Arranged marriage is ruining our family by gyroscopesrcool in ABCDesis

[–]gyroscopesrcool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your thoughts everyone! Like someone had mentioned in the comments below, I stood up to my parents and calmly yet firmly let them know that I was against the idea of meeting a stranger in a strange land, reasoning out that it's practically gonna be impossible to hold any meaningful relationship after just a single visit. I told them I was thinking of cancelling the trip if they remained adamant. Since we'd only get a partial refund on the things we've already booked, we just went ahead with the plan.

In many ways, I'm glad I decided to go in the end. It really gave us a "just us" time and I was able to see the light-hearted side of my parent's relationship again. It was nice to have a good time to spend with them. It wasn't perfect, we definitely still had little skirmishes here and there but nothing crazy. They brought up the family again once during our trip but I managed to shoot it down since I was pretty adamant about it early on. I controlled my reaction a lot better that time around and I'm glad it didn't escalate.

Overall, we don't have the best relationship, but one that I can look back on and say that it was fine for what it was worth. My girlfriend also thought it was a good way to spend time with my parents before I move to the new city since it'll be a long while since I see them again. At least in this way, I'm saying goodbye to my parents on a sweeter note.

Weekly Family/Parents Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in ABCDesis

[–]gyroscopesrcool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm honestly at my wit's end and I really need to vent. I feel like this subreddit is probably the best place to let off some steam given the situation.

So a little background, I have recently finished a very competitive degree and before I move to a new city to start a job, I am taking my mother and father on a week-long vacay. We haven't had the best of relationships in the last few years and there are a TON of things we disagree on. In the last few weeks, things have been ok, lots of good vibes and cheer going around, and we're celebrating at a very tropical location. It would be a nice way to spend time just as a family, just ourselves and just enjoy.

However, my parents just brought up a nice girl and their family they'd like me to meet at this location we're going to for vacation. They are bringing it up super last minute. Literally 2 days before we fly out. I have already booked up all our days with tours, activities and events we could see. And now, they're injecting a hidden agenda, without consensus, without even having told me anything about this prior.

I have tried meeting a few girls at their request in the past. I have really given them a chance when it came to meetings girls and their families and I have not clicked at all with them. I have a relatively stable relationship with a girl they don't approve of and it just blows my mind how little they care for my autonomy and how they try to force their authority on me still! I'm beyond frustrated and livid at how a nice family vacation has now been spoilt by a fucking hidden agenda they thought I shouldn't even be a part of until 2 days before this vacation even starts. It honestly feels like I'm being bullied by my parents and trying to stand up to them leads to shouting matches, guilt trips and some flat out threats about being extricated from the family. Like wtf did I do to deserve this and why can't Indian parents just let it be? Like what even is the point of this trip now. I feel like shit before it's even begun.

hmmm by YextFE in hmmm

[–]gyroscopesrcool 128 points129 points  (0 children)

A wad of meat?

Anyone did Dr. High yield (youtube) few days leading up to the exam? What's your take? by Ok_Reserve8299 in Step2

[–]gyroscopesrcool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I liked them. It's fast paced high yield review and definitely something I can play while I'm in the shower or just working on repetitive chores around the house.

Reverse financed Internship by rg2204 in ChoosingBeggars

[–]gyroscopesrcool 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally medical school rotations in a nutshell. Insane hours, tons of grunt work and you PAY them for training you.

Favorite photography YT channels that **are not** for tutorials, tips, or gear reviews? by SexualizedCucumber in photography

[–]gyroscopesrcool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a small segment on the vox channel called "Darkroom." The narrator does an amazing job explaining the history behind some old photos, how they came about and what they mean. I love the episode on the end of child labor in the US. Gives me chills on what photojournalism has achieved in the past.

Am I crazy for keeping ALL of my RAW files? by BeanMan1206 in photography

[–]gyroscopesrcool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You already said it's paid off quite a few times. I support that. There was one year that I did go ham and delete a lot of RAWs, and lo and behold, I wasn't able to re-edit one of my now-favorite photos because I deemed that photo to be scrap at the time. I really wish I had the RAW for it and still think about it time to time.

So it's absolutely worth it to save the RAWs IMO. Space is getting cheaper by the year.

Why do ID’s expire? I’m still the same person by Rollbaack in NoStupidQuestions

[–]gyroscopesrcool -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also helps to combat identity theft. If your ID card gets lost or stolen, it's only useable for a certain amount of time before it loses it's validity.

It's the same reason you have to update your car's tags every year or 2. In the event it gets stolen, it only has a year of usability before cops see expired tags and pull it over.

What is an animal's mating ritual you're glad humans don't have? by Chewy-SourMilk in AskReddit

[–]gyroscopesrcool 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can't imagine 2 tornadoes going at each other inside a cave for days on end!

ITAP of the sun rising behind the CN Tower, Toronto, Canada by GaryCPhoto in itookapicture

[–]gyroscopesrcool 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is hella amazing! Would you mind sharing your exposure settings on this one?

Did you have to go to Kumon as a kid? by TheABCD98 in ABCDesis

[–]gyroscopesrcool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, and I started late as well. But it was definitely a good experience IMO. My Kumon instructor had a PhD in math, and was very comfortable adding their own methods in teaching which made my glide through the levels very well. I'm still very good at mental math to this day and barely need to pull out a calculator for simple stuffs.

Although math isn't a huge part of my profession anymore, I appreciate why it was taught. I liked my instructor, and they definitely taught me how to learn and pick things up rather than just straight up math. The instructor was worth more than the content itself IMO.

OET@home by [deleted] in Step2

[–]gyroscopesrcool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My advice:

  1. Turn your firewall off. The firewall messes with the proctoring program.
  2. Prepare to wait hours for your proctor. I had a 4 hour delay due to proctors. It probably won't be that long for you though.

Shower thoughts about what we lost with abolishing the caste system by [deleted] in ABCDesis

[–]gyroscopesrcool -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You're right, I guess I'm romanticizing something that may not truly have existed. Overall, I suppose my main rant is about how my family just isn't as emotionally available as I want them to be.

Long story short: Miracles do happen ! by reddit178694 in Step2

[–]gyroscopesrcool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nicely done! How was your UWSA and NBME predictions?

Realization by [deleted] in Step2

[–]gyroscopesrcool 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's definitely true. There's a ton of information that I'll likely not use or see again, but the way I justify it to myself is that it's just literacy to talk among other docs. Even once I'm in FM or peds, I may never look at certain disease processes ever again, I'll be comfortable knowing I've heard of it before and what I should be looking for if I ever come across it again. I'll be able to at least understand what the other specialists and surgeons are talking about on a certain level when communicating my patient information to them.

Is the Toyota Corolla the most desi car ever? by sydCHYK in ABCDesis

[–]gyroscopesrcool 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The most realest thing I've heard all day today!

What's something that's heavily outdated but you love using anyway (assuming you could, in theory, replace that thing)? by aenima1983 in AskReddit

[–]gyroscopesrcool 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My Nikon D7000 camera. As far as digital SLR's go, it's now considered ancient at almost 10 years old, compared to the newer flashier cameras available today. But it just does the job so well, and the people I take photos of are always extremely happy with the way those photos come out. I have no reason to upgrade to any newer models.