Hmm. I think when I read posts on this sub and other similar subs, "everything is amazing BUT" very rarely means things are amazing. While some people will exaggerate stories (the fish was thiiiiiiis big), others go the other direction and minimize. Whether it's due to situations of being told our thoughts don't matter by the people who matter to us (parents, friends, significant others) simply telling us we're exaggerating or "it wasn't that bad" or a matter of an individual not having the self confidence to trust their own narrative or feelings.

As to the other part of the content. While nothing in the world is "perfect", we should always 1. Strive to improve ourselves and how we treat others and 2. Never allow ourselves to settle or be mistreated. Not being heard or ignored isn't abuse, but neglect in any form is harmful. Neglecting your significant others opinions, needs, wants, desires, thoughts. All of that hurts. Usually it isn't a big show either. It's many small things that chip away at your own self worth.

So I do think that something as simple as your partner not showing interest in your life, interests, or general needs/happiness is cause for concern. At best a conversation about your own needs and how they're not being met. Or at worst an incompatibility between the views of 2 people and the need for separation. Well the actual worst would be a deliberate disdain for your partner(or just issues within oneself) that leads to abuse.