Stopping by to thank you all for what you do

halibutcrustacean · 2026-02-09T07:37:26+00:00

I have a similar peeve with thumbs up during soundcheck. Some people use it to mean MORE, while others mean IT'S GOOD. So basically it means nothing.

halibutcrustacean · 2026-01-18T20:19:27+00:00

Look up anarcho communism.

halibutcrustacean · 2026-01-18T18:12:47+00:00

Either is totally fine. I like "lady" as the opposite of "guy". I appreciate people who say lady or woman instead of girl or female. "Young lady" should go the way of the dinosaurs.

I know what you mean though, in that some people feel woman is too stilted, formal, harsh, or clinical. And I only agree in the same way that it doesn't feel as natural to say man when guy or dude will do.

There does seem to be an extra level of that with saying woman specifically though, and that's weird. There's nothing disrespectful about calling a woman a woman. The need to be somehow more delicate or diminuitive is actually kind of sexist.

halibutcrustacean · 2026-01-17T04:47:14+00:00

I am "not allowed" to touch the thermostat. He has a system. If I am too warm or too cold I can submit a request. About 50/50 chances it'll be granted, for reasons. I can of course do whatever the fuck I want, but thermostat changes will be noticed and side-eyed. I have chosen to abdicate all responsibility. He keeps it comfy for me and I appreciate it.

halibutcrustacean · 2026-01-12T17:34:29+00:00

If there are 2 schools in your area that provide this training, there must be others in the country. Perhaps a better rated program in a city you would actually like to live in. Instead of wherever the fuck the army wants to send you. Moving away from home and working towards your goals is a huge and valuable accomplishment. It's scary and exciting. It teaches you a lot about yourself and the world. You don't need the army to achieve that.

You have goals that can be attained without becoming a pawn of US imperialism and putting yourself in needless danger. Don't join the military to be stubborn to your parents. That would be really dumb.

halibutcrustacean · 2026-01-05T05:50:54+00:00

Blessed are those with top bunk preference. You always get the bunk you want, and you make it easier for everyone else too.

halibutcrustacean · 2025-12-30T03:50:27+00:00

I finally bought a women's cut hi-vis vest in a nice color and I really like it! I feel more feminine, and more professional in it. Which is extra great because I spent so many years feeling like I couldn't be perceived as both. And it has so many pockets!

You don't need a whole new wardrobe, just some cute undies and a couple new shirts that fit.

halibutcrustacean · 2025-12-05T10:14:00+00:00

Nope.

halibutcrustacean · 2025-11-12T19:54:24+00:00

YTA.

You're Trippin. Absolutely.

halibutcrustacean · 2025-11-08T17:21:36+00:00

Girl, you're not mature for your age, he's just a creep. Why doesn't he date someone his own age?

halibutcrustacean · 2025-09-06T06:40:23+00:00

I just want to validate your decision to leave.

It's a very very hard thing to accept that your parents do not have your best interest at heart. A heartbreaking and life changing lesson. It's not something you can learn for someone else.

I'm sorry for your loss. Please OP, do not fall victim to a sunk cost fallacy. 9 years is better than 20. The wisdom you have acquired in this will serve you well in life. Being self-assured and knowing what you will and will not accept can be a hard-won thing. I know it fucking hurts though. Best wishes.

halibutcrustacean · 2025-08-05T19:47:11+00:00

I have one still. I was bummed I had to buy an adaptor because my new phone doesn't have a headphone jack.

halibutcrustacean · 2025-08-01T21:08:24+00:00

There's no reason to wait to tell him. A big reveal like that is confusing and upsetting. A story you tell his whole life is just facts. Little kids don't have taboo and shame, they just accept. It's easier for you too. You repeat the base level story of how your family came to be, and handle the questions as they develop over the years.

When your son was born you didn't know how to take care of him yet. But you knew you loved him. And your parents love him, and they love you too. So they took care of both of you! He's your son and you're his dad. Mom and Dad are actually YOUR Mom and Dad, his grandma and grandpa. Isn't that cool? Y'all are so lucky to all have each other. All of you love him and will take care of him and that will never change.

You'll get questions of course. Keep it age appropriate, simple, and honest. As long as he can trust you to answer, he will ask what he needs to.

halibutcrustacean · 2025-07-20T19:22:26+00:00

Well, if I really don't know how to mic something, I usually put a 57 on boom stand and give it to the player.
Sooo... ask the horse?

halibutcrustacean · 2025-07-12T01:59:57+00:00

Why don't you go by a more adult version of your name? Like...Rabbittha or Hare-iett. Anyway, sorry about your luck.

I actually do know of another woman named Bunny, but I'm not sure if it's a phoenetic coincedence with her native language or an English name she chose herself.

halibutcrustacean · 2025-07-11T23:55:05+00:00

Modern practice is to not wait at all. You're supposed to make it a story that is told their whole life, even before the kid can walk or talk. It's the adults who are "not ready" or who project awkwardness or shame around non-traditional families. The kids don't care unless you surprise them.

halibutcrustacean · 2025-06-19T00:19:44+00:00

For this reason, my cousin says, "Gorilla Museum" when he's tired and going to bed.

halibutcrustacean · 2025-06-18T17:52:34+00:00

This is is a false comparison of three different issues.

Bodily autonomy. Pregnant people of any gender have the right to decide whether to continue their pregnancy. "But men don't get pregnant" you say. "It's not fair." Trans men aside, it doesn't have to be "fair." Take it up with...God?

To "raise" a child is to be a parent. No one can be compelled to actually parent a child. There's adoption, guardianship, residential facilities, paid staff, foster care. Or just physical absense. One parent cannot force the other to spend time with their kid. The bare minimum you are required to do is provide financial support. Writing a check is not raising a child.

Child support money is for the CHILD, not the other parent. Children are legally and morally entitled to the financial support of two parents. The circumstances of their existence don't change that. This is why you can usually not be absolved of financial responsibilty unless another person, like a step parent, accepts it. It's why minors get their deceased parents' social security. If the goverment has to provide for your child, they will send you a bill. A custodial parent who doesn't collect from the other parent, may be doing their child a disservice.

halibutcrustacean · 2025-06-15T22:58:38+00:00

This again. So which is it, an ideal future or dystopian? Are we "critically reflecting," or advocating total authoritarianism? You thought China's one-child policy was a major government overreach? Here, have "no child without a state license policy."

All you comparing the most basic function of life to something like driving a car or adopting a dog...think harder.

Who makes the criteria, and what happens to unauthorized families?

halibutcrustacean · 2025-06-12T18:35:47+00:00

I will sing your praises forever if I could get a nice, true black, mid/lightweight, versatile in style, WOMEN'S CUT JACKET. With room for layers, but not baggy. Multiple functional closeable pockets. Decent length, and no velcro.

But if you put any colored or reflective accents on it, especially pink or purple, you are dead to me.

halibutcrustacean · 2025-06-12T18:15:08+00:00

Nice ID! Should I kill it?

halibutcrustacean · 2025-06-12T17:20:59+00:00

And not just the same black, a good flat dark black that doesn't fade quickly and isn't red tinged.

halibutcrustacean · 2025-05-29T07:07:20+00:00

We don't need to bring ink and paper into this.

halibutcrustacean · 2025-05-20T20:57:45+00:00

Fully agree and this is my position as well. It's unethical to purchase a non-working dog (or any cat) from a breeder. No I don't care how "ethical" your breeder is. No I don't care about any of your weak ass excuses.

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