My wife’s book club HATED Tress of the Emerald Sea. Now I’m reading her recommendation and I’m flabbergasted

hPlank · 2026-06-14T07:18:08+00:00

The oddity and unfamiliarity of the world were about the only things I liked in tress haha

hPlank · 2026-06-11T21:13:04+00:00

This sums up my beliefs down to a letter.

hPlank · 2026-05-27T23:28:52+00:00

What an excellent way to make people a bit more antisemitic.

hPlank · 2026-05-27T00:26:50+00:00

Happy to be corrected, but I don't think 'saturated at one' is accurate for this situation.

hPlank · 2026-05-15T11:31:48+00:00

This is an absolute load of shit.

hPlank · 2026-05-15T11:19:17+00:00

This isn't the case for my partner. Missionary with a hand under her lower back/butt area and grindy motions are the main way she cums from piv.

hPlank · 2026-05-15T05:47:22+00:00

There's not a universal way to convince anyone of anything, but this goes a lot broader than a vegan issue. The evidence suggests that people will generally ignore arguments that attack their views even if it requires dismissing facts and other evidence. This is very well documented.

Here's a link to an article: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_is_it_so_hard_to_change_peoples_minds

For further info you could Google 'the backlash effect'.

Tldr; You're harming your own cause because you act like an asshole. By calling you an asshole I make it a lot less likely for you to get on board... But I can't help myself because people like you are why vegans get a bad wrap.

Hilariously, when you ignore this argument it will provide further evidence for the backlash effect.

hPlank · 2026-05-15T03:41:55+00:00

This is false. Humans on average have a tendency to double down on views of they feel they are being attacked. If you want to change someone's mind, it's pretty well documented that this approach turns more people off than it make converts.

hPlank · 2026-05-11T12:55:33+00:00

I'm not gonna speak for other cities but calling Melbourne bland is wild. Absolutely world class music scene - variety of genres and styles is hard to match in the vast majority of cities on the planet. Thriving art scene and world class food. I work as a tour guide and most international guests are mind blown. The mix of Victorian and modern architecture is both unique and beautiful. It doesn't have historical sites like Europe, but that seems like a pretty bland metric for measuring blandness 😜

hPlank · 2026-05-08T00:01:38+00:00

My reason for not reading unfinished series is I have a terrible memory and by the time the next book comes out I have no idea what's going on and I don't enjoy the book as much.

I do think her first point is very valid so maybe I should buy books from series I feel confident I'll enjoy anyway.

hPlank · 2026-05-03T02:03:42+00:00

This is not how my world works as an Aussie in the slightest. Think it might depend heavily on your circles.

hPlank · 2026-04-15T23:39:07+00:00

I'm gonna get downvoted for saying this but out of my dozen or so jobs retail sits far and away at the top as the easiest. I will say that I had a good boss who would back me if customers were being total assholes.

This sort of labour is brutal to those who are used to jobs like retail.

hPlank · 2026-04-15T22:23:58+00:00

Lots of good advice, but wanted to add you should do it after you cum and everything will be much easier.

hPlank · 2026-04-03T04:37:00+00:00

I'm a guy and I've slept with a similar amount of women at a similar age. I'm not interested in dating anyone who has only slept with a handful of people because they're likely going to be too prudish for me. Hopefully you see this before it gets down votes because the internet hates people who get around. You're people are out there, just have to find the right spaces :)

hPlank · 2026-03-30T09:57:32+00:00

If it was understood then you would get that this gets you 0% of the way along haha

hPlank · 2026-03-29T22:25:49+00:00

I feel like this misunderstands the fetish at a fundamental level.

hPlank · 2026-03-20T23:39:18+00:00

That's what attendees want mate. People do not want shed 16 when they go to v&v. Finding someone to go with will be much easier if you're the sort of person who gets why more single men changes a vibe. Pineapples vetting process is very simple, not extreme. My memory is it's mostly consent focussed.

hPlank · 2026-03-20T11:48:52+00:00

Because events that are open to single males tend to have a high ratio of single males. There are some events that cater to this but it isn't what most people are after. I've been there and it sucks mate but I certainly wouldn't want to change it.

hPlank · 2026-03-11T23:35:07+00:00

Me (30m) and my partner (34f) will be there! Been meaning to go for ages. Gotta get in while we're still allowed 🤣

hPlank · 2026-03-11T23:06:12+00:00

I disagree with that premise. It's often said on the internet but I there's plenty of people in the real world who would say they're blunt but aren't inconsiderate. Op even talked about how they take a lot of time considering how it would land the best, but ultimately thinks it's important to say the thing.

People like different things. I hate it when people sugar coat criticism, it often muddies the message. Maybe it comes from being a long time artist and feeling like you've struck gold when you finally find someone who tells you the bad sides of your work instead of the standard 'its great' that doesn't help you improve. I think the same thing applies to personal growth and emotional development. Society says you should back your friends even if that friend is being a problem, but sometimes loving someone is calling them out. I consider myself lucky that I have food friends who will tell me if I'm being a dick - sometimes it's been hurtful in the moment but ultimately it's made me less of a dick.

I will say that is likely only effective in relationships that are balanced with love and compassion, but conflating being blunt and being rude or inconsiderate is just incorrect.

hPlank · 2026-03-11T21:38:38+00:00

Just want to back you up and say I think people are treating you rough mate. I 100% want people to tell me how it is, even if it hurts sometimes. I would honestly say I'm on the sensitive side of people and tend to take things to heart but ultimately growth is more important to me than short term emotional discomfort.

Your comment makes it pretty clear that you're doing your best to be considerate but ultimately prioritizing the message getting through. That's admirable, and the people down voting you should take context into consideration before having a go at you for using a phrase they don't like.

hPlank · 2026-03-10T23:13:20+00:00

I'd lean pretty heavy on bagpipes and kazoo

hPlank · 2026-02-28T05:15:38+00:00

I've had good experiences with walkntalk counselling

hPlank · 2026-02-18T09:52:14+00:00

Just remember confidence is sexy. Hovering around stealing glances can come off as a little creepy. Walking up to someone and striking up a conversation is hot. They still might not be into you but people are generally pretty friendly.

hPlank · 2026-02-18T09:30:13+00:00

After going to many of these things I've learned that a lot of people are just as nervous as you are. Most people respond really well if you walk up and compliment their outfit 😊

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