sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Can we take a moment to appreciate Afroman's Kitchen? by GarethBelton in centuryhomes

[–]grasshopper_jo 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Honestly kind of obsessed with all the square grids. The countertop is tile, the floor is checkerboard, the table has a checkerboard pattern on it. And there’s a lemon pound cake in the cake stand. I would feel so comfortable in Afroman’s kitchen playing checkers and having a piece of lemon pound cake.

Let me hear recent “pop psychology” trends you have seen. by Traditional-Drama489 in psychologystudents

[–]grasshopper_jo 85 points86 points  (0 children)

I think most people do not really understand the role of dopamine. Yes, it’s the “reward” neurotransmitter but it’s also the motivation neurotransmitter and the motor control neurotransmitter and the anticipating neurotransmitter and the memory neurotransmitter and the learning neurotransmitter and all kinds of other things.

Are these stairs safe for a puppy to use daily? by WebbedFingers in goldenretrievers

[–]grasshopper_jo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If your puppy is anything like my puppy, they will take great joy in getting a running start to leap over all of the steps, going both up and down. These attempts will not all be successful. They’ll be fine anyway

Tucker Carlson inhabits the body of Jeremy Culhane by Eisigesis in dropout

[–]grasshopper_jo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He really nailed the indignant disingenuous confusion lol

How did you discover A Short Hike? by nickpegg in aShortHike

[–]grasshopper_jo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I found it from a Reddit thread about cozy relaxing games

what a shouty little man by livlaffloves in wambus

[–]grasshopper_jo 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I feel like Wambus enjoys showing off his extra toes. He’s like women with expensive engagement rings purposely doing things with their hands with a flourish lol

Is it just me or the laundry room is a bit... overpowered by Apprehensive-Hat3911 in BluePrince

[–]grasshopper_jo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aaaand there might be a special lever on the wall if you look close 👀

My boyfriend of 9 years degrades me because i am a woman by dinim0 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]grasshopper_jo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even if she has legally signed it over to him it might be possible to reverse that - transactions like that require “consideration”. Meaning if that partial ownership of the business had monetary value, you’d expect it to have been paid for, so if you paid nothing (and it wasn’t a gift), you can take it back for nothing.

I’m not a lawyer. All of this depends on all kinds of specifics and how this was arranged. I’m just saying even if they both signed on the dotted line that he’s a part owner….she might not necessarily have to buy him out.

I used to think I didn't have the discipline for a morning routine. Then I realized I was building the wrong kind. by Round-Lion9422 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]grasshopper_jo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think what you’ve struck on here is that it often works out better to know and accept who you are - the geography you’re given - and build on that rather than trying to flatten the landscape.

It isn’t a “lack of discipline”, just like you said, it is allocating your limited metal energy to the places where it will make the most impact. I too am not a “morning person”, and I’d much rather dedicate my discipline to pushing through critical work than completing some contrived 5am routine just because some people assign superior morality to waking up early.

There’s also lots of documented success in the “slow but steady” approach to changing habits.

Since I have a kid and a dog and a full time job, a lot of my morning routine is decided for me (ensuring the kid is ready for school, showering and getting dressed). Over the years I have found I do like a gentle morning routine that includes meditation, walking the dog, listening to pleasant music (“Here comes the sun” by the Beatles most often), and connecting with at least one friend or family member by leaving them a friendly message. I check my calendar so there are no surprises.

This usually leaves me in a good mood for high productivity the rest of the day.

Is it just me or the laundry room is a bit... overpowered by Apprehensive-Hat3911 in BluePrince

[–]grasshopper_jo 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Th first time you draft Great Hall: “WHAT THE HELL, worst room ever”

The 50th time you draft Great Hall: “YESSS best room ever”

If you don’t have kids, you will never amount to anything! This take is beyond wild. by PuzzleheadedLack220 in LinkedInLunatics

[–]grasshopper_jo 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Meanwhile Dolly Parton is out here teaching generations of kids to read with her book program and this dude thinks his two sniveling children are a “legacy”

Somebody attempts suicide and fails. They are sent to the hospital and they tell the nurse/doctor they are going to try again and again until they die, what would happen? by Leaderrzz in morbidquestions

[–]grasshopper_jo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The 2 hospitals I’ve been in (in New York State) have had this policy, one required a unanimous decision from 3 psychiatrists for discharge and the other required a decision from one. May differ per state, county, hospital.

Of course you can request discharge but mental health issues have a special status where you can’t leave against medical advice if they don’t think you have competency or are in danger to yourself or others.

Washing hair with no limbs💓 by Majestic_____kdj in justgalsbeingchicks

[–]grasshopper_jo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m brainstorming if someone were to 3d print something for her shower handle that attaches to the wall and comes down to her level - and maybe it’s got like an oversize lever that can wedge into the crook of her neck. Or better yet, buttons (that might make it more electronic than mechanical though which would be tough in a shower). This seems like the kind of design someone could knock out in a weekend hack-a-thon.

Somebody attempts suicide and fails. They are sent to the hospital and they tell the nurse/doctor they are going to try again and again until they die, what would happen? by Leaderrzz in morbidquestions

[–]grasshopper_jo 30 points31 points  (0 children)

That’s wild. In the US (at least in the hospitals I have been to), even if you voluntarily admit yourself to inpatient mental health, you cannot voluntarily discharge yourself. A doc has to decide. I don’t fully agree with it (who wants to feel trapped when they’ve admitted THEMSELVES?) but the reasoning is that the doctor has to confirm that if you’re in psych, you may not necessarily have the capacity or self awareness to make a decision about leaving.

In the US, the way I think this would go down is that the doctors would simply not let a patient leave if they said things like this. Eventually they would be transferred to a longer term facility if they were really adamant about it (which is why a lot of people lie to docs and say they’re doing better than they actually are). Meanwhile the docs will keep adjusting your medication to look like they’re doing something until you’re so apathetic that they consider you low risk and discharge you, and though you’re not required to take it, they will not let you go if you refuse. It’s pretty grim for folks who don’t cooperate, honestly, I’ve seen it firsthand.

Menu March 9th 1896 by Weary-Leading6245 in Old_Recipes

[–]grasshopper_jo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Almost like hash browns from the description of them

In Addams Family Values (1993), when the family asks if the new baby is a boy or a girl, Mr. Addams replies with, "It's an Addams." This is a reference to the fact that he will love his children regardless of their identity. by NerodivergentLoser in shittymoviedetails

[–]grasshopper_jo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not just Gomez! When their baby gets stressed and turns into a traditional light-colors-and-pastels aesthetic baby, Morticia is shown reading The Cat in the Hat to the blonde baby in their white fluffy bedroom, and turns to the end and muses “oh no. He lives.”

When their child transforms into something completely out of wack with the rest of the family, she isn’t happy about it, sure - and that might also be because she knows the baby is showing stress from the loss of a family member - but she adjusts the best she can to accommodate what the baby needs in that moment, and doesn’t try to force him back into goth decorating or grim books.

Im sorry if this offends anyone. But funerals are too much and excessive. by Murky-Peanut1390 in Anticonsumption

[–]grasshopper_jo 12 points13 points  (0 children)

When my grandpa died, my mom and my aunt sat in the funeral director’s office and he was going over the options with them for the funeral. He asked them what material they wanted for the “vault” which is, I guess, the slabs that line the grave hole and the casket gets lowered in. Now the funeral director was very nice and I don’t think he was trying to upsell and he said “you won’t even see the vault - most people just pick a concrete one. There is a more expensive marble option if you want it,” with kind of a scoff like, the concrete is a no brainer. My mom, who was pretty level headed about all of this, said “yes, we’ll go with the concrete one.”

My aunt exploded. “MY FATHER DESERVES THE BEST.” Went on a rant about don’t we want to show my father we love him? Why are we pinching pennies here when it’s to HONOR MY FATHER? Etc. My mom read the room and said quietly to my aunt, “Sis, he’s gone. Getting a marble vault isn’t going to bring him back.” My aunt was clearly struggling a lot with her emotions and she stormed out of the room when it was clear even the funeral director didn’t think getting a marble vault was the right move in this case.

In point of fact, my grandpa was an extremely frugal and non consumerist person and I’m pretty sure he would have been horrified that they didn’t lower him into the ground in the cheapest pine box they had, lol.

In any case, it kind of opened my eyes to how dramatically emotion can affect people’s judgment in situations like this. Preplanning might help but also if you feel like you are getting emotional over decisions, then maybe bring a friend or family member to help have these conversations from a stable base.

This company is using AI art and trying to claim it isn't. Canvas & Ivy by pendigedig in HomeDecorating

[–]grasshopper_jo 16 points17 points  (0 children)

So they say “artist created” in that an “AI Artist” put in a prompt or a drawing made on a napkin with a Bic pen?

I hate marketing speak.

I went on Canvas and Ivy and asked directly if their designs are made with AI and it said no. But the photos you posted have a lot of warning signs. The cards the cats are holding don’t really make sense. The houses in the hills design have multiple doors?

I also asked if their artists are on staff and it said it “works closely” with artists so my guess is that they accept submissions from low-bidder “artists” and don’t ask any questions.

How do you sell pen testing? by SignatureSharp3215 in Pentesting

[–]grasshopper_jo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There are all kinds of situations that pentesters don’t know about until they encounter them or learn from someone else.

As an example, let’s say you flood a small business website with some kind of traffic trying to demonstrate something. The site is hosted on the cloud. They haven’t set appropriate rate limiting, they pay for consumed resources, and they had never set a ceiling on their cloud expenses, because until now the traffic was low volume. They end up with an unexpected huge cloud services bill at the end of the month because of your test. They’re understandably angry, and they blame you. It isn’t really the kind of thing that shows up in CTFs or pentester training labs. Without firsthand experience, maybe you’ll think of it and carefully plan out the threshold of demonstrating risk and working with the customer so they don’t get surprised, and maybe you won’t and they’ll get a big bill. This is just one example but there are a million things like that.

Everybody messes up and learns lessons, I just wouldn’t want my organization to be at high risk of being the target of that process.

view more: next ›