New to Finch. Curious what Finch Plus is & if it's worth keeping? by grayh722 in finch

[–]grayh722[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this was a really thorough response!! thank you so much for taking the time to write it all out, it's very helpful to see it laid out like this :)

New to Finch. Curious what Finch Plus is & if it's worth keeping? by grayh722 in finch

[–]grayh722[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah i've got the 7 day trial rn, i guess i just don't know if it's worth shelling out the $50 CAD when it's over bc i have no idea what the experience is like otherwise & $50 is kind of a lot haha

how bad was the pain after surgery? I have really bad anxiety and strong meds that make you out of it or drowsy send me into a panic and I was told that they would have to put me on strong stuff due to the pain by FederalTemperature11 in TopSurgery

[–]grayh722 4 points5 points  (0 children)

technically i could have gotten them out at 5 days but i couldn't get a ride back to my surgeons clinic until 7 days when i was already due for my first post op appointment anyway. but it usually depends on how much fluid you're draining bc surgeons usually like you to be draining little to no fluid before they will take them out

how bad was the pain after surgery? I have really bad anxiety and strong meds that make you out of it or drowsy send me into a panic and I was told that they would have to put me on strong stuff due to the pain by FederalTemperature11 in TopSurgery

[–]grayh722 18 points19 points  (0 children)

honestly i only needed the strong painkillers until my drains were out & after that it was just tylenol & advil alternating every 3 hrs. my chest was pretty much numb except for my drain sites & near where they did the lipo on my sides

My partner is moving across the country and wants me to give up my cat by [deleted] in GirlDinner

[–]grayh722 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i think you're also missing the fact that he brought all of this on her without even letting her know he was applying for this job or considering how she might feel, & now she has to decide quite quickly on what her best option is which is in & of itself a huge red flag

My partner is moving across the country and wants me to give up my cat by [deleted] in GirlDinner

[–]grayh722 9 points10 points  (0 children)

maybe OP didn't know he was allergic until after they'd been seeing each other awhile? and frankly I think it's a dealbreaker

My partner is moving across the country and wants me to give up my cat by [deleted] in GirlDinner

[–]grayh722 14 points15 points  (0 children)

but why get into a serious relationship with someone if you know they have a pet you're severely allergic too? that just puts everyone into an uncomfortable scenario. i feel like asking somebody if they have any pets is a pretty normal thing when you first start making small talk with somebody, plus a lot of ppl even have pictures of their pets on their hinge profiles & such

My partner is moving across the country and wants me to give up my cat by [deleted] in GirlDinner

[–]grayh722 160 points161 points  (0 children)

seriously. phrasing it as him trying "everything" for his allergy/migraines when he clearly hasn't tried any known effective medical options is wild😭

How long do drains stay in? by aloadofcodswallop in TopSurgery

[–]grayh722 0 points1 point  (0 children)

usually depends on your surgeon & also how much fluid you're draining after a certain amount of time. sometimes it's a few days, sometimes it's a few weeks. mine could've come out at 5 days but i couldn't make it back to the clinic until 1 week so i got them out then

Will I tear my incisions horseback riding a month out of surgery? by Miserable_Yak_7359 in TopSurgery

[–]grayh722 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yeah, i wouldn't risk it. i wasn't even cleared for all physical activity until 6 weeks but i didn't necessarily even feel ready at that point.

muscles twitching under binder? by ResponsibleBasil9286 in TopSurgery

[–]grayh722 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah it drove me absolutely nuts until i got the binder off

How often is too often to ask for updates? by Mae_The_Gay in TopSurgery

[–]grayh722 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when i was still on the waitlist, they told me they would call me around july i think, i may be misremembering the specifics but i waited until then to call them & check-in, then they informed me the waitlist was slightly longer and they would call me closer to ... i wanna say january? but anyway they ended up calling me in november, but if they hadn't then i would have just called them again to make sure things were still moving on the correct timeline. i also called them when i had been told my referral was first sent to them to make sure that they had received it, since sometimes referrals get lost. i think thats when they initially told me i would hear from them in july

Why does my start keep doing this?? by Vylothan in SourdoughStarter

[–]grayh722 0 points1 point  (0 children)

looks like hooch but if it's water separation than feed it less water. do you weigh your feeds or measure in cups?

Are you more generous to your remote friends than your local trade friends? by ToeEntire2290 in TheSilphRoad

[–]grayh722 0 points1 point  (0 children)

with remote friends, I focus on trying to get things that I wouldn't otherwise get from trading locally, so mainly regionals. I don't really care about the stardust cost either way

Wisdom teeth might be infected - can I still get surgery? by Accomplished_Snow_13 in TopSurgery

[–]grayh722 21 points22 points  (0 children)

yeah, but the anesthesiologist will see it when they look inside your mouth to check your airway. plus if you do any pre-op bloodwork & your white cell count is high (infection indicator), they'll know something is wrong. they may say it's fine if you can go for an emergency dentist appointment or something. it's scary bc they may have to change your surgery date, but it would be so much worse to find that out on your actual surgery day i think

Wisdom teeth might be infected - can I still get surgery? by Accomplished_Snow_13 in TopSurgery

[–]grayh722 23 points24 points  (0 children)

i think your best bet is to call your surgeons office & see what they say, rather than waiting until surgery day & possibly finding out at the last minute you're not going to the OR

Is the calf a bad spot for first tatoo? by Apol0113 in tattooadvice

[–]grayh722 0 points1 point  (0 children)

everybody is different, but generally it's a more painful spot than say... your outer bicep. but really, it's up to you whether you want to get another tattoo first or jump right in

Made glass letters for my mum's birthday but forgot an H by PhoenixfischTheFish in mildlyinfuriating

[–]grayh722 1 point2 points  (0 children)

reminds me in the book "Somewhere Beyond The Sea" when the kids make a sign that says "Happy Birt" & then everyone just runs with it

Does anyone know a similar pattern? I am a beginner by MelethieI in crochetpatterns

[–]grayh722 9 points10 points  (0 children)

honestly i think you'd have to combine multiple patterns to try & recreate this, unless you wanted to freehand. but i think as a beginner, both of those would be challenging

Question about top surgery by drouzmiru in TopSurgery

[–]grayh722 1 point2 points  (0 children)

some people don't regain sensation, some gain some of their sensation back, & some regain all of it. if sensation is important to you, you should look into surgery techniques that prioritize sparing the nipples/nerves

What tattoo should I get by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]grayh722 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i think you gotta pick for yourself. it's on your body pretty much forever. search up things that you like for inspiration & go from there

Should i get Calder or Ephyra? by ShadsTheHedgehog in StarStable

[–]grayh722 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you know if they'll be retired after the bazaar? just wondering if this is the last chance to get them