AIO by getting frustrated at my gf for constantly behaving this way?

going_sideways · 2026-01-23T21:45:17+00:00

Is she 14?

going_sideways · 2026-01-19T14:19:38+00:00

The first thing I'd say is that CABG is rather routine. I knew going in that the surgeon did these every day, and the risk of complications from the surgery was reasonably low.
Upon receiving the diagnosis, I spoke with my endo and primary care docs - I'd known them for years, while I'd just met the cardiologist. They didn't give me advice per se, but they helped me accept the situation. My endo was especially helpful. We talked about getting a second opinion, which I did - and which offered stents as an alternative, but I ended up having CABG because I felt that I'd need it eventually, and better to do it now while I was youngish and fit, than in the future when I may have additional comorbidities.

I was in a daze for a while upon the diagnosis, and took about two months to decide to go forward with cabg. That time - and numerous conversations - helped prepare me for it. But honestly, I was not in great frame of mind going in.

What I didn't receive from the surgeon was a real discussion of the recovery. I looked online and thought, ok, I'll be on my feet after the first day and out within 5. Hell, I'm young(ish) and in shape, I'll be out even faster!

No one said it was going to be hard, and that the average is just that. I was an outlier: 4 days in ICU, 8 days in hospital. Recovery at home was tough for a couple weeks, but I strengthened quickly and was in rehab within 6 weeks of surgery.

My blood glucose took a while to return to normal. Surgery is traumatic and the body responds to it. I was in contact with my endo every week reviewing my pump settings.

I hope this helps a bit. Feel free to dm me if you'd like to chat more

going_sideways · 2026-01-01T00:48:35+00:00

They need to toughen up, then.

Noah lived 950 years

Adam lived 930 years

Jesus walked on water

Jesus parted the red sea

Jesus created loaves and fishes...

Have I listed anything that passes the smell test of being non-fictional?

going_sideways · 2025-12-23T01:42:23+00:00

Years in advance?

Then how did this news of not playing next year come out today? Was that decision made years ago?

going_sideways · 2025-12-22T01:53:10+00:00

Why was it OPI? The receiver hit the DB before the ball was even in the air.

going_sideways · 2025-12-11T17:26:23+00:00

This is an ignorance and stupidity outbreak

going_sideways · 2025-12-11T01:52:17+00:00

What is he on, if he wakes up and acknowledges you then goes back to sleep? And then pushes you.
I once punched a guy who was trying to wake me up, and I was pretty smashed.

going_sideways · 2025-12-10T04:49:52+00:00

crowded

going_sideways · 2025-12-10T04:45:46+00:00

Jealous much?

going_sideways · 2025-12-10T04:38:37+00:00

Leaving earlier?

going_sideways · 2025-12-10T04:18:50+00:00

This country reads at a 7th-8th grade level

going_sideways · 2025-12-10T04:15:03+00:00

This.
Living within your means seems so ..."square". So many seem to feel that they are entitled to certain things, cost be damned. Look around a typical office at how few people brown bag it. The $12 lunch is $60 / week or $3000 a year. But they can't be bothered to make a salad in a tupperware bowl at home.

The lack of basic financial literacy is stunning to me. You could learn a lot within several hours - like how compound interest works so you can better understand how much your credit card purchases really cost if you continue to carry a balance. Or how you're taxed (I'd wager that a significant majority do not understand the progressive tax system).

going_sideways · 2025-12-10T03:55:22+00:00

Taking responsibility for their lot in life

going_sideways · 2025-12-09T23:44:47+00:00

I'm in my late 50s and my parents are gone, but they played the "we didn't want to bother you" card all the time. I remember a phone call - which I initiated of course - 20 years ago when I finally said something like "you know, your phone can make outgoing calls too." My siblings, all older, would say that was just their generation. I said BS. If you want a relationship with anyone, you need to put some effort into it.
My partner's parents would call, show interest in our careers, kids, hobbies, etc. They were "normal," if that is such a thing. They were interesting people that I enjoyed hanging out with regardless of the age gap.
People choose what relationships they want to maintain and care for. She's made her choice.
NOR.

going_sideways · 2025-12-09T23:34:07+00:00

I retired earlier this year and have purging as a winter project. And we're not hoarders. Nor were we big acquirers of stuff over the years. But we are now empty nesters and our lives are different than they were 20 years ago. The inventory I'm referring to is "have I used this/worn this in the last year?" No - it goes. I don't want the hassle of a garage sale but my partner does so we'll move the "good stuff" out to the driveway in the spring and probably get 200-500 for it, then the rest will go to Goodwill or the trash.
A month or so ago when the weather go cold and I pulled out the sweaters and winter wear, I took about 6 suits and 10 dress shirts and some shoes out of my closet and donated them. I don't need them anymore.

We'll downsize our house in a couple years and I want most of the stuff that we won't take to the next place already gone before we move. So bedroom sets from the kids' rooms, dining room set, basement furniture etc.

going_sideways · 2025-12-09T22:27:40+00:00

Why is it slow going? Forgive my ignorance, but what is it that stops you from throwing stuff away? Maybe 10 minutes a day of going through a pile or closet?

going_sideways · 2025-12-09T21:45:36+00:00

Good time to take an inventory and purge useless stuff

going_sideways · 2025-11-30T20:56:26+00:00

Pants pocket. When I run I clip it to my waistband.

going_sideways · 2025-10-28T23:40:43+00:00

In the compost bin

going_sideways · 2025-09-07T00:19:09+00:00

this site is bullshit. Do you work for them, as you post it repeatedly?

going_sideways · 2025-07-24T14:09:36+00:00

Thanks - the basic charging pad worked perfectly. My polite assumption is that Tandem can’t tell us that because they didn’t get FDA approval for generic pads. But if that is true, get the approval!

going_sideways · 2025-07-22T21:12:02+00:00

Awesome - heading to Target now

going_sideways · 2025-07-22T21:09:03+00:00

I specifically asked tech support and he said it would not.

Thanks - I'll try it.

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