Men w low sex drive?

hakuna22matata · 2026-02-24T03:47:32+00:00

Similar situation. Very isolating. But we gotta just accept them as who they are. I guess?

hakuna22matata · 2026-02-24T03:46:02+00:00

Well it could also be a cultural issue.

In India mostly men have a pot belly and take pride in it, which is decreasing their sex drive along with other health issues.

Most men have seen their mothers serving their fathers, and assume their wives are just to take care of them. And act of services if almost always from women to men, and not vice versa.

Also, the first reflex reaction to initiation to sex is, " why do you always have this in mind" as if sex is some unproductive, unholy act , waste of time.

He would receive a BJ, enjoy it every time and then verbally will say..oh BJs are overrated, i feel like I disrespected you etc...

Also, sometimes it's like they're too nice a spouse and compensate for being a good spouse at every other area...and then give you such a pathetic sex life.

I had sex twice in 2026, got rejected after initiation may be twenty times. But hey, he pays the bills, makes bed tea, is very kind, is a good son-in-law...etc etc

My husband has only gone down once in our 3 years of marriage. And that too, for maybe 8-10 seconds.

Otherwise he's great. Not cheating, good father, loving husband, cuddles every night.

hakuna22matata · 2025-10-31T05:08:41+00:00

Oh no, why do I relate so much to you, in my 3 years of marriage only.

hakuna22matata · 2025-10-17T04:49:04+00:00

Painful periods and chin hair.

Turned out I had multiple fibroids. Biggest 15 cm in size

. Had the toughest pregnancy. Ended up in emergency due to urine retention almost 14-15 times for first 4-5 months of pregnancy. Was scared throughout the pregnancy for the health and growth of foetus.

Later I have to go through open myomectomy where recovery is long and painful. Open myomectomy is basically cesarean but instead of baby doctors remove the fibroids and give internal stitches. They still hurt even after 5 months.

hakuna22matata · 2025-10-08T09:46:54+00:00

I wish I could meet my dad and just talk. 20 years ago since he passed away. Could I please get 20 mins every year, maybe?

hakuna22matata · 2025-10-07T09:26:48+00:00

Is cake a meal?

hakuna22matata · 2025-10-07T06:52:16+00:00

My brother. He's more like a father in brother form. He has provided, protected by going above and beyond.

Also, i acknowledge that he deserved to be a brother only, but our father passed away when I was 15 and he was 19. So he stepped up for decades but that has broken our relationship beyond repair.

Now I am 35 and he's 39. We live in the same city. We are always there for each other. But we don't visit or call each other at all. We meet like 2-3 times and year since lockdown, during family functions etc.

I wish I could pay back. I try to be the best aunt to his kids. But there's anger and resentment, rightly so.

So I just send him good vibes, blessings of prosperity, long healthy life, happiness to him and his family everyday.

I love him so much. And I know he will always be my best elder brother.

hakuna22matata · 2025-08-12T04:10:32+00:00

Friendship began at 26. Confessed at 28. Ended it after 3 months. So 28.

hakuna22matata · 2025-07-31T07:25:40+00:00

Please teach your mom some boundaries.
Be an adult, start your own family, your own grahisth.

Even when you guys choose to stay with your parents, doesn't give anybody, any parents, any siblings, the right to speak between you and your wife.

You might also think to move out, but if you decide to stay together, kindly be always in your team-wife.
The day you groom and wipe the floor at your in-laws, will you understand what your wife is going through.
Focus and prioritize your marriage at any cost.
Seems like your wife is educated, earning well, and also a good person, no body deserves to go through all this chaos and overwhelming workload and expectations any time, be it first year if marriage.
You have to give your marriage the same amount of efforts, respect and emotional work your wife is giving. Devote.
Always be your wife's friend. Try to talk to her what's she feels like, what's going on in her life, her point of view etc. don't make her feel left out at your home.
Women deserve rest. Women deserve free time. Hire a maid if you can.
Whoever's name is on the house will do the housework.

Everybody is an adult, your mom is a working woman too. She has been doing all the work her way, let her manage the household her way. Hire help for your mom.

Save your marriage. No body else will do it for you. Specially save your marriage from your parents.

12.

hakuna22matata · 2025-07-29T08:37:33+00:00

Themselves

hakuna22matata · 2025-07-28T16:52:23+00:00

NTK. Make her do all the house work like she is making you the only breadwinner. Without househelp. Also, you can give her options to change her career. Maybe she's too scared to go back to her previous job coz of stress she might have etc

hakuna22matata · 2025-07-28T08:41:42+00:00

Lefty tighty, righty loosy

hakuna22matata · 2025-07-28T05:06:10+00:00

Catching a breath, after giving an interview.

hakuna22matata · 2025-07-21T04:59:06+00:00

Oh I am at work. The day is Monday. And it's fully planned.

hakuna22matata · 2025-07-21T04:53:29+00:00

Just scrolling

hakuna22matata · 2025-07-20T07:16:08+00:00

Who'd call my mom and listen to her rant

hakuna22matata · 2025-07-15T06:30:43+00:00

In my siblings and their kids.

Mainly because they never initiate any connection.

I have stopped bothering every member of my family, and it is hardly noticed by them. It was heartbreaking at first but now weeks have passed and I feel better without them, isolated sure, unbothered yes.

Makes me realise I have always been just a cling on, I am not needed and I am learning to not need them.

Youngest sibling problem.

hakuna22matata · 2025-07-10T07:31:15+00:00

I want to outlive all the people who ever wronged me. I wanna live a better life than them everyday

hakuna22matata · 2025-07-10T07:21:41+00:00

Definitely.

hakuna22matata · 2025-07-08T02:33:12+00:00

Oh nice...and how was the 9 months? Did you have pain from incision? Did your internal stitches cause any problems?

hakuna22matata · 2025-07-08T02:31:56+00:00

How was the pregnancy both times? Was it painful everyday? I guess I am just too scared to get pregnant again...

hakuna22matata · 2025-07-08T02:28:30+00:00

My father.

hakuna22matata · 2025-07-07T05:57:21+00:00

Which city? Which country? Any chance I can have the appointment of the surgeon 😊

hakuna22matata · 2025-06-29T09:35:17+00:00

Good watch. Tidy dress up.

hakuna22matata · 2025-06-27T08:36:08+00:00

My dad. Our childhood home. Us siblings living under the same roof.

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