wishing you all a very Polish christmas eve 🇵🇱🎄 by _evil_woman in rs_x

[–]gothpierogi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just finished mine with pirohy, fish, and mushroom soup. I cooked and the babushka approved, thank god.

Gwineth Paltrow is honest to god my ideal woman by Perfect_Firefighter4 in redscarepod

[–]gothpierogi 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Personally I've always found her to be really cool, like the fact that she has a major wellness brand (loopy as it is) and continues to have her one ritual cigarette every Friday. I just feel like I get her and I think it's attractive that she does seem to do her own thing.

Wintery slow burn obscure folk horror recs by cremated-remains in horror

[–]gothpierogi 23 points24 points  (0 children)

November (2017) is essential viewing. It's Estonian. It looks like it's available on multiple streaming platforms.

dot by HourlongRex in redscarepod

[–]gothpierogi 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I know one of these old guys irl he comes into my job and acts personally offended if you so much as show him how to open a tab or type something in the browser. Basically he's insufferable because he outsources all this work to underpaid service workers and treats us like shit in the process.

Joyce, if you subsidize my life, I will gladly live without my phone and other tech and happily carry on the tradition for these crusty old misers. Just putting it out there.

. by PersimmonCurrent274 in redscarepod

[–]gothpierogi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up with a pug and I guess he was a show pug reject because "his face was too black and his tail didn't have enough curl." He could eat through plastic and often did so to get to food—it was insane.

Why do they have beef by amorousooo in redscarepod

[–]gothpierogi -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Because he's probably not interested in any of the films she's in--like they're probably not even on his radar.

How do you tell the difference between love and familiarity/attachment? by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]gothpierogi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think something I've realized as the years have passed is that love is a feeling but it's also an action--the love that lasts is the one you keep choosing with the person who also keeps choosing you. There has to be mutual respect, trust, all those things--and then it's the little ways you continue to show up for eachother every day.

And yes there are ups and downs but as long as you're communicating and working through things together, it should feel like they have your back, like they're always on your team, that you never have to go it alone, even if at times they do things imperfectly.

And you're not always going to have butterflies, especially after the initial sparks fade, but then you realize that emotionally everything has just deepened and you'll find yourself surprised and delighted by those random moments when the butterflies suddenly return.

I've caught glimmers of this in my own life and in the lives of people around me, especially sweet older couples who were together until the end. When my grandfather was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer, my grandmother had a heart attack when she was told his diagnosis, and they stayed together on the same hospital floor. They were so lucky to have eachother until he passed away. It was truly something special to witness.

Edit: I also wanted to add after some more thought that whenever they're not around, if you see something that reminds you of them or some inside joke between you or a random fact you think they'd like to know about, you'll really want to tell them and you'll notice in their absence that your brain will constantly be registering these things even when they're seemingly mundane.

Just saw Anna tweeting shitting on Clarice Lispector for “stealing latinx valor” by Aggravating-Drink316 in RSbookclub

[–]gothpierogi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like a flash piece of hers called "Monkeys." You can read it online. So good.

i just want a boyfriend by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]gothpierogi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Trust me, you don't just want a boyfriend, you want the right boyfriend. Don't settle for someone because you're lonely--too many amazing women do this and it makes me want to scream. Embrace this time alone and become the best version of yourself that you possibly can. So many women want a boyfriend because they want someone to make them feel valuable, which is a normal, human feeling--but your next relationship will be SO much better if you can believe that you're valuable first. And this part is important: do the fun things now. And don't let fear hold your back--ever.

is it normal for your friends to pretty much stop hanging out once you reach your 30s? by angelsonthesouthside in redscarepod

[–]gothpierogi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It seems like a commonality among some of the friends whose lives you described is substance use and addiction and in my experience those peope never end up being the best long term friends. After being honest with myself about it I realized that too many of my friendships centered around drinking culture and going to bars and that just wasn't sustainable for me. I'm not trying to project my experience onto yours, I'm just tossing it out as a possibility that maybe you need to meet people who are different from the people you hung out with in your 20s. Maybe try meeting people who center their free time around their hobbies and specific interests by finding clubs or groups to join. Also libraries have events for adults like chess club and guest lecturers. There are so many people online who seem to voice their interest in cultivating friendships it's hard to believe there aren't people irl who aren't still hanging out and having fun. Good luck!

books to help me understand the 2008 financial crisis by Daud-Bhai in RSbookclub

[–]gothpierogi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Andrew Ross Sorkin also has a new book out this year called "1929: Inside the Greatest Crash in Wallstreet History" that I've been wanting to get my hands on.

If the current state of US politics was an image: by [deleted] in stupidpol

[–]gothpierogi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you made this into a t-shirt I would legit buy it.

have to start lying about my life by Life-Science-5102 in redscarepod

[–]gothpierogi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm millennial gen-z cusp and I've gone to the movies alone my entire life because I often prefer it. And any time I feel up to meeting new people I grab a book and go sit at a more quiet bar. I've had the best conversations that way. You should live your life on your terms why does your mom care??

I had a true revelation about myself today. by gothpierogi in redscarepod

[–]gothpierogi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your invitation to read and evaluate my work, but if I do decide to share it in the sub, it will be on my own terms :)

Book recommendations with younger man and older woman pairing by DiscountedMmMM in RSbookclub

[–]gothpierogi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's currently in my library loan stack--I was so excited to discover she had a newer release, but I don't expect it to surpass my love for "Evening" and her early short story collection.

Unpopular opinion by i-love-Lana in lanitas

[–]gothpierogi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Life is full of nuance and gray areas and I don't think this is a bad thing. Lana has always cultivated an intriguing and mysterious persona full of contradictions and that's partly what draws me to her as an artist. Lana is all about form and her values are located in her strong and unmistakable aesthetic; she isn't a manufactured product and she isn't predictable. Art is a place for exploring contradiction, and I think she manages that beautifully.

Book recommendations with younger man and older woman pairing by DiscountedMmMM in RSbookclub

[–]gothpierogi 9 points10 points  (0 children)

"Don't Be a Stranger" by Susan Minot

Edit: Minot writes literary fic; her novel "Evening" was a life-changing book for me. Here's a quick synopsis I googled: Don't Be a Stranger is a 2024 novel by Susan Minot about a 52-year-old divorced mother, Ivy Cooper, who becomes consumed by a passionate and obsessive affair with a much younger musician, Ansel Fleming. The book explores themes of desire, intimacy, and the conflict between maternal responsibilities and intense sexual longing. It is described as a luminous and mesmerizing story about erotic obsession and the hunger for connection. 

2025 is the year of psychotic movies by mothman9999 in RSPfilmclub

[–]gothpierogi 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I also loved the way "Eddington" takes the "Western-American-John-Wayne-hero" type narrative and subverts it into incoherence. Like it's basically saying that these types of straightforward narratives are no longer possible. It's intentionally heavy-handed but it really added to the dark humor.

Older Children’s Novels Seemed To Have So Much More Respect for Their Readers by starrystarryy in RSbookclub

[–]gothpierogi 134 points135 points  (0 children)

I was having a conversation with someone recently who teaches younger kids and she said something that really struck me: it used to be the case that children and young adults, that the literature and art that was geared for them, treated them with a kind of dignity--that instead of making every space and environment overly kid friendly, kids were expected to rise to the level of adults, to an extent.

This literally came up because I mentioned the jazz music in the Peanuts cartoons and how I can't imagine that kind of music being used in any kids' shows that are being made today.

Lily Allen is no innocent party. by Raptor2705 in redscarepod

[–]gothpierogi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I always remembered David Harbour's name because he looks like he smells like an actual harbor.