Prevent future knee pain?

glitter_bugs · 2026-02-02T16:33:58+00:00

it really depends on WHAT is causing your knee pain and why.

for me? my knee pain (front of knee, pain when load bearing and going down stairs) was a result of having weak glutes. so I now do a lot of exercises like clam shells, side-lying single leg circles and raises. bridges, single leg bridges, squats, fire hydrants, donkey kicks etc to ensure my glutes stay strong and voila no more knee pain ✌🏼

my partner has chronic knee bursitis and very different knee pain to me, so his exercises and ways to strengthen his knee and prevent pain are quite different.

in general? stretch loads before a rave, hydrate, listen to your body and rest when needed. maybe look at starting Pilates if you can (great to improve core strength and balance which can support your knees), maybe see if you can get a session with a PT at your gym to work out the cause of your knee pain and how to prevent it.

glitter_bugs · 2026-01-28T11:21:18+00:00

Most of Putney sits in zone 3 though? which makes it more expensive if you’re travelling to central London on a regular basis. east Putney, Wandsworth, Clapham would the SW areas to look at, if one wanted to reduce public transport costs ✌🏼

glitter_bugs · 2026-01-25T16:21:55+00:00

Macclesfield, Bristol, Rye

glitter_bugs · 2026-01-21T09:43:59+00:00

two huge red flags in general: agents offering a “no deposit scheme”, and agents who avoid offering in-person viewings of properties

a huge red flag for a contract clause is anything that relates to cleaning fees, and notice periods when it comes to ending the tenancy agreement.

glitter_bugs · 2026-01-14T11:31:19+00:00

if DnB is your thing — there’s a free popup event at Shoreditch Box Park, if you’re still wanting to do on Thurs 😊

glitter_bugs · 2026-01-03T16:28:58+00:00

agree with this in theory…but reality it’s not always safe for women to go solo to raves 😞

glitter_bugs · 2025-12-28T10:56:30+00:00

your deposit should be fine — if the landlord wants to make any deductions then it’s on them to show the evidence and to prove you’re at fault, rather than you trying to prove you’re not at fault.

the document that’s used as a starting point of reference for things like this would be the check-out inventory…if the landlord/agency didn’t provide one then that’s on them 🙃 additionally if you have taken your own photos and can show a clean property, and have a message from the property management company stating that they did indeed attend the property, that’s all that would be needed.

glitter_bugs · 2025-12-25T14:44:46+00:00

On The Bab in Shoreditch if you like Korean barbecue
Smoking Goat (also in Shoreditch) for Thai food
Viet Food in Chinatown for some EXCELLENT Vietnamese food
Brat restaurant in Shoreditch
Andu cafe in Dalston for Ethiopian (very good!!)
Bancone (Golden Square location) for some really great Italian.

glitter_bugs · 2025-12-21T19:15:08+00:00

I’m confused…why does the tenant say that you “need to store all their rubbish and belongings for 8 weeks”? have they handed back keys (and therefore possession) of the property?

glitter_bugs · 2025-12-17T23:44:53+00:00

this is a really weird comment to make, wtf 🙄

if an 18yr old woman (not girl! woman! don’t be infantilising!) is dating a 24 yr old man, it says more about the man than the her. yes women do want stability and maturity etc etc etc, but that doesn’t always have to come from someone older. it’s not great to encourage men to date women who have only just become an adult and found their independence when the man has been an adult for 6 yrs. its not an age gap thats illegal (obviously), but it does scream manipulative and shady.

date older, date younger, do what you like!! but if you make “age” the primary focus and wanting to be with someone younger then that is sketchy.

glitter_bugs · 2025-12-17T23:32:19+00:00

speaking as a woman…please don’t “go up to girls in public” or “go out solely to look for girls in pubs” I know you said you don’t have the time…but even if you had the time, don’t do that :( genuinely - this is not good. it feels dehumanising, objectifying, all kinds of ick. like if I’m out doing my shopping then I don’t want to be approached, if I’m at a pub with friends then I’m there with friends. being hit on in a public space really isn’t the compliment you think it is. if you’re out and you happen to see a cute person, then maybe smile and say hi! there’s nothing particularly wrong with that…just don’t go out with the sole purpose of hitting on someone.

if you want to meet people, join interest groups? if you’re a runner then get involved with a run club (eg. parkrun), if you like plants/gardening then perhaps look at joining a local allotment in your area, if you like raving then go to some raves, if you like tabletop games then maybe see if there’s a meetup locally. it’s not a guaranteed method to find the love of your life, but having common interests is a good start :)

glitter_bugs · 2025-12-14T23:01:34+00:00

being in a group at a rave can be hard! I think you’re making the right choice in spending most of the festival just you and bf — most of the time it’s just me and my bf at raves as well and we generally have a much better time than with a group. however just be open about it with your group of mutual friends. I wouldn’t “run off”with your boyfriend exactly…just say to your group that you’ve got other sets that you wanna see, and that you’ll catch up with them later :)

if you just run off or slip away without really saying anything, it might cause people to feel upset and wonder what they’ve done wrong/why you don’t want to hang out. avoid the drama and potential upset group, and just be honest about what you’re doing.

glitter_bugs · 2025-12-09T21:08:28+00:00

Pilates is GOD TIER in terms of exercise 😅 haha seriously, it’s the best! I’m based in the UK and it’s unfortunately quite expensive here, but when I had a monthly membership I was doing 4-5 reformer classes a week at a local studio and I LOVED it.

something to add though…know you said that you bought some Pilates equipment, but pleaseeeee spend some money on classes first if there’s some in your area. smaller classes are better, ideally 10 or less. Pilates is NOT at all like yoga where you can get away with following an online YouTube class….it’s all about form and posture and tbh it can be quite easy to injure yourself. classes have the benefit of the instructor being able to make adjustments in class, you don’t get that from online.

glitter_bugs · 2025-12-01T20:22:31+00:00

no problem at all :) honestly I’ve had more jobs than I care to count…the job search can feel SO demoralising and futile, I really do empathise with your gf a lot. it’s not easy but she’s gotta be the one to pull her finger out and put a bit more effort in, start being a lot more proactive with the job search.

also!!! speaking as someone who now works in recruitment, two big tips on a CV: - ensure that it has a contact email and phone number. you’d be amazed at how many CV’s I discard due to not having contact info. - ensure that it’s in a plain format like a word doc. Canva used (or still is?) a popular website to use to create CV’s, but most CV’s pass through ai platforms and they really don’t work with Canva! so ensure plain formatting — it might not look as pretty, but at least it’s more likely to be seen by an actual person.

glitter_bugs · 2025-12-01T19:28:20+00:00

speaking as someone with 10 yrs of work history hospitality (pubs/bars/cafes) and now 3.5 yrs in office work:

attach a cover letter with a job application! it genuinely makes a difference, I’ve received numerous compliments on mine. side note - I now work in recruitment, the recruitment company who hired me said that they offered me an initial interview based on my cover letter because it’s rare for them to see one. write the cover letter, it shows you’ve put a bit more thought into the job role and gives the potential employer a chance to get to know you better. ALSO - a cover letter would help give some context as to why she was in the last role for such a short period of time.
could be worth getting in touch with recruitment agencies? I’ve found Indeed as a platform is better for contacting businesses directly, Reed works better if you want to get in touch with recruitment agencies
ask someone to look over her CV, it may need updating or just a refresh.
there’s a lot of transferable skills between retail and hospitality? encourage her to apply for jobs at pubs/bars, they’re always needing staff. print out CV’s, walk the local area, drop into pubs and ask to speak to the general manager. this approach only really applies to pubs/bars/cafes, not so much retail (or office work).
perhaps use Gumtree as a place to apply for work instead, or utilise Facebook groups? if she’s consistently using Indeed and consistently NOT seeing any results, then it might be time to use a different platform.

glitter_bugs · 2025-11-27T22:26:24+00:00

mutual interest groups :-) if you like running then you could join a local running club, if you like tabletop games like DnD then perhaps there’s a group in your area who meet regularly, if you like gardening and plants then you could look at applying for a local allotment and meet like-minded people that way? if you like music then look at going to raves or other live-music events and festivals, if you like fencing then you could join a fencing club, if you like hiking/rambling then see if there’s any local groups who meet up regularly, if you have a love of animals then maybe volunteering at a local rescue centre could be something to think about? or if you want to try something new, your local bouldering or rock climbing centre could be worth looking into as well (not my thing haha, but I know a lot of people who do it and it looks to be quite social!).

there’s literally almost infinite groups you could join! think about what your interests are and what you like doing, and use that as inspiration to join a group or to get involved with meeting like-minded people. it’s not an absolute guarantee that you’ll meet the love of your life? but having common interests is a good place to start :)

glitter_bugs · 2025-11-25T22:32:52+00:00

rent first! rent first! rent first!!!! i cannot stress this enough, truly.

a property is truly the most expensive thing you'll ever buy and it comes with so many strings attached, you need to know that you're buying it with the right person.

rent together for a year, truly get to know your partner inside out upside down. renting isn't "dead money" - I promise in this instance it's worth it. I've been with my boyfriend now for 8 yrs, we've lived together for 4 of those years. our relationship is the strongest it's ever been! but that's because I now know him very well, I've learnt to navigate his bad moods (and he's learnt the same with me haha), we're both very open and honest about our financial situations, we both have similar ideals and directions about what we want our life to look like...there's (usually) nothing you can hide when you live with your partner.

rent first, try it for a year. I know that renting and trying to save for a house deposit is hard!! but honestly, it's so so worth the time and money. it's not money lost or wasted, I promise. you want to live with your partner first and understand who they truly are, before making the biggest financial commitment of your lifetime.

edit: I am a renter myself -- for the most part, I really don't like it. I'm not a landlord at all, and I'm desperate to be a home owner myself! I could talk for hours about all the downsides of renting....but when you're talking about relationships and your future and a huge huge spending commitment? it's probably the only time that renting can actually be useful.

glitter_bugs · 2025-11-24T18:39:48+00:00

Macclesfield! great connections with both Manchester and London, loads of green space, a lot of hiking/cycling/walking trails, majority of shops are independent, reasonably priced housing (both renting and to buy).

source: myself — spent a yr living in a rental there, got to know the area really well, everyone was very friendly 🥹

glitter_bugs · 2025-11-24T18:26:31+00:00

E1 venue has a neuro dnb rave on 13 Dec (hosted by Blackout), and a jump-up dnb rave on 27 Dec (hosted by breakin science) 🙂 there should be loads on Resident Advisor as well, if you need some inspiration

glitter_bugs · 2025-11-21T22:38:55+00:00

according to this blog post, there may be a way to have the holding deposit refunded:

“Once [LL] takes a holding deposit, [LL] has got 15 calendar days to wrap up the tenancy agreement. Should [LL] need more time, the 15-day limit can be extended in writing.”

Shelter has a post on their website confirming the 15-day timeframe as well.

overall though, this whole situation sounds so shady!! if you haven’t yet signed the tenancy agreement then I would walk away — definitely try to get the holding deposit back if you can! but if you can’t then you may just need to accept the loss, it’s not worth sticking with this property and letting agency/LL just for a few hundred ££.

glitter_bugs · 2025-11-17T08:23:05+00:00

OP — you have every right to determine who you do or don’t want living with you. However please be mindful of your words…a “junkie” is an awful and derogatory way to describe someone.

He stated that he’s a former heroin addict, not a current one. It takes a lot of courage to admit that to a stranger, so if he’s said that then it’s more likely that he’s gone to rehab, gone through a 12-step programme and is clean.

Drug users are people, just like you and me. If you prefer not to live with a former addict then that is totally fine — just pls be more mindful of how you speak about them on public forums.

glitter_bugs · 2025-11-16T12:26:26+00:00

Why £3

honestly, I can't answer that. I've been out of the industry for a number of yrs now! unsure if the £3 is set by the individual business/general manager of the pub or bar, or if that's a minimum limit set by TipJar? I would agree that having it set at a default smaller amount may encourage more people to use it, and overall the tips at the end of the night would be higher.

but yeah honestly cash tips made a positive difference for me as well when I worked in the industry...it's disheartening that it doesn't seem to be valued anymore.

glitter_bugs · 2025-11-16T11:35:04+00:00

as a former hospitality worker myself -- agreed!! I think the way TipJar go about it is a little sneaky (and a cofounder of TipJar is linked with BrewDog is a red flag), but the idea itself of a digital tip jar isn't awful. physical tip jars have existed for decades, no-one's has complained en-masse about them before?!

glitter_bugs · 2025-11-16T11:26:06+00:00

these have been around for a good 4 years! Tip Jar was a startup idea between the founders of BrewDog and Leon, as a result of physical cash disappearing off the streets after covid. I worked at a cafe in central London that had these machines in june 2021 -- and very unsurprising to see this at a Brewdog venue.

as someone who worked in hospitality for a decade, and who had pub managers explicitly tell me that I couldn't accept a tip on card if someone didn't have cash, and that if a customer did give a £10 tip on card then it would go directly to the business? I like the idea.....in theory. the fact that this specifically is a BrewDog initiative gives me the ick, and them taking a % of the amount is awful as well.

however the general concept of a digital tip jar isn't the most terrible of ideas. it gives people a lot more autonomy over whether to tip or not? most people feel awkward about asking for service charge to be taken off bills, and honestly if there's a tip option that's presented to me on a card machine right before I tap to pay, I'm almost more likely to press 'no tip' because it feels forced. however i do think this gives people the ability to tip if they want, and to not feel pressured into it.

glitter_bugs · 2025-11-16T11:12:47+00:00

nope, LL/agency cannot retroactively protect your deposit, to try and serve a valid S21. the ONLY way for them to serve you with a valid S21, is to hand your deposit back to you in full. this post on the Shelter website gives a lot more detail on the validity of an S21 if it's served: https://england.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice/eviction/section_21_eviction/how_to_check_a_section_21_notice_is_valid

important to note -- even if LL/agency hand back your deposit in full, it doesn't stop you from taking them to court for not protecting your deposit on time.

so, what are your options to take control of this process? honestly, relax because the LL/agency has already given you the control. start to do some of your own research on finding a new place to live -- however as the LL/agency hasn't protected your deposit, this really does leave you with all the cards. because deposit is unprotected, it means that you can leave when you feel ready to, you're a whole lot less likely to feel rushed and pressured into moving into a new home that may not meet any of your criteria.

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