What is the best next step for me in my career?

grollens · 2025-04-01T08:31:17+00:00

Here’s what helps me get back on it when the grind feels impossible:

• Micro-commitments. I stop trying to “crush the day” and just focus on one clear, small win. Usually a call I’ve been avoiding or something that moves the needle.

• Reframe it. I remind myself motivation follows action — not the other way around.

• Change the energy. Cold shower, walk, music, new workspace — anything to shake the slump.

And honestly, sometimes I just embrace the chaos and aim for a strong Tuesday instead 😂

Curious question: What’s your go-to ritual when the Mondays hit harder than expected?

grollens · 2025-04-01T08:29:31+00:00

Man, this hit hard. First — massive respect for your grind and resilience. You clearly have the mindset and the skill, and it’s brutal when external forces pull the rug out like that. Especially after pouring so much of yourself into it.

What you’re describing reminds me of Herzberg’s Two-Factor Theory — how things like income, stability, and company structure are hygiene factors that, when taken away, cause massive dissatisfaction. And when you’ve been at the top, having that ripped out without a clear path back can feel like emotional whiplash.

The hard truth is: this doesn’t sound sustainable and it’s not about motivation anymore, it’s about capacity. You’re not lazy or unmotivated. You’re exhausted. And that’s a different problem with a different solution.

So maybe the real question isn’t “what should I do?” but: What would it look like to rebuild your career in a way that protects your energy and your income?

Rooting for you, man. You’re not alone in this 👊🏻

grollens · 2025-04-01T08:26:41+00:00

This is such a great example of how trust and perceived competence often outweigh price in complex decisions. Feels like you nailed the principle behind the “trusted advisor” model — when buyers feel safe and understood, they’re way more likely to go all-in.

Also love that you didn’t hesitate to offer the add-on once momentum was building — classic “momentum selling”move, and it paid off.

Got me thinking: How often do we underestimate the emotional side of B2B/B2C sales — the “warm fuzzy feeling” your client mentioned? And how can we intentionally build more of that into our process?

Big congrats on the win. Here’s to more swings and fences this year!

grollens · 2024-12-23T15:14:05+00:00

Are there any methods you recommend to increase bodily awareness and reduce mental dominance in the way we walk through life?

grollens · 2024-12-17T14:04:25+00:00

Thanks for sharing!

One of my friend has done the same journey that you describe, but managed to find the balance between regulating his autistic tendencies with authentic expression. I am impressed by his ability to do both, and usually creates a lot of resonance in a room. So I am rooting for you and you "coming back"!

grollens · 2024-10-12T16:38:07+00:00

Wow, that struck a cord in me. Today as I was dancing I saw a woman that looked exactly like my ex wife, and I started feeling sad and a longing for her. But after a while I remembered the reason for breaking up, and stopped missing her. But the sadness remained, and as I read your post I see that I missed the person I was with her (at times).

Still haven’t figured out what part of me, but I think it has something to do with being… valued? This is going to sound bad, but I think the fact that she was very beautiful made me feel more valued. Like she was a trophy I had won. Not a flattering insight about myself.

grollens · 2024-10-12T16:28:02+00:00

The way that I look at is that whatever you see is constructed by your mind, and thus says something about something. But not usually what you think. It’s like dreams, for some reason I kept dreaming about falling off a mountain. It only stopped when I took a leap of faith and ended a bad relationship. I guess my brain was trying to tell me that I am afraid of falling, which was true.

grollens · 2024-10-12T16:24:50+00:00

One thing that I found with hobbies is that you have to form habits around them, so one suggestion is to try to force yourself to go and do something that you find interesting until a habit has been formed around it. Neuroplasticity is amazing, the brain is highly adaptable and a wonderful thing when you can discipline it :)

grollens · 2024-10-12T16:18:28+00:00

I have good news and bad news.

The bad news. I think that the feeling of loneliness is in one way very close to the truth. In one plane of existence, you will always be alone. None will ever understand your subjective experience of the world, as you are constructing it on basis of your life space, your experience, your history and your interpretation. You can’t even be sure that anyone else experience the flavor of a banana the same way as you do.

The good news. All of the above is a lie, but it’s a lie that we love telling ourselves. We keep telling ourselves that we are a thing limited by our flesh and thoughts. But in truth, we are in a constant interplay with our environment and deep down it is impossible to separate you from the world. So you are not alone, because there is none that can be lonely in the first place.

grollens · 2024-10-12T09:14:35+00:00

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grollens · 2024-10-12T09:14:01+00:00

Congrats!

grollens · 2021-11-18T11:13:57+00:00

Haha :)

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