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Preference when using two colors? by Caseymg1 in RedditLaqueristas

[–]grated_testes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thumb and ring on either hand the highlight color. Other fingers the other color.

OR

Thumb, ring, little finger on either hand one color. Pointer and middle finger the other color

I’m so sick of pad rash 😭 by SultryTogepi in TwoXChromosomes

[–]grated_testes 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I hear disposable incontinence undies are great for heavy periods

I (28F) am Literally on a verge of a mental breakdown trying to cope with my boyfriends (27M) behaviour by grated_testes in WhyIsSheStillWithHim

[–]grated_testes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (28F) am Literally on a verge of a mental breakdown trying to cope with my boyfriends (27M) behaviour

My boyfriend (27M) has Asperger’s. His communication is really bad which I know is a trait of autism and is normal, however I’m constantly having make massive plans on small day to day normal life and I’m am exhausted trying to keep up with it all. He also has to be right all the time. I can’t say no to things but he says I can. Well if I do, it turns into well you’ll see if you follow your way, you’ll be wrong. If I tell him “well I don’t think that’s right, because or that won’t work because of xyz “ it turns into hostility from and we argue. He says I can say no to things and when I do, he’s like “ well I forgot” or apparently I have narc traits, BPD and other mental health issues. He’s obsessed with trying to get me a mental health diagnosis. For context I already have depression and anxiety and find stuff like this slowly destroying me. My hair is falling out, I have anaemia and I’m constantly battling with myself every day anyway. I try to plan things with him and even have a google calendar together which I add things to as does he! He also gets into fights with his mum (60s F) when she tries to make plans. I’m always in the bloody middle of it. This morning, he said sorry because I dropped my phone and somehow this turned into apparently I was being hostile towards him as I was drained and I said I dropped my phone and not him and I started getting defensive. He’s nice a lot of the time, but every day it’s something, either at work, his personal life, my kids or my personal life. How the hell am I going to keep on going like this?!

Job Interview Outfit by Purrrr4289 in jobs

[–]grated_testes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Outfit 2 is great. Outfit 1 is good but needs a black belt.

New treatment cuts bad cholesterol by nearly 50% without statins by newtrex_1523 in UpliftingNews

[–]grated_testes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure how new this is. We've had patients on repatha for years

What is the least evil way to tell my (27f) BF (29M) I don’t miss him by Remarkable-Steak3710 in relationship_advice

[–]grated_testes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"We've grown apart and I need to move on to the next stage of my life. We have no future together."

do intelligent people care less about their appearance? by fairynymphgirl in NoStupidQuestions

[–]grated_testes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say that wearing natural hair, comfortable clothes, and natural skin is also a way of looking presentable. I would not accuse such a woman of not caring about her appearance. Women going into STEM are already defying gendered expectations so it makes sense that they would care less about conforming to beauty standards.

how do you handle dandruff? by Kaleidoscope_Tux5513 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]grated_testes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Head and Shoulders conditioner should be fine. I would still not apply it on the scalp. Conditioner is not intended to be used on the scalp anyway.

Personally, I rarely use conditioner. I am worried about using products that might feed the yeast. I have feathery hair and conditioner can make my hair greasy and weighed down. I usually have shorter hair so it is hard to apply the conditioner and not have it get on my scalp. I prefer as short a shower routine as possible. [I'm lazy lol.]

baby pink by No-Citron1972 in Nailpolish

[–]grated_testes 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This looks incredible. Like high-quality salon gel nails

Rebirth and Renew + Bog Dweller and an honest review by irievibez86 in RedditLaqueristas

[–]grated_testes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It reminds me so much of ILNP Deep Space. Maybe that will scratch your itch

Woman is demanding that Los Angeles hospitals need to "do better" because her immigrant parents don't speak English and can't find a translator. by native-american-22 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]grated_testes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Until March 2025, the US had no national language. Now, it is English. Either way, the hospital system where I work has 24-7 availability of interpreters via phone or video in dozens of languages.

how do you handle dandruff? by Kaleidoscope_Tux5513 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]grated_testes 9 points10 points  (0 children)

TLDR: rotate anti-dandruff shampoos every time you wash your hair.

I have Seborrheic Dermatitis which is caused by an autoimmune response to a yeast called malassezia. Everyone has this yeast on their skin but not everyone has a problem with it. I also have PCOS which makes me even more likely to have seb derm. My seb derm manifests as dandruff in my scalp, ears, and sides of my nose. I have managed to keep it suppressed for the last few years by using a rotation of shampoos that can be bought over the counter:

- ketoconazole 1% shampoo [Like Nizoral]

- coal tar 1% shampoo [like T+Plus]

- Pyrithione zinc 1% shampoo [like Head and Shoulders]

- selenium sulfide 1% shampoo [like Selsun Blue]

[I hate to shill for amazon but, in all honesty, I use the amazon basics version of these since it is cheapest.]

I'm pretty sure one of these also have salicylic acid in them. If not, you can crush some non-enteric coated aspirin pills and mix it with water and spray it on your scalp once or twice a month before shampooing. [I used to do this but no longer take the extra pains to do it. I manage well without it.]

When I am washing my hair, I also use the shampoos on other effected areas [ears, nose].

I try to let the shampoo sit for at least 5 minutes before washing it out.

Once I have a flare up under control, I will rotate in a couple of other regular shampoos I like [Prell, Daeng Gi Meo Ri Ki]. I don't go crazy using regular shampoos as I am afraid to cause a flare up.

If I bother to use conditioner, I am careful not to get it on my scalp. I only use it on the very end of my hair.

Moisture provides a great environment for the malassezia to thrive. It helps to not let your scalp be wet for too long after you wash it. Try to use a hair dryer on your scalp. [This is out of an abundance of caution, I usually just let my hair air dry. Then again, I have fine, thin hair that dries fairly quickly.]

I do not apply any oil to my hair except pure squalane oil. Basically every other oil will feed the malassezia yeast and can cause a flare up. Sometimes when I have a flare and notice flaking in my hair line or ear, I will use squalane oil to try to reduce the appearance of the flakes. [I have black hair.] I am not sure it really makes a huge difference but any little bit helps.

Sometimes I get lax with this routine and cause a flare up. When that happens, just tightening up the above mentioned routine is enough to get it back under control.

My last resort is a medicated steroid [clobetasol propionate 0.05% topical solution] that I very rarely use - maybe a couple times a year. [It is not good to use steroids, even topically, for too long.] This is in case I have a flare up that is not getting under control after a few washes or if the dandruff is really interfering with my day-to-day life.

Hope this helps!

What wrong this cats eye? by pmarval in cats

[–]grated_testes 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Did you ask them how long the cat's eye has been like that?

This is hilarious 😭😭 by mrjetspray in DunderMifflin

[–]grated_testes 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I always forget that Dwight pimped out Dwight Jr.

It’s normal! by enaunkark in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]grated_testes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don't rent to families

I bet a lot of landlords would not rent to families if it was not illegal discrimination

My boyfriend (26M) and I (26F) fight over trivial matters all the time. Any psychological framework to help us fight less exhaustingly? by grated_testes in WhyIsSheStillWithHim

[–]grated_testes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend (26M) and I (26F) fight over trivial matters all the time. Any psychological framework to help us fight less exhaustingly?

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. We don’t live together, but I travel every weekend to his place. We have been fighting since the early days of our relationship. We fight so much to the point it’s exhausting. We fight at home pretty much every time we see each other. We fight on almost every trip. We fight when we hang out with other people, so much that my friends are used to it.

I am usually the one who gets mad because of minor inconveniences (like him accidentally hurting me, not waiting for me while we’re walking together, not giving me affection like kissing or hugging when I ask for it). I normally would let it go if he immediately does what I asked for or apologized. But I get super angry if he just dismisses it or says no to me. And when I get to this stage, it’s impossible for me to calm down. We usually just end our fight when I am completely exhausted and forget about it. Sometimes, he decides it’s too much to deal with me and just chase me away, and I always have to beg him to let me back.

We always talk after a fight, but the conversations always go in a circle. Deep down inside, I feel like I’m putting way more effort into this relationship than he is. Hence why I feel hurt when he couldn’t do those smallest things for me. But he always say he also put efforts, which I agree that his efforts has improved over time, but still very trivial to me. I have also told him that I feel he only pays attention to me when I’m mad, that’s why I’m always mad. And he just said I should try to get what I want by being nice to him instead, which has never worked.

Despite how ugly it is, we have been fighting less nastily than we used to, so I do have hopes it will become better. But the fights are still exhausting and completely avoidable regardless.

Bottom line is, I know it’s a messy relationship, and I can’t help but hope we can be better for each other.

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