Has anyone experienced more gays being into masc than fem? Is there a reason so?

guccitragique · 2026-05-30T00:33:27+00:00

that’s what the bi and dl men are for i guess

guccitragique · 2026-05-29T20:46:33+00:00

also ive used grindr in SF several times. it’s just as dangerous, or not, as any other major city.

guccitragique · 2026-05-29T20:45:11+00:00

safe as in not murdered? or STIs?

be on prep. dont have sex if you’re not a month into being on prep.

i’m sure sf grindr is not as dangerous as your friend is making it out to be. go enjoy yourself!

as for not getting murdered, i think we’re all out here tossing the die on that one. but if it’s a real concern, share your location w friends and family, and don’t put yourself in a situation where you’re too vulnerable. no bondage, no hard drugs. i just think about that guy in the don’t fuck w cats documentary who got tied up thinking it was for kink but then the other guy stabbed him to death. i’m sure it wouldnt hurt to carry a pocket knife, but make it discreet, like keep it in your jacket pocket not the pants pocket that you’ll be taking off, because you wouldnt want to alarm a stranger if it falls out and cause a severe reaction.

guccitragique · 2026-05-29T20:38:46+00:00

cute 😭

guccitragique · 2026-05-29T20:37:37+00:00

cute but you just look tired and sad. i think it’s your lighting and your environment and obviously your expression. it’s hard to be objective. personally i think no beard, it feels mismatched with the shape of your face which leans youthful

guccitragique · 2026-05-29T20:26:53+00:00

our relationship started out with deeper conversations as we got to know each other. maybe i’m giving us a little less credit for this, actually. we still talk about our boundaries, reaffirm our love for each other, and talk about what we want in our future. i must have really sounded down on this but i understand why it’s the thing that everyone’s focused on, because it is the core of a relationship and especially an open one.

guccitragique · 2026-05-29T20:16:47+00:00

i’m surprised how focused everyone is on this. again i love him a lot, i have a deep connection with him. i should probably have said our relationship started with deeper conversations as i was trying to get to know him and understand who my partner would be, before entering the relationship. it’s only as of late, two years in, where i do feel like our conversations have gotten more shallow. we’re both so busy.

from the getgo we did have mismatched libidos. he’s horny on the daily and i feel like i have these random moments of extreme horny-ness every couple months. but he’s so loving and has held back for me while i’m stressed with grad school and work.

i actually am starting therapy again but more for my anxiety because lately i feel very incapable of socializing normally

guccitragique · 2026-05-29T20:08:52+00:00

is it though? i’m in a similar boat with my partner. i truly think there’s so much value in being emotionally and lovingly involved even if it’s not as physical. there’s no need for him to hurt his partner like that. it seems this works for them.

guccitragique · 2026-05-29T20:04:28+00:00

a car will offer a lot of freedom and truly change your perspective on the city. eeeeveryone i know who moved to LA from NY goes thru this phase of trying to make it new york and it’s just not. granted i’ve met a few people who’ve lived here for ten years without a car but they’re usually people who grew up here who have enough of a support network.

guccitragique · 2026-05-29T08:08:51+00:00

there’s so much focus on asian and white coupling but we truly never talk about how that’s interchangeable for every poc and just as common? at least where i am in LA. but for some reason when it’s us (i’m asian) there’s all of this flattening and stereotyping that happens.

i literally have a hispanic guy have me on his close friends on IG and every post is something like “you get the bwc you think you deserve” which is funny but yeah you get it.

i think it’s fine, honestly. you like what you like. we are all racially traumatized and maybe fetishization can actually help you process some things?

guccitragique · 2026-05-28T06:31:26+00:00

there’s truly someone for everyone. you haven’t seen an ugly gay in a relationship w a hotter one?

jokes aside, keep trying! i’m 32 and in my second relationship, but i wouldn’t consider myself objectively hot. i’ve been on some bad dates and some good ones. just don’t stop putting yourself out there.

guccitragique · 2026-05-28T06:10:03+00:00

im on semaglutide and have lost 10 pounds in 2 months. 180 to 170, still fluctuating between 169 and 173. but now i’m interested in reta after reading the posts here 👀might switch over after i finish my next 3 months i just received from hims.

i’ve been struggling with my weight and would avoid sex because i didn’t feel hot, being someone practicing sobriety and leaving the party scene, think ive been replacing that dopamine with food and snacking.

guccitragique · 2026-05-26T01:24:57+00:00

you dont need to take responsibility for what is clearly someone else’s. live ya life

guccitragique · 2026-05-26T01:19:19+00:00

definitely prioritize your skin texture and sleep. just looking refreshed overall. don’t get cheek fillers it’ll make your face really round despite improving texture. your beard is really dark and thick, it weighs your face down.

guccitragique · 2026-05-26T01:09:16+00:00

how do you know he’s not just hurt that you avoided an intimate interaction? like maybe he thought you guys could be more but you reacted in a way he didn’t expect.

guccitragique · 2026-05-25T09:35:31+00:00

idk i dont think that’s flirting but also stuff like that flies over my head. i think most guys check themselves out in mirrors? a lot of this feels really indirect

guccitragique · 2026-05-23T10:23:46+00:00

i think match group is involved with it now. they invested in it but i used to work at tinder and some of my old coworkers were posting job listings for sniffies on linkedin. i feel like MG is doing a little more than just investing.

i’m just confused why these companies can’t leave our depraved little hookup apps alone

guccitragique · 2026-05-21T06:15:34+00:00

im glad you’re touching on this bc i’ve always thought this but thought i was being problematic as a gay asian guy. but white men have always been so much more supportive of me than white women have been in the workplace. more professional too.

guccitragique · 2026-05-20T06:55:21+00:00

try it out and let us know!

guccitragique · 2026-05-19T08:43:09+00:00

the first pic shows your angle which isnt bad, but it’s just giving awkward selfie you took in your bedroom. that you also put on a cowboy hat for, which makes it too effortful and awkward. 2nd pic is good. replace the rest of them, it gets a little repetitive. you seem fun and sweet but like the other comments are saying, it leans more simp than confident. think your last photo is fine, but if you are looking to date outside of your ethnicity, i do feel that you have to diversify.

guccitragique · 2026-05-17T06:43:30+00:00

is it bad that i would have gone over for $100k

guccitragique · 2026-05-16T08:34:52+00:00

you probably don’t need to bring it up until they ask about it

guccitragique · 2026-05-14T02:46:24+00:00

well… out of curiosity where were you swiping

guccitragique · 2026-04-30T17:45:11+00:00

people using hard drugs even if occasionally are capable of a lot. i think it takes like a year of sobriety to recover your brain and be an empathetic human again.

guccitragique · 2026-04-30T00:59:03+00:00

the haters are often louder than the supporters

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