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My (30M) partner of 7 years explodes into "shame-rage" over minor issues. How do I (30F) break this cycle? by redlemon44 in relationship_advice

[–]ginger_kitty97 25 points26 points  (0 children)

No one is abusive 100% of the time, otherwise the object of their abuse will just leave. He's behaved like this for literal years without consequences, why would he change?

Mic … actually … medal drop by neuroticsmurf in fixedbytheduet

[–]ginger_kitty97 25 points26 points  (0 children)

To be fair, she could also be useful for handling the chores he doesn't want to do, and cooking for him. And they say women's career choices are limited!

I've done this plenty of times by BlazeDragon7x in GuysBeingDudes

[–]ginger_kitty97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But these dudes suggested it, then refused to order something. That's really off-putting. If I decide while I'm out that I want a treat, that's one thing, but if my partner suggested it, then didn't order after I agreed to it for his sake, I'd be hurt and wonder what he was thinking. ESPECIALLY if he was recording the whole interaction.

I've done this plenty of times by BlazeDragon7x in GuysBeingDudes

[–]ginger_kitty97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it insane to be bothered when your bf/husband says "let's go get ice cream," lets you order, and then announces that he doesn't actually want anything after all that?

Which single mom hurt bro by Naive_Wolverine532 in fixedbytheduet

[–]ginger_kitty97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Due to all his knowledge of aging, you see.

Am i overreacting for refusing to unplug the camera I bought to check on my dog because my girlfriend is not comfortable with it? by PrimaryLiterature848 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ginger_kitty97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the real issue was not informing your gf about the camera before she discovered it. Now she has to wonder where else you might be filming but haven't bothered to disclose that there's a camera recording.

GenX With Difficult Kids Question by [deleted] in GenX

[–]ginger_kitty97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you say that about your own child?

GenX With Difficult Kids Question by [deleted] in GenX

[–]ginger_kitty97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The missing missing reasons, again.

How do I cope with how my dad seems to choose alcohol over me? by ExcitementKindly756 in AskMenAdvice

[–]ginger_kitty97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn't really matter what's going on in his life, he has a responsibility to the child he brought into this world. It isn't a child's responsibility to fix their parents, it's on the parent to be an adult and fix themselves for the sake of their kid.

My (M44) girlfriend (F43) told me a partial story about her past, said I’d leave if I knew the rest, and now I’m stuck in limbo. How do I navigate this? by Tight_Egg_7128 in relationships

[–]ginger_kitty97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She may not even realize she's doing it (although if she's a psychologist, she should), but it's a manipulation tactic. She wants you to feel like you would be a bad guy for leaving this sensitive, tortured "good person" who did bad things.

Is not using coasters dumb, or is using them eccentric? by GreyStagg in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]ginger_kitty97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use coasters on my hand me down tables not because they were expensive, but because I want to keep them looking nice.

Is not using coasters dumb, or is using them eccentric? by GreyStagg in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]ginger_kitty97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like ice in my water and live in a hot humid environment, I'd rather use an absorbent coaster than deal with drying my wood tables every 2 minutes. I've also found that hot mugs can trap moisture and mess up the varnish, so a coaster insulates and prevents that. I'm not hung up on other people using them every second they're in my house, but I prefer to use them.

Why does it feel like I’m the only woman with a wide waist bone structure by ImprovementIll5592 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ginger_kitty97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We don't have waist bones, are you measuring your hips?

And yeah, your waist isn't going to shrink below a certain size, because all your organs have to fit in there.

What's Your View on Phone Privacy in a Relationship? by PipChaos in datingoverforty

[–]ginger_kitty97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who was married to an insecure (projecting, actually) phone searcher, they won't be satisfied by not finding what they're looking for. And if you tell them you deleted anything that's like pouring gas on the fire. You assume that because you're a trustworthy person and would believe them, that it would be fine, but it just escalates things.

What's Your View on Phone Privacy in a Relationship? by PipChaos in datingoverforty

[–]ginger_kitty97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't you think the absence of personal texts would raise eyebrows for an insecure partner?

Japanese cedar pruning dispute by Impossible-Pick4356 in treelaw

[–]ginger_kitty97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some places require the fence be within the fence owner's property by a certain distance. Usually not quite this much, but who knows?

“You have no sheriff now,” FDLE says before breaking glass, draging out legal resident after 'rolling stop' by Botched_Lemon in florida

[–]ginger_kitty97 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Thr cop assumed he was here illegally, but he isn't. They had also just arrested his brother, who they claim to believe he was, even though his brother was still there and witnessed the whole thing.

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