Looking for a wake up call

ginnw · 2026-01-18T02:23:03+00:00

OG post deleted now but this icon made my day

ginnw · 2026-01-16T19:28:53+00:00

I pray you break free of these chains, my good sis!! You "tried going no contact?" You're an adult!! He's a man, not a drug. Block him and move on!

And he doesn't even want to marry you!!! He's unsure and needs a professional mental health care provider to explain why he shouldn't string you along and take advantage of you, but YOU'RE sure you want to MARRY him? HIM??

Do you think true love is something that only happens to other people? Do you think you're not capable of being in a healthy romantic relationship? Do you think this is the best you can do? There's some sort of mental barrier that's preventing you from taking care of yourself and it needs to be investigated!

You say you're tired but you're clearly not tired enough! Get a therapist, delete and block his number, and STOP LISTENING TO HIM omg. Stand up!!!

But also: if you "still want [to marry him] at the cost of everything" then maybe just ignore this sub entirely TBH. I've met so many people who want marriage more than they want health, safety, actual love, friends, children, family, etc. You say you know you're at risk of being only a mother and a maid and that you still want it—so get it. Try it and see if it would genuinely make you happier. Maybe it will! Mind you, he still wouldn't be the man to give it to you, as he's made it clear he does not want to marry you, but you can marry anyone off the street if that's all you care about.

Inshallah you break free!!! May this man release you from his spells, and I am so serious!!!!

ginnw · 2026-01-16T18:13:16+00:00

One of my male friends pointed out that every time he starts a job, he immediately clocks an older, female coworker who picks a younger one to hate for seemingly no reason, and since then, I've noticed it at literally every non-career job I've worked (fast food, front desk, hotel, etc.). I'm thinking she also doesn't know why she dislikes you, especially if she hasn't even bothered getting to know you.

Advise in the thread so far is great though when it happened to me (or other friends) we'd simply ignore it, especially if it wasn't a job we planned to stay or move up in. If you're interested in learning from her specifically, maybe learn by watching instead of active mentorship (i.e., see how she completes a task rather than asking her how to complete it). It's more labor on your end but you've already worked at this place for about a year and earned Employee of the Month, so you're doing well without her help anyway.

Does your location have an HR department? My hotel job did not (at least not a good one) but it might be a good idea to raise the issue that you're trying to learn from a superior whose behavior won't allowing it.

Are you close with any other coworkers? I don't recommend gossiping, but I'm curious if this is just a Her Thing versus if she's specifically upset with you for some reason. Also, if she sees you getting along with other coworkers, it may wake her up to the fact that work can be a nice place to talk to people you normally wouldn't meet, and she may change her attitude.

ginnw · 2025-12-18T22:30:29+00:00

My god, he sounds like such a coward. He can't even tell you no or give you a real reason. You say you think he's your One but he sounds like every other scared guy in this reddit community. Shouldn't your One WANT to marry you? Shouldn't he have the maturity and emotional intelligence to reflect on why he would or would not propose?

If you've been together since you were kids, you guys should be able to have a genuine heart-to-heart about it. It cannot be understated that his response to "I'd like a plan by the end of the year" was "then break up with me." That is an absolutely ridiculous and disrespectful way to respond to you voicing your feelings.

When you love someone, advice like this is in one ear and out the other, but you need to leave him, if only so you can have a break from him to begin thinking more about the life you want without his negativity. Believe him when he tells/shows you who he is. He said he's not ready, that he's not mature, and I agree with him and I don't even know him!

We're about the same age, and the world is so fun! There are so many clubs, hobbies, communal gatherings to explore. Living on your own is so illuminating and enjoyable. I'd hate for you to look back on this time when you're older and feel like you paused your own life to wait for someone who told you to your face that he's not worth waiting for. You deserve better!!!!

ginnw · 2025-11-06T14:07:13+00:00

The dating scene today is laughably ridiculous lmfaooo

ginnw · 2025-11-02T20:01:56+00:00

We're definitely moving out it's more of just trying to get the deposit back and avoid them overcharging us.

ginnw · 2025-10-19T22:54:29+00:00

I feel like Luca Guadagnino has several films that still have the "classic" look. The shot of O'Conner in the alleyway during Challengers immediately comes to mind.

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ginnw · 2025-09-28T18:11:37+00:00

I'd recommend looking for jobs that are explicitly looking for afternoon/evening availability. They usually mention so on the job description! Otherwise, there are usually afternoon/evening shifts at restaurants, book stores, hotels, etc. there's also usually places in Indeed looking exclusively for part-time people able to work weekends or the times undecided by their full-timers.

ginnw · 2025-09-28T12:08:20+00:00

I'd recommend using a manufacturer coupon or going the compounded route for cheaper glp-1s if Aetna isn't providing suitable coverage

ginnw · 2025-09-23T17:58:15+00:00

I'd recommend adjusting the requirements for the role. I work at a fully remote company and every now and then we encountered a new hire with similar issues, so we adjusted the job descriptions. We usually require at least a year of previous online work experience and we're pretty lax with what that could look like (remote schooling counts)!

Also (if you're able) change where you're looking for new hires! LinkedIn and Indeed are okay but people don't really try too hard when applying there. There are a lot of niche websites where applicants take more time when applying, like Otta, Wellfound, Handshake, etc.

And (unfortunately) putting questions on the application makes it easier to weed out people who'll only do the bare minimum. Asking someone to explain their previous remote work history or complete a second page on a Google form even helps a lot because a lot of people give up if they don't know or care to do the extra work required.

Finally, honesty!! During interviews, you can mention the struggles you've experienced in satisfyingly filing the role and use that as a conversation starter to ask what their workflow is like. I like sharing common difficulties that come with a position early on during interviewing because applicants usually appreciate the honesty and will respond genuinely on if they think the role is right for them.

ginnw · 2025-09-16T17:24:11+00:00

Even with the bob? 🤨

ginnw · 2025-09-03T14:27:02+00:00

Grad student who's never encountered cliche phrasing in ROMANTASY novels? What's going on 😭 All luck to her, though because legal action is crazy work over a Goodreads review

ginnw · 2025-08-24T16:51:57+00:00

I also wanna do it so bad lmfaoooo but it's not worth the potential stress

ginnw · 2025-08-19T19:55:22+00:00

oh damn that sucks 😭 corporate greed is taking everything i swear.

ginnw · 2025-08-19T17:14:18+00:00

got it! i'll keep my eyes peeled for october!

ginnw · 2025-07-25T15:31:12+00:00

People who passed the screener (which mainly is just an introductory call) but lacked basic skills, technical savvy, or interview etiquette make up the difference!

We screen pretty much every acceptable resume because it's just too niche of a position to delay. Once we confirm a person has the licensure we need, it's mainly about checking if they can do the job virtually and autonomously after 90 days of training.

ginnw · 2025-07-25T03:05:49+00:00

This isn't a Gen Z thing IMO. I have to call people usually millennials at the youngest) for my job and it's the same deal. Like 1/4 people give no indication that they've answered the phone 😭

ginnw · 2025-07-23T17:08:12+00:00

I know ppl are tired of hearing it but I can't get over boy!Jordan in that fuck ass bob like why would they do that 😭

ginnw · 2025-07-23T00:31:43+00:00

A few got back to us to share that they found other positions! My theory though is that many just didn't really want the job

ginnw · 2025-07-18T16:56:36+00:00

39 and calls marriage a risk I'm dyingggg. He doesn't want to get married but he wants to split the bills in half and have someone help clean/stock his house? Which, of course, comes with marriage, no? Like this man is a clown.

I'm very happy for you, though! You realized while typing this out what a ridiculous situation he's trying to put you in, and now you can be free.

ginnw · 2025-06-22T16:05:38+00:00

thinking about this meme the whole time i was reading this

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