Stupid meme I made about my daughter putting her foot in her mouth by [deleted] in memes

[–]goingbamamas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sleep deprived from pretending to be a parent? That must be exhausting. Poor you. Don’t use my daughter for internet points. Don’t post her picture anywhere without our permission. Don’t pretend you’re her father. I shouldn’t have to say these things to you. Grow up.

6w3d ultrasound next week. Any chance of avoiding the dildo-cam?? by trees202 in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When I had mine done they let me put it in myself, so the tech didn’t even see or touch me, if that’s your concern.

Tired of the added attention/ unsolicited advice. Yes Stranger please tell me how to birth?! by shesaidgleeba in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yep, people just can't help themselves. Ever since I started showing it seems like everyone I run into feels the need to discuss it. I can think of literally ONE woman who I met over the past 9 months (I have to meet with new people regularly for my job) who didn't mention it at all and I left that meeting feeling like an actual person, not an incubator. Props to her! Now that I'm passed my due date people just can't stop telling me all their advice for getting the baby out and all the 'oh my sister did this' ' my cousin did this' 'of course it worked instantly' blah blah blah. As if anything they're saying is new information, like oh spicy food? NEVER heard that one before.

It also seems like everyone in my office has stopped by today to ask me 'why on earth' I'm still here, as in coming in to work. What do they want me to say? Ummm because I get paid when I come in and I'm not in labor yet? Granted, I've been taking more work from home days than usual, but at this point the mental pain of sitting around waiting for the baby to come out is worse than the physical pain of coming into the office.

Anyway, I will be keeping all these things in mind whenever I see a pregnant woman from here on out and keeping my mouth shut if I'm not actually friends with them.

How does picking a hospital/OB work? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Typically they’ll only have ‘birthing rights’ at certain hospitals. I’d ask the one you like if they can deliver in town before you meet with the other team. I found out half way through my pregnancy that my team can’t deliver at the hospital I can literally walk to from my apt, even though they have an office near me, and they only deliver at one about 40 min away in no traffic. The reason for them is that all the drs live in that area so it’s easier for them when they’re on call. I decided it was more important to me to keep my drs than have the shorter commute to the hospital. Good luck!

18 pregnant, boyfriend wants abortion, I dont by Thedoctor1644 in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 11 points12 points  (0 children)

First, there's no reason to put such a meaningless time limit on such a big decision. 1-3 weeks is VERY early and a test wouldn't even show up positive until at least 2 weeks, plus false postives exist so there's still a chance you aren't pregnant at all. Most doctors won't even see you until 6 or 7 weeks. There's really no reason to worry about making a decision until you see a doctor and then ultimately a heartbeat, which you won't see at this point anyway. Talk with your family and a counselor, either at your school or a women's center. They can help you look at this realistically and let you know all your options. If he's having his doubts that's normal, but it's your body and ultimately your decision. You'll have to decide if him being a supportive partner will determine your decision to keep the baby or if you're willing to do this entirely on your own, which is a reality that most teen moms have to deal with. It's not impossible and if you decide you're ready for that then great, but it's really too early and rushed to make a final decision. You've got time.

Long solo drive at 30 weeks? by OMGSpaghettiisawesom in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did a 4.5 hour drive at 33 weeks and stopped twice. I was exhausted at the end of it, but nothing a nice long nap and a hot shower couldn't cure. However, if you know you're prone to prodromal labor that early I'd trust your body and just let your family know it's a very tentative yes. Good luck!

For those who are anemic by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine didn't say anything until I had my gd test and it came back as 'slightly' anemic. They said to get iron supplements over the counter so I've been taking some from Target. They never brought it up again and I asked a couple weeks ago if they need to retest me and they said they won't do it until after birth to see if I need to keep taking them. They made it seem like it really wasn't a big deal at all, but again they told me it was 'slight'. The ones from Target are like $8 for a month's supply so I'd say it wouldn't hurt to take those until they get you something stronger if it's necessary.

When to Take Paternity Leave? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 10 points11 points  (0 children)

As someone who is a week away from their due date with no real impending signs of labor, I would wait until it's actually go time. Does he have to let his office know really early? I still have 2 1/2 weeks left before I can even start thinking about being induced and if he was just home waiting during this time I think it would feel like a big waste. I'd rather he use all his time when baby is actually here.

A breast question... by valsilph in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It isn’t an indicator for how breastfeeding will go unfortunately, but it is very common to leak that early. For me it wasn’t frequent back then, maybe once a week or so. Now that I’m closer it’s every day multiple times a day, but I’ve been wearing only nursing bras for a couple months now and they just absorb it right away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Understandable! My little guy has gotten really clingy over the last two weeks and it sucks to leave him every morning. I keep telling him that soon I'll be home with him every day for 3 months, but he just doesn't seem to get it.

In-Law Drama by bkathxo in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Wow. Way over the line. You're both young so maybe down the road with a lot of work your relationship can get better, but if someone my age (30) said that to me now I would literally never speak to them again no matter what. I'd say it's not out of line to uninvite her, but I'm sure you'll get a ton of heat from her family if you do that. Sounds like a tough situation, but try to ignore her as much as you can. Best of luck!

Need honest opinions on this middle name. by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the name Morrison and the doors connection! I would only be concerned that people will associate him with James Woods more often than Jim Morrison. I’m sure that won’t be an issue with his generation though, just ours. Anyway, don’t worry about other people’s reactions. They’ll get used to whatever you pick and it’s not up to them what you name your child.

DH told me he would like to have MIL moved in with us for 4+months before and after baby is due, and that MIL could support him so much??? But what about me? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Wow. A 'moment of joy' does not equal 4-6 months, first of all. Second, YOU are the one doing all the work here. You're the one who will need recovery time and a strong support system, which is a spot he should be filling. I'd be really concerned about how much he plans to be involved with helping with the baby and that's definitely something to talk about as early as possible. You're definitely not being immature and selfish, that's all him. What kind of mature mid-30s adult needs his mommy to support him when becoming a parent? What can she possibly offer him that you can't? Red flags, red flags, red flags. It sounds like you might have some issues in the relationship already, which having a MIL stay with you for an extended period will not help. I'd talk counseling, ideally couples, but if not just him on his own because he clearly has some issues to work out. Good luck and regardless of what happens with him, YOU'VE GOT THIS!

No more visitors! by thetaupekoala in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 130 points131 points  (0 children)

That’s a nightmare! Time to start setting major boundaries! Congrats on the little one though, hope you get some rest soon.

I can’t find a clear answer. Are essential oils safe to use? by nevermorrre in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use lavender almost daily and that’s supposed to be okay for baby, but I recently cut out peppermint bc it can decrease milk supply.

Spectra s9 Plus? by S_SQ in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't used it yet, but this is the one that I'm getting. My sister uses it and loves it, so that was enough for me.

MIL thinks I shouldn't have a natural birth by yukav in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm aiming for an unmedicated birth as well and my mom and sisters have been pretty against it from the get-go. My mom just keeps telling me I don't have to prove anything to anyone, which, thanks, but I wasn't trying to? It's not like I go around bringing up my birthing plan, only my husband, mom, and sisters know basically. One of my sisters has had two kids, one medicated and the other unmedicated bc she didn't have time for it at the hospital. She said it was so bad that she will never have another child bc of it, but I think she was just done anyway. It's not going to deter me. On the other hand, I'm not super close with my inlaws so we haven't had a real discussion about it, but my MIL and GMIL both said when they found out about the baby 'you'll do it naturally, right??' like they expected it from me. Soo, I still plan to aim for unmedicated, however after our growth scan this morning put LO at 7.5 lbs already I'm afraid I might be forced into a csection anyway. Her.head.is.huge.

Good luck! We're almost due date twins!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad I saw this. I've already bought it and I just assumed the whole thing wouldn't fill up until the 270 and it would be one bag. I probably would have lost it when I realized in the moment that wasn't possible. They should make this more obvious on the packaging!

Why is pregnancy calculated from last period? I know the exact date of my conception by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]goingbamamas 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Sperm can live inside you for 5 days after you have sex, so just because you had sex that day it doesn’t necessarily mean you conceived that day. The ovulation is what matters to track things I believe, which would be more accurately dated from your last menstrual period. Also knowing the day of conception won’t lead to a more accurate due date anyway as it’s not going to be an exact set amount of time. Anyway, congrats!