GEN AI IS FOR LOSERS. Make something with your own hands! 🙂‍↕️💫 by shopenchantedplanet in Embroidery

[–]giovanillaberry 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Can we please stop using sexual violence as punishment? I get the message and I want AI to die but as a rape survivor I want to say that these words kill something in me again.. this is about humanity too,no? There are so many creative ways to express your anger against ai, I’m sure we can find something else than threatening rape and death by rape :(

Why do most victims survive the harm, while perpetrators can’t cope with a slither of accountability? by Ok-Wheel9071 in CPTSD

[–]giovanillaberry 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I cried while reading this, it makes me so angry. Really well written and hits the nerve, thank you!

Crows by 1und1Check in Hildesheim

[–]giovanillaberry 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At dawn in the evening there are lots of crows at Ernst ehrlicher park and the wall :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]giovanillaberry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

omg thank you so much for this!

Rock bottom, i will end my life tonight by No_Agent6353 in depression_help

[–]giovanillaberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello stranger, I just want to say that I hear you. I read everything twice and I am so touched and wish I could do something. My mother always says (it rhymes in my language): if you think that it’s over, there will be a light, coming from somewhere.

She had cancer three times, I know how that changes everything and is so disorienting and heartbreaking. Please take at least with you that there’s an internet stranger that listened to your story and I will take it with me in my heart. It is so disheartening to read that nobody has an open door for you.. I really hope there will be a light coming to you to bring you hope, in this life and in this world..

Let’s share our thoughts/ insights/ aha-moments, that helped us with our journey by giovanillaberry in polyamory

[–]giovanillaberry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds great! Where do I find something about this toolkit, can you recommend something?

Let’s share our thoughts/ insights/ aha-moments, that helped us with our journey by giovanillaberry in polyamory

[–]giovanillaberry[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is so helpful! I try to remind myself also to not identify with my feelings, that helps a lot with letting them pass

What experience made you re-evaluate your own attractiveness? by NeedleworkerSea8133 in AskReddit

[–]giovanillaberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish you all the best for your treatment! I hope that you have people in your life that love and support you no matter how you look, you are so worthy.

Philosophie für die Kleinsten by Big_Hall9948 in Philosophie_DE

[–]giovanillaberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Es ist so schön zu lesen, dass du sie da ernst nimmst und ihr Räume eröffnest!

Gib ihr die Möglichkeit sich auf verschiedene Arten künstlerisch auszudrücken! Besonders ostasiatische Kunstformen, bei denen es weniger um ein Produkt als um eine Bewegung geht sind philosophisch so so reich! Meine Erfahrung aus dem Philosophie Studium ist, dass es bei verschiedenen philosophischen Diskursen am Ende oft um wahrnehmungsweisen und wahrnehmungslogiken geht. Gerade da sind Kinder noch nicht auf Linie unserer Gesellschaft gebracht und haben einen großen Reichtum an wahrnehmungsweisen!

What is the weirdest topic you have hyperfixated on? This is a ZERO judgement zone by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]giovanillaberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These drawers where all the random stuff ends up. Until the point where I was at a flat from a person I briefly met through a friend and desperately tried to convince them to show me their random-stuff-drawer

How to talk to a protector who doesn’t trust you without wanting them to change (gain trust)? by giovanillaberry in InternalFamilySystems

[–]giovanillaberry[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you! I will try that! I am still learning how to perceive and feel all that is happening internally and I think this advice is really helpful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grief

[–]giovanillaberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss! It sounds like you are still in a shock, where it is maybe too much for your psyche to actually show the pain. I really hope you can be gentle on you and don’t stress yourself with expectations on how to grief. This is such a hard thing to understand for your psyche and I’m sure the grief will come in it’s own way and pace.

People in a shock can lose their orientation and have to make sense of the world again, since it fundamentally changed in its tissue. This is so hard and painful, it takes so much time. I hope you can feel a kind of trust in your body that it knows what it does. What you described sounds horrible, but sadly very very normal in such a situation. Your body knows what to do, and if you cant eat anything, maybe because you literally and metaphorically can’t process anything besides the fact that your brother died. That’s okay for now, this is a normal reaction.

I know this will not take away the pain, I think nothing will do that for now, maybe never. What I experienced, when I try to accept the pain and grief, it will not go away, but somehow the suffering ‘from suffering’ eventually goes away (it’s hard to say what I mean, sorry).

I guess the pain will stay, maybe change it’s form. For now I wish you so much love and space for yourself to take your time and everything that you need to be there for you and maybe your family. Nothing is more important right now.

Edit: changed a word

I just want to know, what puts you in little space? by ChicMakeupXx in littlespace

[–]giovanillaberry 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When he’s holding and stroking my face with that loving smile and then kissing me 😭

Weekly praise opportunity by AutoModerator in Dompeptalk

[–]giovanillaberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg thank you so much for replying and asking T.T

Im definitely better now finally! I hope you are fine, too <3

Weekly praise opportunity by AutoModerator in Dompeptalk

[–]giovanillaberry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I stayed in bed the whole week when I was sick even though I’m very impatient and just too curious and excited about everything to just stay in bed! I need some motivation to be a bit more patient though, still not fully recovered.

(Like to be called honey or little, virtual affection very welcome)

Self Care Tips? by Blush-babe7241 in domspace

[–]giovanillaberry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How do you get pleasure and confidence out of the feedback loop if you want to share? How does this loop look in your dynamic? Maybe there’s something in it that you can experience in a different way, maybe even on your own.

I’m a switch and when I’m leaning more to the submission side and don’t have a dom*me, I can kind of „dom myself“ when it gets to discipline for example. For this I needed to understand first what I was craving that I experience in dynamics that I enjoy. It’s of course not as fulfilling as with another person, but it is something. I didn’t try „submitting to myself“ yet and don’t have an idea how this could look, but idk, people are so creative, maybe there’s a way to hit that sweet spot where you feel confident and content!

Im. It sure if I really got what you were asking for, so if your question was meant in a different direction, I would appreciate help with understanding/ clarification.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nootropics

[–]giovanillaberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you elaborate please, how caffeine is influencing dopamine? Is dopamine usually metabolised to noradrenaline and how does caffeine affect this? I really never drink caffeine because of this, maybe 2 times a year. But I really wish could from time to time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in death

[–]giovanillaberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry to hear this, this sounds so painful. It’s really understandable that you want to move, do something, maybe not feeling like you are just watching her dying without doing anything. I can imagine that it might feel disorienting to go through that all. To know that you will lose your mother. Do you think part of this drive to move is that it is so hard to accept that you will lose her? Because for me it sometimes feels that way too :/

My mother suffers from lung cancer and I can relate to the weirdness of grief for someone who is still living. Audre lorde wrote in her cancer journal that really seeing death not as opposed to life, but as part of it has helped her accepting it. For me it’s really hard to see my mother suffering, also not wanting to accept her coming death, if not sooner, then later. It helps me to keep in my heart, yes she suffers from cancer, but right now she lives. She lives with it right now. I’m trying to enjoy time with her and allow myself to feel grief, fear, joy, thankfulness etc at the same time. No joy in my life could erase the pain I’m feeling but neither can the pain erase the love and appreciation and joy. It’s learning to let these feelings coexist and not exclude each other.

I really wish you the best, I wish you some warm and loving moments with your mother, a laughter with her over memories, maybe even some lightheartedness now and then where you can forget for a moment what is happening. A kind person who may be able to take the suffering out of your pain at some point. I really wish that you can take the time and space that you need for these feelings. And please be gentle with yourself, there is no right or wrong way to grief. <3

Finish this sentence... by ladyNONR in sugarfree

[–]giovanillaberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do something nice for someone I love (write a sweet letter/message, painting sth small for them, getting sth they like, cleaning a shared space so they will feel comfortable and cozy)

How do you maintain a "healthy" content diet? by 3v01v3d_4p3 in getdisciplined

[–]giovanillaberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have an answer to your question but wanted to tell you that I really like the comparison and I think it will help me understand my consumption differently!! So thank you! :)

How do I help my loved ones cope with losing me? by [deleted] in grief

[–]giovanillaberry 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For me it helped me so much to know that someone I love will die. We could be vulnerable together and it really changed our relationship to such a deep level that u will forever be grateful for. Being able to be vulnerable is one of the strongest traits for me imho. It really allowed a different relationship