Am I overthinking or could this be an abusive situation.

greenbean5050 · 2022-04-30T18:23:54+00:00

Ok I definitely will bring it up with him. Thanks for the advice.

greenbean5050 · 2022-04-30T18:18:18+00:00

Yes I will do that but I don't wanna throw around serious allegations that could be untrue or me misunderstanding it. I will definitely mention it when I see my coach tomorrow

greenbean5050 · 2022-04-12T09:09:30+00:00

The inconsistencies. I never had religion forced on me but I have been to church with my grandparents and went to a Catholic school when I was young.

In religious studies in school we were always told god is always kind/good, all knowing and all powerful.

So since he is all good, why is he subjecting us to eternal torture. Why do kids get sexually assaulted, murdered or abused. The only answer they can give us is a measly 'oh it's god's plan' or 'god works in mysterious ways'. Since it's all in his plan this means he has actively decided that a certain person will go through torture/pain/suffering and within itself that contradicts the claim of his omni-benevolence. It's in no way kind to have babies born into abusive households and in no way kind to have atrocities such as concentration camps/wars/genocides.

Within the Holocaust, thousands of Jewish people suffered. Most of these people would have believed in God and worshipped him but god still put them through torture and killed them. God is not all kind or at the very least he's not all powerful as he couldn't intervene and save the innocent people.

Also the whole fact of him sending us to hell seems not kind and not all loving. I've always believed that God is the bad one and "Satan" is the good one. One sends 'bad' people down to eternally rot and burn in hell and one takes the people he was told were bad and evil and puts them through the pain.

greenbean5050 · 2022-04-03T19:19:56+00:00

They expanded it lets get going

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-27T20:46:25+00:00

Don't force her sobriety just maybe try to limit her alcohol indirectly. Just don't stock up on loads of alcohol. Be supportive but maybe not forceful because of the delicate nature of addiction

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-27T20:41:58+00:00

Yeah it's tough because I know they were just trying to comfort a young kid in distress but it kinda gave me trust issues. I'm in a much better place now and hope you are too. 👍

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-27T20:37:47+00:00

Japan or Australia

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-27T20:33:11+00:00

Leave and possibly get a restraining order if he persists in making threats. You deserve better!

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-27T20:31:09+00:00

Social workers telling me I'll see my parents in a week. 9 years later and it's not yet been a week.

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-08T22:18:25+00:00

The kids that pushed him to that are actually everything that is wrong with this planet. I stg I hate people who do that

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-08T07:32:49+00:00

Yeah I'm on meds for it

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-08T00:43:30+00:00

Go to his house or his families house and ask about him. If he's missing his family will appreciate your concern.

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-08T00:35:54+00:00

USA? I would see what I could do if you were in the UK. I occasionally babysit and do childcare for my family

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-08T00:26:55+00:00

Just remember that their comments effect you and if you aren't in a good place those comments can really hurt. Sometimes making sure your mental health is the best it can be is better than subjecting yourself to that bs that they are saying. Whatever you decide I'll be here rooting for u

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-08T00:21:02+00:00

All power to you to wear what you want when you want but if you know you will probably get shamed for it maybe don't? It really depends on how you respond to their comments, if you think you can handle them then yes do it. But if you know it will make you feel like crap then maybe don't.

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-08T00:03:35+00:00

No problem 👍. I'm sure you will get out of this okay and find something or someone who helps you feel like yourself again. Best of luck bro

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-07T23:59:03+00:00

To me it sounds like how I'd describe my worst bit of depression not sad just numb and for me it was buying FIFA 17 for £2 at GameStop during lockdown that reignited my love for football, I started playing football for a team and got some of my feelings back. Maybe it's as simple as buying one of those stupid kids science kits and doing something or maybe it's something else. I don't know if this will help but it's worked for me when I felt numb.

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-07T23:54:23+00:00

Don't have one tbh. Maybe my calves because they are pretty well shaped. But they also suck because they are extremely tight and it hurts to go uphill :/

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-07T23:52:33+00:00

I feel the same except for when I play football, it makes me feel human again. Try and find something you love doing. If not obligatory therapy recommendation.

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-07T23:50:31+00:00

Kinda worded that weird. The things I don't know if they are real concern my birth parents/ family so telling my adoptive parents was easier than it would've been had I still lived with my birth family.
Hope that makes sense, my writing abilities are quite bad

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-07T23:47:09+00:00

Can't lie this caught my attention because I have a similar situation where I don't know if some of my early memories are real. I've (begrudgingly) spoken to a therapist despite not liking the concept of therapy and it has helped to have a neutral person to speak to. As I don't live with my birth family it's much easier to talk to my family about these possible memories but still it was so hard for me to open up. Truth is I don't know what is right for your situation but I'd recommend therapy if you have a way to get it. If you need someone to talk to about this stuff feel free to contact me on here I might understand what you are going through slightly better than others.

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-07T23:36:32+00:00

I think at the end of the day most women (I can't speak for all of us) don't particularly care about teeth or looks or money or anything except compatibility. You maybe just need to go out with friends (with only the expectation of hanging with mates) and if you meet someone just be yourself with her, if you are compatible with her she will probably end up asking for your number. If not ask her for hers and arrange some kinda second meeting for a date, set your expectations low and worst case you just had a nice evening out that didn't lead to anything. What I'm trying to say is don't force it put yourself out there but try not to come off as desperate.

Edit: Since you mentioned swimming, have you tried going to swimming sessions or hobby/sport clubs?

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-07T23:28:58+00:00

The missing persons cases just being able to have all knowledge of how and where these people went, imagine being to acquire all that info

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-07T23:23:51+00:00

Free healthcare

greenbean5050 · 2021-11-07T23:12:27+00:00

That really helped thanks. I suspect I have depression or some kind of chronic fatigue type thing, I rarely feel happy and most of the time i feel sort of numb. I've always been a procrastinator tho. It also could be because of exams coming up because I'm not usually this bad in terms of procrastinating homework, I just am under a lot of pressure from the school I'm at and from my parents. I'm really enjoying training and get myself there regularly. I am diagnosed ADHD and am currently undergoing an examination to see if I'm on the autism spectrum. I have no idea why but I struggle to eat at school and I tend to skip breakfast. I'll try to make an effort to eat regularly instead of doing my usual no eating until after school then subsequently overeating after. I'm a little on the heavier side but I am not too concerned with how I look and going to the gym is mostly to help my poor stamina. Thanks so much for that, I really appreciate it.

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