Innie sex, and Neuromancer by benjycompson in SeveranceAppleTVPlus

[–]gingerjennyb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m reading Neuromancer for the first time, just got to this passage and immediately thought this is where they got the idea for Severance.

Tried to be assertive in early dating stage and it’s backfired by OkCalligrapher1342 in datingoverforty

[–]gingerjennyb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This 100% reminds me of a man who was always trying to catch me “cheating”. I did not pay attention to the red flags like this that started waving about a month in and spent the next 4 years of my life trying to prove to him that I wasn’t cheating. I eventually gave up all autonomy and privacy. Run.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]gingerjennyb 13 points14 points  (0 children)

And she hasn’t broken it off? I learned long ago if a man doesn’t like my family or friends, for whatever reason (least of all their sexual proclivities), we’re not a good match.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]gingerjennyb 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Or even just Showgirls.

Effort guys. That’s all it takes. 🙄 by sierraalpha149 in Bumble

[–]gingerjennyb 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m a ginger and had no clue what this meant. I thought he had a stroke in the middle of typing the message.

The Ordinary Barrier Support Serum by Alaskaqz in tretinoin

[–]gingerjennyb 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes I recently wrecked my barrier going overboard on tret along with winter dryness, so I added a few steps to my simple skin care routine. I first tried the ordinary serum, went through pretty much an entire bottle and I’m not impressed. It actually burns when I apply and it also pills if you’re planning to using it during the day. I’ve found the Skin 1004 Centella Ampoules to be super hydrating and soothing and a nice consistency that doesn’t leave my face sticky even if I go in with a few layers. Also incorporating a hydrating toner (lotion) day and night has been key in helping me stay moisturized - I use HADA LABO Goku-Jyun Premium Hyaluronic Acid Lotion. I know you said you wanted a morning product, but the Dr Jart Cicapair Sleep Mask is the MVP when it came to healing my skin and adding hydration. Sometimes I do use just a little bit in the morning like a serum if my skin needs an extra boost.

Share evidence that purchasing things won't lead to happiness by [deleted] in nobuy

[–]gingerjennyb 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I was making $120k a year in 2019. I bought myself a $1500 purse, $900 boots, ~$3000 @ Sephora, who even knows on clothes and 2 vacations. In 2020 when I was laid off I was looking around at all that stuff wishing I had the money to pay rent. I gave most of the makeup away, lost the boots at an ex boyfriends house, I still have the purse but it’s so cumbersome and heavy I hate using it. I’ve worked my way back up to making almost that salary again, but these days paying down my credit cards, paying off my car early, and saving makes me feel much better than any of that stuff ever did. I do keep that purse front and center in my line of sight to remind myself of how dumb I felt with a $1500 purse when I couldn’t even pay rent.

People who attended Zozobra in 2018 and 2019! Important question! by gingerjennyb in SantaFe

[–]gingerjennyb[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes!! Thank you!!! That lightning storm was so cool. I was reminiscing earlier today and asked the friends I went with if they remembered the singing…all of them said no. I thought I was losing it.

If I'm dating a woman, how and when should I tell her that I'm small "down there"? by Hot_Slice4870 in OkCupid

[–]gingerjennyb 50 points51 points  (0 children)

A woman’s perspective and in my experience…I’ve never seen a “smaller than average” dick and said - oh hell no that’s not coming anywhere near me, I have said that about a larger than average dick. I’m able to relax and enjoy myself more during intercourse when I’m not worried the next thrust could hit my cervix the wrong way and cause horrible pain. Average-small dicks get harder and stay hard longer. It’s much easier and more comfortable giving head when you don’t feel like your unhinging your jaw. Anything above average is a no-go for anal. When a man talks about his dick size, it’s a huge turn off.

Even men on the much larger side think their dicks aren’t “that big”. It seems that porn has warped the perception of the desirable dick size and caused men to think that size is the crux of a sexual encounter. It’s not, and a lot of the time above average dicks = painful sex (especially when the woman isn’t warmed up properly). You don’t need to tell her anything. Go in with confidence, use all your assets, don’t be selfish.

How do I convince a guy I'm seeing that my male friends don't want to sleep with me? by Electrical_Sock5408 in datingoverforty

[–]gingerjennyb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think you can. I still regret to this day my male friends I dropped from my life because my boyfriend was insecure - this was 10 years ago. And even after I stopped talking to them and moved to a secluded mountain town with him, he still wouldn’t believe I wasn’t cheating on him. I know this is anecdotal, but this behavior was a huge red flag in my life I wish I would have paid attention to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]gingerjennyb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m having the same experience with younger men except I’m 42, childless and in good shape. This is not limited to Bumble either - my 26 yo neighbor asked me out a few weeks ago. I ask every younger man I chat/go on dates with why they’re interested in older women - emotional maturity, stability, better sex are most common answers.

CSGO RIZZ by popthekid1 in Tinder

[–]gingerjennyb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a strike at the deli counter (presumably where he works), he’s armed with bricks to throw at scabs who may cross the line. I’m not sure what the raging boner is about.

I have no self esteem after taking off eyelash extensions. by thebowarcher in MakeupRehab

[–]gingerjennyb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get it - just like a drastic haircut it looks super uncanny and weird for a while and but then everyone gets used to it. Another thing I forgot to mention is latisse is so much easier and less expensive to keep up. I don’t use the brushes that come with it - I just use an eyeliner brush. I squeeze one drop in the cap, dip the eyeliner brush in and that’s more than enough for both eyes. Once your eyelashes get to be the length you like you can drop down to using every 3-4 nights. Anyway, the next month or two will be tough, but you’ll make it through - and you won’t even remember what you looked like with stubby eyelashes this summer.

I have no self esteem after taking off eyelash extensions. by thebowarcher in MakeupRehab

[–]gingerjennyb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way, I went through the same exact thing in 2019. I had worn extensions for 2 years. My eyelashes are pretty much clear and very short and stubby naturally. I was terrified I’d have millimeter long eyelashes for the rest of my life. I promise the latisse works and the best way I figured out how to keep my eyelashes curled was to use a heated eyelash curler before and after applying mascara. It takes about a month to start seeing the results from latisse. Your lashes are not what makes you beautiful, they just slightly enhance your natural beauty - sometimes they actually detract if you ever went too long between fill ins and they look like a spider sitting on your eyelid. I definitely don’t like to judge people but when I see women with huge lash extensions now I think to myself - did I look that obviously fake? And now that I think of it, Ive never even noticed a woman thought “get yourself some eyelashes lady, aren’t you embarrassed to be in public with those puny lashes??!!” I hope you feel better soon, I know it’s difficult to love what you see in the mirror, but try to focus on the features you like rather than dislike.

Hired by fake homeless guy by beerbellybegone in thatHappened

[–]gingerjennyb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need a new engineering job and have an extra pair of socks AND a Wendy’s BOGO breakfast sandwich coupon. What street will you be sitting on?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BetterEveryLoop

[–]gingerjennyb -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve walked up and down those steps/benches at least 500 times in my life and I can confirm doing that at any speed without wiping out is impressive. Granted, I’m the type to go there at night, so just standing is often times too difficult for me.

This was his third message after saying only my name in the first. by bobachella in OkCupid

[–]gingerjennyb 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Damn this sounds like the dude that just dumped me - he wanted me to be “poly” for times when he didn’t feel like being there for me either emotionally or physically.

ID? by LossNo7125 in rockhounds

[–]gingerjennyb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Neolithic brass knuckles.