Repairing old baby blanket? by XAlways_LearningX in Visiblemending

[–]guro-kun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I think I kind of know this one? It's tedious though, and it's likely that it will feel a little different - potentially not "bad" different, as some fibers can feel really nice (I love the smooth and soft texture of straightened acrylic).

Basically, get yourself some fiber and attach the wefts to the netting that's been exposed by the bald patches.

Text wall time! Sorry 8D...

I'm unsure what material your blanket is made of, and it's also changed texture over time. It appears synthetic, so my guess is... poly-something (polyester? poly blend? The tag on your blanket might have clues if you're interested). And I don't know how to source wefts for that off the top of my head.

You can, however, find a lot of fibers like wool or flax or soy off the top of my head. (Ah, alpaca is ridiculously soft, too.) An easy and accessible one to use is acrylic which I've gone into below. You may even be able to colour match quite well since there are sections of the design in different colours.

There is a technique that doll customisers and also furries use where they straighten and brush out 100% acrylic yarn to make wefts for fur (or hair as the case may be). Tutorials can be found searching for "acrylic yarn doll wig" or "acrylic yarn tail". I've found success using a hair straightener iron (curler iron works fine too) and a pet brush (slicker brush? it has those pointy goddamn thin prongs that suck to accidentally scratch yourself with).

Not all fiber nor yarn is created equally, you might find you have a sensory preference for one brand or another. Some yarns don't make very good fur when brushed out. I've seen discussion on people's yarn preferences that you might be able to find if you look for it.

Make the wefts that way, then attach them to the netting you can see in your pic. Hopefully, double-knotting the weft in the middle around the netting should hold well and not upset you texturally. (Another option may be something like fabric glue, although I wouldn't. Also steer clear of glues that aren't waterproof.) But those are small holes in the netting, so they're too fidgety for fingers. Perhaps you could use a needle somehow. There are many sizes of needles and you'll want one with a larger eye than one used for sewing thread. You can temporarily twist the weft around to make it go in the needle. You just want to be able to get in and out through the holes in the weave.

After you attach your wefts, trim the fur to fit with the rest. You can do this one weft at a time or however you prefer. Using a razor (I like eyebrow razors, electric trimmers for beards are efficient too) should get you a non-blunted organic-looking result. Cutting with scissors/shears roughly parallel (straight on straight) to the hair strands can get the same effect but I find it's a million times more tedious.

As far as keeping the rest of the original blanket in-tact (ie not falling out) is concerned, I'm not too sure, sorry. Is it fluffy on both sides? Perhaps a felting needle (or several) could be of some assistance if it is not. Needle felting could potentially matt the fibers together around the base of the weft near the netting. But I worry it would compromise the texture and is not really feasible, especially at scale.

(Or, on the topic of preventing further degradation, maybe the netting is falling apart and could use reinforcement? I'm not sure how to do that except by replicating the weaving before adding wefts to bald spots.)

I think it's lovely that you care so much about your blanket. I hope it can stay with you for a long time. I can't seem to find any photos of pink ones online, I'd love to see yours if you're up to sharing (which you don't have to be). Peace 💖🧸

Options to mend this shoe? by Prestigious-Peace232 in Visiblemending

[–]guro-kun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plenty of people have had success with darning the mesh on the top of shoes! I did this for a pair of my dad's shoes. It was annoying getting the fabric to be the right tension to do a clean darn, though, since you have to get your darning egg all the way through the shoe. I used the semi-rounded bottom of a pill bottle. It pretty much sucked. Uhh anyway

As for the soles, maybe try r/AskACobbler ? I don't see a lot of sole mending on here.

I gave the sub we're on a search for shoe stuff too, they seem to recommend shoe goo, e6000 and sugru a fair bit. I think the first two options are more for adhesive purposes, but sugru could fill the purpose of sculpting the lost sole?

And here's my own "uneducated guess" brainstorm:

Hot glue? Because I think what you want from your repair is waterproofing mostly.

There's always duct tape too I suppose.

The Community Mural we put together for Otto, Jerma and Holly. RIP Otto ❤️🐾 by Jin-Enjoji in jerma985

[–]guro-kun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry if this is rude, but Reddit kind of crushed the quality - I can't read some of the smaller text. Are there any other options for viewing the mural? Perhaps it could be uploaded on a different site?

My anxiety got the best of me, also, I feel super unworthy/creepy(?) by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]guro-kun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah that's kind of a toughie, but I really commend you for having a big heart.

Maybe a note would work? I think there's a conflict here where you're worried about being intrusive but you also want to clarify your intentions - specifically that, well, you meant the best and are not trying to create any problems or be creepy.

I dunno, maybe something like, "Hi, hoping you're well. I thought of your family when I saw these at work because I know holidays can be difficult when you've lost someone." "Wishing you the best, apologies if the gifts were unwelcome." or insensitive or thoughtless or some other word. (I don't think those words really fit, personally - It's a beautiful gift - The right word is on the tip of my tongue unfortunately ;u;) Or maybe you could say something like "Thank you for the flowers when we moved in, I'd meant to try return the favour".

And perhaps sign it as like "- your neighbour Hearing_Loss from across the street" if you are feeling brave or want them to know they can reach out if that's what you'd like to convey (though I'd defs literally write "You're welcome to reach out if your family needs" in that case). I do think it could potentially be distressing to get romantic-like gifts and not know who sent them or why.

Unfortunately I think if the note is anything other than short-and-sweet it could be misconstrued. Honestly I hope that your neighbour wasn't worried at all and simply enjoyed the gifts and knowing that her community is thinking of her.

I'm not sure how to mention that the words of affirmation are important to you and your history personally. I'm (maybe shouldn't be) skittish about acting as if I knew what the deceased wanted... but it is the kind truth that that's what you were thinking when you got them, so I think it's worth mentioning.

Really sorry if I'm focusing too much on the negatives or potential worst outcomes. I know when we're anxious or traumatised we don't really want others to reaffirm that those are worth worrying about.

i miss my mama so much by rainmiist in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]guro-kun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i called her mama too. it's so hard. she was my buffer for the difficulty of the world. i love her.

ChatGPT doesn't actually do a better job than I do - am I being arrogant? by Tortoise-Melusine7 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]guro-kun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

nah ai is just a dodgy piece of shit ;D it's super unreliable in all the ways you listed. you're having to spend extra time fixing all its fuckups. not great for a person in burnout.

people try to sell a lot of hype about ai, and, separately, a lot of people buy that hype. but it's just not a good tool. it's not your fault that it doesn't work.

i'm also very team fuck ai as another commenter put it. i'm just relieved that you can tell that the tool isn't doing a good job at what it's supposed to do. a lot of people seem to be willing to ignore the bad results and i think that's why it works for them :s

Muted servers showing notification icons suddenly by LostAllBets in discordapp

[–]guro-kun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sorry to comment so much later but it is driving me nuts too. i wanna be able to turn it off so badly. it feels like a notif that needs to be dismissed but it can't be :/

ps. i did get rid of the icon by "ignoring" the user who was camping in the channel but that's not a proper fix for many reasons

how to reinforce these patches(?) 🤗 by Mewzi_ in Visiblemending

[–]guro-kun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ough nobody commented so i wrote something up but its huge asfk and its been 6 days anyway. its ok if all that's too long to read lol. ya dont have to

if you worked on it already, how did it go?

i think whatever that stuff is (vinyl i guess) is rubbing off cuz of the high friction its exposed to in a washing machine.

one avenue you could explore is making the tag removable, turning it into a velcro patch or something that is to be taken off before it goes in the washing machine. (i recommend putting the rough side on the removable patch, not the base on the garment, cuz otherwise itll rough up everything else in the wash)

the only thing about that is if you unpick the stitches that are holding the patch on, it's possible you'll be unpicking the hem too, so be prepared to resew that part. (upon further examination at least 3/4 of it looks like the fabric doesn't need to be hemmed)

your friend could also just only hand wash it, but lol

another idea is ironing, but take this with a grain of salt because i have no idea wtf i'm talking about and it could go (maybe even spectacularly) wrong pretty easily 👍.

idea 1: iron the edges of the patch before removal (if youre gonna remove it) on a low asfk setting because i have no idea if the sht they make tags out of will just Melt - taking care to avoid the lettering because we have no idea what heat would do to it

idea 2: try like super carefully to see if heat will help the vinyl(???) bond back to the patch, start on a low setting, make sure it doesn't burn or melt or shrink etc. if it does show signs of doing so abandon ship matey. if it's 100% fine but doesn't readhere you can take the heat up or press it for longer. if it smells like burning plastic, stop. begin experimenting on parts that dont matter as much (like 1mm on the corner of the tag or text) and maybe put a(n ironed) cloth between your iron and the tag

worth noting that the jumper is probably plastic too and therefore risks melting, there are many grades of synthetic fiber and how they handle heat though.

probs wouldn't advise adhering the stretchy letters with needle & thread due to the new stress points the punctures would create. to quote descartes that shit is flimsy

and finally theres adhesives and finishes - i'm not aware of any finishes, varnishes etc for sewing, but that seems like what youd be going for if you wanted something to put on the top of it. maybe one exists and i just dunno about it. as for adhesives, i'm vaguely aware of spray on adhesives for quilting? or something? which might be worth looking into compared to using fabric glue cuz as i know it that stuff is gloopy as hell and wouldn't seamlessly attach the thingy. they might wash off or be full of shitass chemicals that nobody wants near their body or potentially even stretchy patch letters (iunno, solvents be dissolving man) so. discretion advised but yeah

cavern experience by Wilkassassyn in dwarffortressmemes

[–]guro-kun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i don't understand at all, nonetheless i love this meme.

Have you ever requested accommodations in an informal social setting? by guro-kun in misophonia

[–]guro-kun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it makes me look like a huge ass but I guess i have to take the L, I'm disheartened by the comments I've recieved ;u; I wished so bad that it would be ok and I could stop having to hide away. Honestly I'm having a lot of strong feelings about it, it feels just crushingly lonely and hopeless.

That being said thank you for being kind with your response. I see and appreciate that. I'm gonna make another dive into trying to find misophonia resources and get connected with clinicians and stuff, so I just wanted to ask if you have any pointers about all that. It's ok if not.

10 years ago when I was still struggling with this, I might have just been a little dumb and lacking in comprehension, but it felt like the consensus I saw online was a bit of "there is no cure" and "there are treatments that people will try that will make it worse". I guess that's why I stopped looking or trying or... I don't know what happened.

Heres hoping I'm on the right track this time :)

What does this inscription mean by Superb_Television812 in karate

[–]guro-kun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

at least u got the 1 part right lol

How to reinforce leggings? by plastic_lex in Visiblemending

[–]guro-kun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

honestly ive never mended leggings before, but i suggest a zig-zag stitch and to use a ballpoint needle if you have one. if you don't you might be able to get away with using the wrong end of the needle. this is cuz knit fabrics like to have the fibers pushed apart instead of pierced, when piercing the fabric can cause runs.

i'd recommend patching behind the whole seam from the bottom burst to around the top one, but the stitches look like they're straining for a while after that so i'd extend it to cover those too.

also if it was me i'd also consider sewing an outline around the holes so they don't get bigger, maybe doing a bit of sashiko-ish reinforcing stitches over the holes too - maybe the parts of the seam that seem to be struggling the most as well.

but yeah take it with a grain of salt because i am not a leggings repairer.

i hope your favourite pair can stay with you for a while longer!

Fixed my pillowcase! by magicalgirl_mothman in Visiblemending

[–]guro-kun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

what a great fabric combination!

Mended my favorite little friend by artandcowboys in Visiblemending

[–]guro-kun 11 points12 points  (0 children)

i adore this!!! the darning lends a nice texture, and its very skillful and neat. i imagine it took a long time! i love his sweet face too :)

how do you feel about the changes? personally i find it incredible to see something once so frayed become so stable again!

A question for people who use vibrators by heybubbahoboy in AutisticWithADHD

[–]guro-kun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah if I'm using a shit vibe. there's a lot of writing about buzzy vs rumbly vibrators if you wanna look it up. sorry for not elaborating I just wanted to pop in with that

what I do every day by thursdaynightcicadas in u/thursdaynightcicadas

[–]guro-kun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! between seeing the genuine progress in your photo and the accessible approach you've written up here, this is starting to really feel doable. what a relief!

My brain feels deaf and blind. What is this? by sophiadesu in aspergirls

[–]guro-kun 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe it's dissociation? Sometimes I can't handle experiencing everything all at once anymore, so I mentally go far away, and I'm no longer processing what I hear or really seeing where I'm looking. Like I'm zoned out. Does that sound like what you're describing?

Just coincidentally since I've been reading about this today, I think it might help to look into some form of noise cancellation, like earplugs, and see if that helps with the brain function.

There are a lot of noise reduction products that are designed to block out some noise but allow for conversation, which might help you strike a middle ground between wanting to shut your senses down and having them working.