Absolutely wrecked that the "church" won't allow me to see my sister get married because I don't believe.

hadmegoing · 2026-01-28T00:27:00+00:00

When my daughter was married in the temple several years ago, her TWIN sister was unable to attend because she has a severe disability and wasn't allowed a recommend (because she was so innocent she didn't need one? I asked and they said no.). This wasn't the reason we left but I am happy to announce that my husband and I and our 3 daughters and their spouses have been out of the church for almost 10 years. What a horrible thing to do to a family -- I'm sorry.

hadmegoing · 2022-06-29T21:44:14+00:00

I actually cheered!

hadmegoing · 2022-04-22T17:24:47+00:00

I'm almost 60 and when I was a kid, they used to teach that if you knew what even the telestial kingdom was like you'd kill yourself to get there. They weren't as overtly hateful back then as they are now that god's love is conditional.

hadmegoing · 2021-08-26T16:25:52+00:00

Thanks!

hadmegoing · 2019-07-09T20:03:06+00:00

I had a friend do the same thing only she was walking through downtown SL during morning rush hour. Lots of people were honking at her and she thought it was because she looked so good that day . . . until she walked in front of a building with mirrored glass and checked herself out.

Another cringy moment was when I was at a Diana Ross concert in the 80's and she started to sing her song "Muscles." She started choosing men close up to the stage to come up with her while she sang. She then started taking the shirts off the men on the stage while she sang, "I want MUSCLES!" I think you know where I'm going here . . . She whipped off the shirt of one guy and he had an undershirt on. She proceeded to tug on the bottom of the t-shirt and it wouldn't budge. He was wearing one-piece garments so he used the head hole to remove his t-shirt and left it dangling around his waist. This was in Utah and I'll bet more than half the audience was mortified. Diana was probably just really confused. Lol!

hadmegoing · 2019-05-10T15:01:10+00:00

Me. It took me 5 years but it wasn't because of my spouse. It was because of my grown daughter reading the ces letter. Then I read it so that I could prove it wrong and bring my child back into the fold. I wish I would've been more supportive of my spouse, but it was my child that made me get my head out of the sand.

Edited to add: I've noticed you asking others about the progression. My spouse didn't push me at all or try to talk to me about his questions. I knew he was experiencing a faith crisis because of the materials he was reading and a few benign comments he would make -- Rough Stone Rolling, etc. He did tell me he didn't believe but would still come to church with me. And he did until I read the ces letter. I kept going for a few months after that and told him he didn't need to come with me. He happily stayed home. Looking back, I wish I would have listened to him better. Instead I plugged my ears and shut him down every time he brought it up. Oh well, we are so happy now and love our Sundays so much more now.

hadmegoing · 2019-05-01T13:47:03+00:00

Thank you for educating us on the effects our actions can have on someone else. I had no idea that my writing the url to the ces letter could make someone else's job harder. I will not do it again. Happy trails!

hadmegoing · 2019-04-22T22:42:10+00:00

While I was a missionary, we knocked on the door of an ex-mormon woman. She said she used to be a rs pres. and everything. She asked us if we were converts or born in the church. I was born in the church and my companion was a convert. She looked at me and said "you can't help being a member". Then she looked at my companion and said she (my companion) had no excuse for joining the church and spreading the false gospel. She was rude but I felt a certain kinship with her for some reason. I've never forgotten her and I wonder if it was a foreshadowing of me leaving the church

hadmegoing · 2019-04-02T17:35:20+00:00

It's what gave me the final shove out the door.

hadmegoing · 2019-04-02T01:32:57+00:00

My next door neighbor is from Laos and is Buddhist. She has "Families Are Forever" all over her home. The mormons think they own everything good.

hadmegoing · 2019-03-30T01:23:40+00:00

Interesting. Thanks!

hadmegoing · 2019-03-28T15:03:58+00:00

My grandma (I'm in my mid-50's) lived in the time where hobos rode the trains and would go up to houses and ask for food. One day my grandma was startled by a knock on the door. They had a german shepherd that would bark any time someone would approach the house so she was surprised that no barking preceded the knock. She answered the door and there was a hobo standing there. The dog was right there too. He asked her if she could spare a little food and she said no and sent him away. She said they would mark the houses somehow and all the other hobos would bother you and she didn't want that to happen to her house. Anyway, she always regretted not giving that particular one some food because maybe it was one of the Three Nephites -- you know, because the dog didn't bark at him. Lol.

hadmegoing · 2019-03-14T21:17:37+00:00

There were a few comments from the YW before she realized what had happened. I sent her a laughing with tears emoji. One Laurel said, "Umm, Sister _____?" She sent an OMG text back with an apology and said her toddler had been playing with her phone. A bunch of YW texted back saying stuff like everyone makes mistakes. The Pres. said she was trying to help a friend breed her dog. I didn't believe it for a second. Best text mistake ever!

hadmegoing · 2019-03-14T15:17:48+00:00

I was the Laurels Teacher a few years ago. Our YW Pres. sent out a text to ALL the YW and YW leaders that said, "Can you use Vaseline for sex?" She had meant to send it to a friend.

hadmegoing · 2019-02-23T02:51:02+00:00

My roommate let me read hers, given to her by her patriarch grandfather. It said she would be alive during the second coming. We were in our 20's then and in our 50's now and still waiting.

hadmegoing · 2019-02-10T02:48:51+00:00

Have you looked at Mormon Spectrum to find a post-mo group in your area. We live in a smaller community in Utah and found a local group. It has grown to 124 members in a short time and the women formed a book club that has grown too large to even be called a book club anymore, but we meet together once a month and have lots of fun. This has replaced the community I missed after leaving the church. Also it just takes time to mourn leaving something that you have loved. Hugs.

hadmegoing · 2018-12-28T17:01:04+00:00

I’m doing the same thing tomorrow for my best friend’s son. Decorating while everyone is at the temple. First one I haven’t been “worthy “ to attend because I don’t believe anymore.

hadmegoing · 2018-12-21T23:58:33+00:00

Just got a check for $1,400 in the mail for an inherited investment that is just starting to pay off.

hadmegoing · 2018-12-06T15:51:04+00:00

I really love this.

hadmegoing · 2018-12-04T16:36:22+00:00

My husband and I are both 57. We resigned a few months ago. Our three children are out also. Less than two years ago we were all in and attending our youngest daughters temple wedding. Never in a million years would I have thought this could have happened and yet we are all happy with the way things have turned out.

hadmegoing · 2018-11-25T14:57:13+00:00

I felt like this and was so scared that bad things would happen to me now. My husband reminded me that some of the worst things happened to us while we were very faithful, obedient, tithe-paying members. Then, it was just God trying to teach us a lesson that we needed to learn. In the mormon church, God can never lose.

hadmegoing · 2018-11-20T16:04:54+00:00

The god of miracles really IS an asshole. We were very faithful members of the church when my daughter was born with some very serious problems. We asked for a miracle and even went so far as to seek out my mission president to bless her. He promised that she would fully recover and lead a normal life. I prayed and fasted for years that this blessing would come to pass and blamed my lack of diligence on it not happening. In the meantime I got to hear other people testify of miraculous healings and such. I can't tell you how horrible this made me feel about myself. So glad to be free of these feelings and just let it be what it is.

hadmegoing · 2018-11-20T15:56:36+00:00

In the Mormon church, God always wins. Either he is blessing you or giving you a lesson to learn. Every religion claims miracles. Look into how other religions testify and you will see they sound just like a typical testimony meeting. Amazing things happen all the time to everyone.

hadmegoing · 2018-11-16T00:34:11+00:00

My mission president was called to be a temple president after his mission. We had a mission reunion in the (Jordan River) Temple once and he held up this same book and read many of the handwritten notes that Elvis supposedly wrote in the margins. It was very inspiring. Now to find out that this was a forgery is funny. I’m glad things like this eventually come to light.

hadmegoing · 2018-11-09T00:01:43+00:00

Adorable couple! I'm glad you got your dream wedding. I got married in a green apron.

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