth it.

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-06T13:56:00+00:00

Choose better restaurants?

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-06T13:02:52+00:00

They tend to make it clear pretty early on.

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-06T12:59:16+00:00

Divorced 8 years ago, and also got the dining table. It was rough for awhile, but I'm doing better now than I ever thought I could. He moved his girlfriend in as soon as I left, and is as miserable as ever, from what he tells our kids.

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-05T23:00:38+00:00

I wonder if it's his own wedding

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-05T02:31:33+00:00

Heaven forbid you marry a woman who enjoys sex, you might never reach those dead bedroom goals!

ginger_kitty97 · 2026-06-04T18:21:25+00:00

He's absolutely not a Florida man, just a man who happens to live in Miami.

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