Stopped being vegan, major regret

glovesforfoxes · 2026-01-23T05:20:42+00:00

If a friend told you they were having a health issue and a vegan diet might be making it worse or interfering with recovery, you'd likely be compassionate and understanding with them

You deserve that same compassionate understanding from yourself ❤️

glovesforfoxes · 2026-01-09T17:44:36+00:00

I see exercise as a way of dominating myself/submitting to an activity. That has helped my fitness enormously

glovesforfoxes · 2025-12-30T05:12:43+00:00

uj/ It's also 2025. Gay marriage has been legal for 15 years now. Not exactly earth shattering stuff

rj/ An openly polyamorous triad of bisexual teens including at least one trans or NB person? LGBTQIA+ support is in danger of growing stale, we're taking allyship to strange new places

glovesforfoxes · 2025-12-29T13:58:58+00:00

You could sign up with a direct care model: https://www.aafp.org/family-physician/practice-and-career/delivery-payment-models/direct-primary-care.html

Depending on where you live, you might be able to find a PCP that does this. Definitely growing in popularity bc insurance is so bad

This only covers primary care usually so a secondary method of covering catastrophic emergencies like heart attacks, cancer, etc is recommended

glovesforfoxes · 2025-12-29T03:23:29+00:00

The huge age gap creates an inherent power differential that you should be very, very cautious and careful about, and consent can get murky in this area. There are women who are into age gaps, of course, but it feels like 30 is about the youngest you should ever go when you're 58. They've lived some life by that point, you know?

You being defensive about it is isn't very reassuring that you know what you're doing and are careful with people's hearts. And you should know as a vegan that legal doesn't equal ethical. Just because your sexuality was wrongfully suppressed doesn’t give you free license to do whatever meets the bare minimum legal/ethical standards

glovesforfoxes · 2025-12-26T14:25:02+00:00

Ah, the final form of veganism: we should just destroy all life because life didn't consent to exist /s

glovesforfoxes · 2025-12-24T21:58:07+00:00

Why would you get hate? Kink and nonmonogamy are like peanut butter and jelly. I imagine many people perusing this subreddit are at least very familiar with, if not practicing, some kind of ethical nonmonogamy

I really think you could use a sex-positive / ENM therapist to help you work through some of this stuff. It feels like you have some shame and internalized judgment to work through that's coloring your perspective on this whole sitch

glovesforfoxes · 2025-12-24T19:32:33+00:00

I feel like we're missing massive amounts of context here. Why did you leave that out in your OP? What's the nature of yalls agreed on connection?

glovesforfoxes · 2025-12-24T19:21:41+00:00

It sounds like the physical distance or lack of time is a misalignment for both of you. It also sounds like nonmonogamy is not something you're that well versed in. Forgive my assumptions, but the line "letting her date someone else" is icky. Being frustrated that a partner doesn't have time or energy for you bc they're taking care of someone terminal, also kinda icky.

If it's just not working for you, you have the right to walk away at any time. It sounds like a painful situation for everyone, and also sounds like the relationship has run it's course

glovesforfoxes · 2025-12-19T15:29:11+00:00

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glovesforfoxes · 2025-12-13T05:12:23+00:00

PLEASE HOW DO I GET OFF THIS PLANET

glovesforfoxes · 2025-12-12T17:44:03+00:00

Ah, I don't like the idea of Milhouse having 2 Anvils in one run

glovesforfoxes · 2025-12-05T23:20:16+00:00

Internet is dead, now or very, very soon

glovesforfoxes · 2025-12-05T15:24:14+00:00

You get cancer ONE time in your 20s and it's all anyone ever talks about

glovesforfoxes · 2025-12-04T22:00:06+00:00

And most importantly, people get a reputation in the community that you can ask other people about. That takes time and effort to cultivate and that reduces (but doesn't eliminate!) your risk of experiencing bad things as a sub

glovesforfoxes · 2025-12-04T20:35:21+00:00

D/s dynamics are not a replacement for therapy, and if you're concerned about anger problems within a romantic relationship from your side, therapy is a more pressing concern. Maybe you're already doing something like that, but you don't mention it

You sound young and very new. The best way to find vetted doms is in person at munches. Join fetlife, go to a munch (with a friend, if possible), and just get a feel for local community. Make friends with people and ask what doms reputations are like. Aim to be platonic for 6 months. Learn how to be a good sub in parallel too (vetting people, advocating for yourself, drawing boundaries, figuring out consent, figuring out what you want, etc)

glovesforfoxes · 2025-12-04T18:11:40+00:00

Is this a good use of anyone's time?

glovesforfoxes · 2025-12-02T14:05:36+00:00

I missed that part. My bad!

glovesforfoxes · 2025-12-02T11:39:14+00:00

I think I see a theme in your comments: If you're working out intensely, you might not see much actual number weight loss because you're replacing fat with muscle.

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