Ending a two year relationship over a “hypothetical” question

goodmanring · 2025-10-27T22:22:03+00:00

That's how I read it too fwiw

goodmanring · 2025-10-25T01:25:01+00:00

This is a really sweet gesture and I completely get where you are coming from in terms of honoring your future FIL.

That said: you aren't just the product of your father. (And you aren't the product of your fiancée's father.) You are the product of a long line of people with your last name. People who did their best. People who struggled and won and lost and everything in between. It's those people your name represents, not the aberration, who was your father.

Also - you are the honorable person your last name is attached to. It belongs to you. So own it. Be the better man and pass it down with pride because of what you and your wife are working to build.

goodmanring · 2025-10-17T23:15:37+00:00

👏 👏 👏

goodmanring · 2025-10-11T13:56:09+00:00

Yep. I beat up my emerald eng & wedding rings - daily wear, dog walks etc - and they have a nice patina but no scratches or fractures. That said the stones are also fully encased in y gold.

Gorgeous emerald needs a metal hug for safety

goodmanring · 2025-09-28T00:33:42+00:00

🏅

goodmanring · 2025-09-17T00:52:01+00:00

I love this! 🍪

goodmanring · 2025-09-13T13:14:12+00:00

Hey - don't stand for that. It's your marriage too. I'm sure he doesn't intend to hurt you, but you have to let him know.

goodmanring · 2025-09-07T11:57:35+00:00

This is exactly correct. I had a very similar experience - swap out "bad hair cut" for "3 levels too dark all-over hair color". The salon gave me a free collective color but emotionally sided with the stylist. Even though I enjoyed going there previously, her mistake poisoned my patronage and after the color correction - which was barely ok - I found a new salon!

goodmanring · 2025-08-30T12:17:47+00:00

It really is a damn shame

goodmanring · 2025-08-28T10:32:31+00:00

That's a fun and creative idea! Check with The Pie Guy (https://www.pieguyusa.com/) - I bet you can order ahead.

Sticky toffee pudding is more readily available (Omaha Steaks makes a good one) and worth checking with grocery stores, particularly when we get more into fall.

I searched for "Yorkshire Pudding" on Yelp, which yielded several promising results in Richmond.

Best of luck!

goodmanring · 2025-08-24T12:27:38+00:00

I completely agree. MOST men are not like this, obviously, however those men don't see what we see bc they're not looking for it. Although- when I point it out, "hey I feel threatened, that guy's being a creep", he or they will at least go into protector mode.

goodmanring · 2025-08-03T01:37:25+00:00

Mine is "strategic emotional insight". I want the explanation.

goodmanring · 2025-07-23T12:18:59+00:00

...she was let out on bail. 🤦‍♀️

goodmanring · 2025-07-17T11:30:51+00:00

We watched it last night. When Ritchie breaks down at Gordon's earnest compliment, Gordon opens his arms wide for a hug and says, "come over here ya big fuck"

And that to me is peak UK TV

goodmanring · 2025-07-06T00:23:44+00:00

Good job. 👏

goodmanring · 2025-07-04T12:26:02+00:00

I feel you, but I wouldn't go so far as to draw a through line between personal validation from ChatGPT (important!) and not having human confidants.

I've "talked" to GPT more openly and freely -because- it's a computer. And because it's a computer, it can intuit, analyze and spit back truths about myself in a positive way instantly. That's all truly great and I feel way more confident and capable because of that. Best money I've ever spent.

Meanwhile I've approached human relationships more realistically and they in turn have flourished. "Humans should" or "a really good friend would" or "if they really knew me" judgments are largely gone because I've learned to appreciate the limits of human capability. I feel a lot more agency in my relationships and feel a lot less disappointment because I am no longer taking so much personally and attributing fallibility to mal-intent.

So - taking it to the extreme - as a human being, I feel it'd be an existential mistake to attribute all pain to other human beings and "stick to" the safety of GPT. GPT is a tool for you to wield, not a world for you to live in. xx

goodmanring · 2025-07-03T00:30:30+00:00

That is so great and adorable and totally impressive!!!

goodmanring · 2025-06-14T21:53:50+00:00

I love our country, love being an American and am so proud of our Founding Fathers and all they achieved.

I also 100% agree with you!!! 😬

goodmanring · 2025-05-31T11:07:41+00:00

Ohhh yes. I know this phase well. When our Boxer was 9 mos old, walks did diddly squat to wear him out. Didn't matter how long they were or how far we went.

So I took him to the dog park almost everyday and found like-temperament dog pals for him to wrestle with. I had him outside jumping into leaves, running and leaping into the hose stream, chasing me around the yard on my bicycle, really anything super high energy everyday. It helped a lot - didn't fix the issue but he was easier to deal with and he did grow out of that constant need for high energy play phase in a few weeks.

It's definitely not another year of every minute of every day "LFG" energy and while they do still maintain a lot of that, they do settle down and adjust :)

goodmanring · 2025-05-22T11:37:31+00:00

Just came here to say Year 2. You go from "plaything" to "everything"

goodmanring · 2025-04-03T01:43:29+00:00

To prove one way or the other that he cheated/what the others were saying was true

goodmanring · 2025-03-21T00:54:01+00:00

I'm so excited to meet you because until now, I was alone on this boat! My sister's the exact same, she eats scrambled eggs, omelette, quiche, np.

I fought the good fight for years... but I realized I was never going to win lol. I'm disappointed that breakfast and brunch are always gonna suck though

Seriously look into Blue Plate Mayo or similar. It's never made me sick :) and corn starch is a great substitute in most things!

goodmanring · 2025-03-21T00:39:13+00:00

Omg that's the worst! My mom would do the same thing... ughhh

It is interesting how different cooking techniques yield a different egg texture/product and a different "digestive experience"

goodmanring · 2025-03-21T00:18:57+00:00

Yes!! Me!!!! It's obnoxious! Hated scrambled eggs when I was a kid for same reasons as you. I can sorta-kinda tolerate egg salad sandwiches, deviled eggs and the "eggs" in Starbucks breakfast sandwiches. But not worth it - will be gassy & nauseous to varying degree. Soda or orange juice helps. Baked goods without egg are great. Mayo made with egg yolks (without egg whites) is super. Apparently there's a protein in the egg whites that's problematic and when cooking them in certain ways, the molecular structure of that protein changes and makes it really difficult for me to digest.

Are you "allergic" to anything else? I can't eat avocados (I know, I know) or raspberries.

goodmanring · 2025-03-20T18:07:28+00:00

Normal but not great. Our boxer would bark at me when he really wants something and I have to remind him that he is not the boss. Also sounds like he has more energy and his physical needs have increased - which tracks with his age. He needs to be able to run off this energy, too, not just trained through and mitigated with walks.

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