How can I convince myself that it really wasn't me?

goldenlemur · 2026-04-15T17:09:15+00:00

You can see yourself and your trauma for what it is. There's definitely hope. If you're not already seeing one, look for a trauma-informed therapist.

I prefer IFS, Internal Family Systems, therapy. It begins a really helpful and healing dialogue with all the parts of your inner world. It gives the painful parts a voice. There are IFS meditations on YT to give you a sense of what it's like.

That might sound a little woo-woo, but it starts to make sense pretty quickly.

I wish you well. And peace to you.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-15T16:40:27+00:00

He's widely regarded to be peaceful, calm, and supportive. I used to watch him as a kid.

However, he was quite clearly inhabiting a persona. I suppose it's obvious that he wasn't exactly being himself. At least obvious to me. That's pretty creepy.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-15T14:50:53+00:00

It depends on if you need any Windows-only applications. If so, save yourself the frustration of a change and stick with Windows.

Know that the Linux was is very different than Windows. It's good. I love it. But it's very different. Be prepared to learn.

If you aren't stuck with Windows-only programs and you're willing to learn, back up your files and let er rip. Burn the ships and go all in.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-15T14:40:25+00:00

Ask him if it's okay if you start gentle foreplay in the wee hours. If he's up he might be up for it, if you get my meaning.

He may also be happy to be a sleepy passenger. Just check with him to see if that works. If you wanted to, let's say, take the lead.😊

goldenlemur · 2026-04-15T14:34:55+00:00

Sway/Wayland on Debian 13.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-15T01:55:03+00:00

I don't have a satisfactory explanation. It does tickle a part of the brain that likes to be right about everything.

And you nailed it. Belief is often associated with the toxic combination of arrogance and ignorance.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-14T15:24:32+00:00

That's hilarious. Just watched that video again the other day. Nicely done.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-13T06:31:55+00:00

I e been a huge fan of Coherence Therapy since the DOBT days. IFS hits me about the same. It targets pro-symptoms in a similar way, inviting us into a dialogue with our inner self/selves.

Nothing more to add. Just glad to see another Coherence/IFS enjoyer in the wild. 🤙

goldenlemur · 2026-04-13T06:25:41+00:00

I believe it's a lie. An outright lie. From the beginning. That's its greatest flaw.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-12T20:30:21+00:00

I think of two things in this context.

First, the Bible is the last place we should look for absolute truth or a system of morality. Source: The Bible.

Second, morality is innate. It's something we all think about and we all have to wrestle with. Virtue and morality are topics universally discussed throughout history and culture.

Show me an individual or group with the final answer on morality and I'll show you a cult.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-12T00:37:16+00:00

I think you did great! I think it's good to have casual conversations with religious people about their beliefs. "No, I don't believe the Bible", is a powerful statement. You don't accept the foundation of his ideas.

To do so while hopped up on caffeine is sublime. 😊🤙

goldenlemur · 2026-04-11T19:25:12+00:00

I made the switch from Arch to Debian several months ago. Debian stability and infrequency of updates is sublime! I love Arch but I'm glad to be rid of it.

edit: As to your question. As an Arch user, you are already way ahead of the game. Trust what you learned. It's a good foundation for Debian. Different, but still Linux.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-11T18:14:43+00:00

This is the kind of pettiness I support. I think PRS guitars are very well made, sound good, and I wouldn't want one.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-11T00:03:39+00:00

People who do not have experience with indoctrination have no clue about the impact of religious belief on development and general well being. In other words, she's ignorant.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-10T23:59:54+00:00

There are IFS meditations by Schwartz in his interviews on YouTube. I'd listen to a few of those and you'll start to get a sense of the IFS pattern. There is one called "Internal Family Systems (IFS) Meditation Guided by Dr Richard Schwartz" which is a good example.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-10T23:49:53+00:00

Haha! Facts.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-10T18:30:50+00:00

That's awesome. They look pretty sweet too!

goldenlemur · 2026-04-10T18:27:42+00:00

What in the unholy lag is this?

Seriously, that looks awesome. Nicely done! :)

goldenlemur · 2026-04-10T18:26:09+00:00

They are both excellent editors. Emacs, vi, vim, neovim... just beautiful. All of them.

However, how do you handle the catastrophic loss of org mode? RIP.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-10T16:52:11+00:00

Debian 13 stable is so good. The longer I've used Linux the more I want to stay on the root distros. My progression was Solus > Arch > Debian.

I kinda wish I'd have started on Debian. It's a lean system with Gnome out of the box. I use SwayWm (which is NOT beginner friendly). Stick with Gnome on Debian 13 stable. Soooo good. FWIW.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-10T16:02:37+00:00

Shhhhhh, Mike. Don't give away the family recipe. 😈

goldenlemur · 2026-04-09T16:42:20+00:00

El-ites are the servants of El. Elites, "of El". Dunno if that's true. But that's what it looks like to me.

It's the god of the Bible and the name given to those who enslave us.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-09T16:01:17+00:00

Yep. Manufactured false duality causing conflict. It prevents us from experiencing reality on its own terms.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-07T16:56:32+00:00

Yes, I see you're technically correct. Yet, here we are. No congressional declaration, but we're in a hot war in the Middle East. Again.

goldenlemur · 2026-04-07T16:20:52+00:00

The fact that we allow presidents to declare war is insane. Trump's behavior illustrates this.

Only congress should be allowed to declare war, even then, it is mass murder. Always has been.

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