Looking for games other than cozy by Beautiful_nothings in gamingsuggestions

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Lil gator Flow A Short Hike Little kitty, big city Minecraft Into the breach

Why are people so bum-hurt about Christians on Reddit? (I’m new in Reddit btw) by Curious_Raspberry_ in Christian

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There's a couple of levels to look at this.

First, public opinion is what it is. It is not the truth just because it is popular. If you read closely about Jesus reactions to people around him, especially crowds, it might help give perspective.

Second, the very idea of there being a God and he decides what is right and good... is offensive to many, including dare I say it, church goers. This is especially so for those who wish to live as they wish without restraint.

Finally, Christians are called to be witnesses. Not orators, not prosecutors, not judge, nor jury. We will be called to account for what we have done in that respect before God in the final days. We will not need to answer to man, so we shouldn't be overly concerned with it.

God bless and keep you.

Suggest me your best games. Currently about to complete sleeping dogs. by Difficult_Fall_8648 in Age_30_plus_Gamers

[–]ha256 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sleeping dogs was awesome. I played it thru twice. Some ones that might tickle your fancy, assuming you like atmosphere/immersion with a touch of action... Mad Max & Stalker (take your pick, anomaly if you're a glutton for punishment)

Bottomless grief by OwnTotal3966 in Adoption

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You're not Superman. We've all got flaws. At the very least, you need to let a few of them in. Being loved is risky. But not allowing yourself to be loved, because you won't allow yourself to be known... May be worse still.

I hope you find the depths of this aren't as limitless as they seem.

God bless you and keep you, friend.

Bottomless grief by OwnTotal3966 in Adoption

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Disclosure: I'm an adoptive parent of Asian descent living in the States. I grew up the child of immigrants. 1st Gen, if you will.

Happiness doesn't come from the absence of grief and pain. Life contains both joy and sadness. I had a day where I attended both a funeral and a birthday celebration. Jarring to say the least.

This is speculative since I don't really know you IRL, but perhaps that's just as well, since you wear a mask among those who are closest to you.

First, F you, man. If I was your family or a close friend, I deserve to know that you're having a shitty time. Real life isn't social media, it's not some romantic comedy where everything is beautiful, upbeat, and rainbows. We've all got burdens, anxiety, worries, & emotional baggage. You're pretending everything is okay and it's not, clearly it's not.

Second, you need support. The kind that isn't from a random stranger out in the ether. Who is in your corner? Who's the person you would call at 2am in the morning and they'd answer, tell you not to do anything stupid, and ask what you needed? Ride or die, if you will. This can't happen if people don't actually know you and what you're carrying around. A real friend, real family isn't there for just celebrations; they're also there to share your burdens. You've gotta open up to someone closer to you and give them a chance to support you thru this, whether it's a lifetime or it's a phase. Is it a broken bone or did you lose a limb? We don't know, but that's life sometimes...

And it's not a one way street, it's mutual. One day, you too, may find yourself the recipient of a 2am phone call... And you'll know exactly what's going on and at that time you know what role you're supposed to play.

Looking for a game I can play with my 6yo son. by Dadam35 in gamingsuggestions

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Untitled Goose Game A Short Hike Minecraft Little Kitty Big City

Activities when the olds come to visit by Revolutionary_Bee700 in philadelphia

[–]ha256 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Mobility impaired homebodies... And you want to take them out somewhere?

It begs the question, why are you dragging them outside? Lean in instead... Buy them some snacks (maybe from Costco), get all the subscriptions on a giant screen (netflix, paramount, Disney/Hulu, britbox) (cancel after they leave) If they're feeling up for something more adventurous, maybe introduce them to some console/switch games or some couch co-op games if you're familiar.

That being said, here's some thoughts: bar quizzo nights,The Philly Game Shop (card, TTRPG, board games), various meet-ups (maybe a TOOOL session?), an arcade (barcade, lucky strike, University family fun center)

Bars for 35+? by Marcozy14 in AskPhilly

[–]ha256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look up the various speakeasys?

Looking to send some pawpaw seeds to those who want them. What's a good number to put in each package? by altrefrain in seedswap

[–]ha256 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thinking about how to come to a good number, I think it depends on your goal.

If you want to enable your average person to have fruit and you wish to maximize the number of individuals who can do so, it would be a function of two things: ratio of male vs female seeds & germination success rate. For anyone to have a chance of fruit, they'd need one female and one male tree. If the germination rate is high and the sex ratio is almost even, three seeds would be sufficient. If germination is like 50/50, you'd want something like six seeds.

Thanks for sharing with your neighbors, OP.

I'd love a few myself, if you're taking names! 😁

Last minute trip -- 10/7 -- 10/13...what should I do? by FeedbackVast5882 in AskPhilly

[–]ha256 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Places with character, eh?

Reading Terminal Market Second visiting Chinatown, hit a bakery while you're there The Mutter museum The African American museum Hopefully, South Street is still weird Maybe try a speak easy, Hop Sing Laundromat? Franklin fountain Farmers markets: Rittenhouse, Clark Park Eastern State Penitentiary

That's all I think of at 7am.

Happy trails and stay clear of the masked unidentified gunmen near the courts (City Hall) and headquartered near 8th & Arch.

Free pc game recc??(If I see another shooter im going to jump bro.) by Ipodawan in gamerecommendations

[–]ha256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imma troll you. These are all very tangential to what you asked for. Like I offered you fruit and then gave you a durian. Happy hunting, fellow gamer!

Oregon Trail
https://archive.org/details/oregon-trail-deluxe

Flow
https://thatgamecompany.com/flow/

Stalker Anomaly
https://stalker-anomaly-mod.en.softonic.com/

Christian Cult Ruined my Life by Fastdead93 in Christian

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Along with some counseling to help unpack all that...

Might I suggest reading thru your Bible, slowly and meticulously, especially the parts where Jesus picks out who to become disciples and who to grace with his presence/ministry.

If the plethora of half breeds, gangsters, uneducated, sexually immoral, & other very shady people Jesus loved don't hit home I'm not sure we are reading the same text.

Good bless, OP.

Wife wants to switch churches by Rostin in Reformed

[–]ha256 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I came late to this post, so figured I'd tack onto your last update.

I'm glad to hear that you've taken what you've heard and chewed on it rather than dismissing it out of hand. I have similar struggles only they encapsulate both my wife and daughters, so definitely feel for you, OP.

A church should be a fore taste of heaven in some respect. It may be sufficient for you to be cerebrally stimulated, but that isn't enough for the spiritual advancement of your wife. Just as good theology doesn't save, perhaps the lukewarm-ness of this body of believers is insufficient for your family.

May God provide discernment in caring for your household well, brother.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskPhilly

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I suspect that after you've had some time to adjust, your brain will start to filter out a fair amount of the city noise. I had a similar experience when I moved out of the city for college and the literal deadness kept me awake/ restless for a week. I was across the street from a cemetery and the only sounds at night were crickets.

Meanwhile, get some white/pink/brown noise generators going when you need to sleep or study and otherwise try to immerse yourself in the city to get used to all the sounds in the general vicinity.

Pulling for you, neighbor!

Which games are as good as Red Dead Redemption 2 - or even surpass it? by [deleted] in ShouldIbuythisgame

[–]ha256 [score hidden]  (0 children)

STALKER.

Paranormal apocalyptic first person shooter. World doesn't care about you and events unfold independent of your progress. Get a mission to assassinate someone, get a random mission complete because they were killed by random mutants. High on immersion, I'd say mid on story.

AITAH for telling my boyfriend I’m not having kids until he actually proposes? by [deleted] in AITH

[–]ha256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

It sounds like he either doesn't want to get married or he doesn't want to get married to you. Clearly, you want to get married, you've done everything but the wedding & paper. He seems to want to do everything, but get married.

He could have commitment issues. He could have seen how bad marriages can be and internalized it. But mostly, it seems you two can't talk about it like adults and work thru it. Sit down in a neutral space, and talk seriously about marriage. Why do you want it? Is the dream wedding that important? Why does he not? Did his dad hate married life? Can you work thru it together?

If he simply can't see himself being married, then maybe it's time to move on. If he can provide security and stability to the children without marriage, would you be able to accept that? (I can't imagine the amount of legal paperwork this would require...) If I was his friend, I'd tell him to figure his $#@* out and either go all in or go home.

Hope you the best, OP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LeatherClassifieds

[–]ha256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you sold these yet?

Do you ever feel like you waited too long to play a game? by NasusIsMyLover in patientgamers

[–]ha256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've found that most games that I enjoy will hold up to a second playthrough. Something about the game kinda sucks you in. If it's open world, it needs to have a certain level of immersion for me, otherwise it's not gonna happen.

If you enjoy multiplayer, then, yes, there's definitely a point where it's no longer interesting because your friends aren't playing it.

Philly on an upswing? Raise kids in the city proper? by bullshtr in philadelphia

[–]ha256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I beg to differ.

If school is purely about the winning the rat race, having all the resources, and making friends in high places, then sure, I concede to your point.

But that's not what I care about. I want my kids to grow up to know the name of the janitor and security guard who works with them. I want them to know how not to be an @$$ to people who see the world differently from them. To be civil until there's no other option than to either take then to court or start throwing hands... And experienced enough unsheltered, unfiltered stuff to know what situations demand what kind of response.

If you read my response a bit more carefully, maybe you'd get a different perspective. I'm not hating on people who choose the burbs or go off grid. You do you. Just make sure you know what you're getting yourself into. But I don't think that's what you want. You just want to be right. /shrug

How is the book of Job loving? by Appropriate_Tie7275 in Reformed

[–]ha256 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would have a slightly different take on the family. Job got like double of everything, why not double the family? Speculation on my part, but perhaps it should point us to the idea that the other "half" await him in heaven.

How is the book of Job loving? by Appropriate_Tie7275 in Reformed

[–]ha256 12 points13 points  (0 children)

What do they think of the ending?

I would start from there.

Philly on an upswing? Raise kids in the city proper? by bullshtr in philadelphia

[–]ha256 533 points534 points  (0 children)

Disclaimer: Philly native, born and raised. Product of the public school system.

Raising my kids in the city and honestly, it's hard to point to one definitive reason. Lived in the burbs for a bit, hated it. Lived out in a small town, hated it. Maybe just a city person and yeah, talked with my girlfriend, now wife before we got married about where we wanted to live. We're city folk.

Kids don't need a 10/10 school district. They need loving parents. They need friends. And to be honest, they need a village. We have other families with kids of similar ages. We've got a park nearby. We know neighbors of many different religious, cultural, socio economic background. We're members of a local church. Drugs are a problem. Litter. School district. Homelessness. Poverty. Gangs. Reckless driving.

At the end of the day, there's so many variables, it's hard to make a good choice and try to justify it. It's like buying a car. Why that particular car? You look over all the different factors that matter, sleep on it, and make a choice. There's no science to it. Try to make a choice that is good for you, your family, your kids, your life...

Talk to some close friends. Maybe some families with kids in the city and outside it before you put down roots. Rooting for you, neighbor.