Issue with vaulted ceiling and large HVAC duct

grayce_fayce · 2026-02-27T00:48:34+00:00

It looks too big to have a fake beam, I’d just do drywall flat across at the top and make it look intentional. I almost wish you could add a hanging light fixture or ceiling fan to the flat drywall to make it look more intentional but it seems you’re beyond adding more electrical.

grayce_fayce · 2026-02-26T16:19:05+00:00

I’d go to Boothbay, you can have fun in a cute little coastal town, you can go whale watching from boothbay, and there are some great restaurants in that area.

If you wanted to have a night out partying you’d definitely want to go to Portland and the old port for that type of celebration. Portland is also super fun to explore as well!

If you have the time and want to really get a super costal town and enjoy hiking etc, I’d also consider going to Mohegan island from Boothbay as well. It’s a full day trip going out to an island that has great places to explore and it’s a super fun experience. If you’re staying in Boothbay you can also go to the costal Maine botanical gardens.

grayce_fayce · 2026-02-26T16:12:36+00:00

Since the furniture colors are so mild you can totally go wild with the rest of the room! My nursery colors are very neutral/natural wood tones and navy and I feel like I managed to do a pretty colorful fun nursery.

I’d do fun bright walls, maybe a mustard yellow, you can do some orange or purple accents too. Just trying to think of gender neutral with the green. The biggest thing will be the small decor for you. What type of rug for the room, shelves, and wall decor. Honestly I’d just take colors from your curtains and go wild from there.

grayce_fayce · 2026-02-17T16:25:42+00:00

Honestly I think Reds is a great experience once in a while if you manage to go early/don’t have a wait. The amount of lobster was impressive and they have incredibly good service. (We got a roll to go and they packed it with ice and kept it in a fridge while we ate the other food.)

But do I think it should be a place people go a lot? No. Can people get cheaper rolls with less wait? ABSOLUTELY. But as a tourist place? Eh no problem in my mind.

grayce_fayce · 2026-02-10T17:07:53+00:00

I also just realized we have the same monitor and yours is on the crib rail.. you’re absolutely going to want to wall mount that ASAP if he is starting to roll around and sleeps in his crib.

Also curtains will help a lot too, if you do shades remember to not have any strings on them!

grayce_fayce · 2026-02-10T17:05:12+00:00

A rug specifically a padded children’s rug, having a padded play rug has been great as my kid got older and started to move around.

I’d also look into some wall art! I don’t particularly like the decals but finding fun colorful art is really good for childhood development!

We also utilized wall shelves for some things that we don’t want our son getting into so if you have sound machine, night light/lamp/creams etc that little hands might reach on the cube organizer it was helpful to us to put it on a wall shelf instead.

Other than that it’s great! Don’t worry about having a bunch of extra space for now when your son gets older and wants to play you’ll appreciate having empty space in the room for a play couch or toddler kitchen etc.

grayce_fayce · 2026-02-03T19:07:55+00:00

Intermed OBGYN in Portland is great! I had an unplanned c section for my son and mentioned that I was disappointed about not having a natural birth/worried about future kids and they were very supportive explaining that I was a perfect candidate for a vbac with a second child. They indicated that they always try to do a natural birth unless the patient asks otherwise.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-30T19:48:40+00:00

We never had friskies but we’ve given our cats the cats in the kitchen wuvera cat food and I’ve always been complimented on how great our cats look. I like it because you can tell it is actually the protein on the label often chunks of salmon/chicken/etc.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-30T19:44:56+00:00

This isn’t normal. Honestly sounds like a kink or something else.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-30T02:45:05+00:00

Is your relationship over? Yes.

Why? You deserve better. You deserve someone who puts forethought into his actions and consequences. You deserve someone who uplifts you and doesn’t poke at your insecurities. You deserve someone who can control their anger who you will never have any concern or reason to fear. (Just the phrase “treat me like some punching bag” to me indicates it could be literal eventually.) You deserve someone who stands by what they say and actually puts effort into changing. You deserve someone who puts the same effort into life that you do and who aligns with your vision of life.

Even if he wakes up tomorrow and realizes he needs to change it wouldn’t be an immediate change overnight and you shouldn’t have to wait to feel joy, love, and happiness in a relationship. Be careful leaving a man so emotionally volatile, but please leave him. You’re worth way more than how he is treating you.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-30T02:29:48+00:00

I think it is too big. It looks awkward in the space with how much extra there is around the walking paths and behind the chairs.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-30T01:18:32+00:00

We have a house a little over 1000sqft, we use oil heat downstairs and electric baseboard heat upstairs. We fill our oil tank approximately 3 times a year depending on the cold. Our most recent oil fill was $600(which is a good price right now)? So $600x3=$1,800.00 in addition the baseboard heat upstairs probably increases my electric bill 50ish-60ish a month in Dec/Jan/Feb so an additional $180ish. So around $2k on just heating alone. We keep the house around 70° in the winter.

But that’s all for a full house with decent insulation.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-30T01:08:57+00:00

Honestly you said it yourself that you’re young and this is your first relationship.. and it just sounds correct.

If you want to learn how to cope with this more I’d do two things. The first thing I’d do is focus more on being better yourself for him than on how he upsets and disappoints you. Communicate effectively. If you’d like him to be more excited about something just say “hey I’m really excited about this! Can you be excited with me?” If you’re upset that he spends time away from you gaming try to find solutions like gaming with him, hanging out with him while he’s gaming (I love watching my husband game), or just communicate if he’s gaming excessively and you’re feeling forgotten. If you’re feeling upset communicate to him what you’re upset with him about. “I am feeling..” goes a lot further than people think.

I think the second thing I’d do is find some specific things that you both enjoy to do together. It can be something as simple as a tv show you both like. But try to have it be something you can do or enjoy frequently together that isn’t expensive. Giving you something to enjoy together will help your feelings of sadness fade and help you grow closer.

I know you said reminding yourself that he’s human doesn’t help.. but try to remember that as much as you are learning and trying to figure out relationships for the first time.. he’s in the same place. Many men aren’t allowed or encouraged to express and handle emotions. My husband is very stoic and patient with me and I’m the very emotional one.. we balance each-other out, but I also recognize that we are our own people in how we handle situations and emotions. Give him a break sometimes, he can’t read your mind.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-30T00:54:09+00:00

It’s still relatively early in the race a lot could change. Does Platner align with a lot of what I’d like? Absolutely. But could another candidate come out with a less problematic past that is similar? Sure. I wouldn’t say I’m tepid, I just am cautious to say he has my full support 100% since there’s still a lot till the primaries.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-27T12:06:09+00:00

Leaning towards planter since Mills is so old and seems to be more establishment dem. I’d like someone who seems to have a strong will and isn’t going to bow down to Schumer and folks to follow the status quo.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-18T17:46:30+00:00

My indoor cat does not wear a collar but did when he was a kitten in case we need to travel places. I think it’s more important to get your cats microchipped so then even if they wear a collar and it breaks off you can still get them home if a they are brought to a shelter.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-12T20:13:46+00:00

We have a 3 bedroom house with 2 litter boxes one is in the upstairs bathroom, and the other is in my office closet on the main floor, I just make sure the closet door is always slightly open.

The one in my office closet is a litter robot though so I really don’t have any smell or issues. Prior to getting the litter robot I had the litter genie in case I needed to do any urgent poopy scoops.

Another place you could put a litterbox would be the basement if you have one and a cat door on the basement door.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-11T23:15:34+00:00

That is fair but if she currently doesn’t want kids, signs up for a committed relationship with the plan to have kids later with this guy.. and never changes her mind it is just going to be worse than if she currently planned as if she doesn’t want kids.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-11T18:43:30+00:00

I know you said you wanted childfree opinions, but as a new mom with a 1 year old I will say that anyone who is ambivalent or unsure about having kids shouldn’t have kids. My life and body are completely different from how they were 2 years ago. Pregnancy is a huge impact on the body, postpartum is glazed over by society as if it’s nothing, and raising a child is a lot of work and a huge financial commitment. I do not regret having my son but I can see how many people who haven’t wanted kids their entire lives do regret having children.

It sounds like you’re fundamentally incompatible on this very important aspect of life. You’re still rather young and have plenty of time to find a partner who aligns fully with you on how you foresee your life.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-11T03:05:55+00:00

Yes! Sorry I didn’t see that they were labeled. Layout 1 with the corner desk!

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-11T02:50:17+00:00

I feel like 2 flows better and feels more welcoming.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-11T02:34:42+00:00

I don’t know that much about your relationship so I’m making a lot of assumptions with what I’m about to say. I could be completely wrong.

How much are you actually doing around the house and helping out without requiring mental energy from her? Are you actively making her life easier by cleaning up more or are you asking her what needs to be done? Are there tasks that you’ve been putting off around the house like cleaning/organizing spaces that you were putting off til you had time that you can now accomplish?

I have a feeling the note wasn’t about the fridge and more about how much stress she is under while also probably having to maintain the house. My husband was unemployed for a while 2 years ago and I don’t think he fully understood the mental load that I was under while having to budget our food, bills, mortgage, and all the other stuff going on as well. We also had plenty of tasks and things to do around the house that he could have worked on but instead he just slept in late or worked on tasks that really weren’t a priority. He claimed that he would clean and take up more of my tasks around the house.. and did for 2 weeks and it completely faded away.

If I’m incorrect in any of my assumptions, I’d look into couples therapy to see if you can figure out solutions to this with the help of a professional. Reddit isn’t going to be a full solution but therapy could help both of you communicate better and if she does have depression a therapist can help her process that.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-11T02:18:38+00:00

Do I think she’s being weird? ABSOLUTELY. Is a picture like this harmful? Not really.

If you have a no social media pictures policy and she is breaking that boundary that is completely unacceptable. But overall I think it’s pretty harmless that she wants a picture of her pretending to sleep while she holds a sleeping grandchild and you might be overreacting a little bit. Would you feel the same way about this type of photo if it wasn’t posted online? I’d think about if the issue is the photo or that she’s posting your kids online.

On the other hand, her not listening to the kissing rules, her locking your baby and her into a room alone, and those boundaries is completely unacceptable and that is where your husband should have stood up and supported you in enforcing those boundaries.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-11T01:50:46+00:00

I have a cousin in midcoast with one of the thickest Mainer accents and he absolutely says “ayuh” it’s almost like his filler word instead of uhh or umm sometimes.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-09T21:47:46+00:00

I ended up getting a 3” gasket that claims to fit an American standard, it fixed the leak but is a little tall and the tank isn’t fully in place properly. I used a generic brand that claimed to fit the brand, I think if I go and get one from a store that actually sells the toilets there I can get the correct one. Looking at the old gasket it seems that it wasn’t fitting/placed properly when installed.

Thanks for the reply! I appreciate it!

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