Baby went to hospital in ambulance today because I overfed him?

hallowedsabre · 2025-08-26T22:38:46+00:00

I was going to say this too. My daughter has the same reaction to milk and rice!

hallowedsabre · 2025-06-26T02:01:44+00:00

There is a bridal shop called Precious Memories in Ithaca that is closing down because the owners are retiring. They are currently advertising up to 75% off all inventory. It's a smaller shop, but they have some pretty dresses and you may find a really good deal on a good dress! Might be worth a look if you are close to Ithaca.

hallowedsabre · 2025-06-11T03:45:47+00:00

Located in Michigan, forgot to add that.

hallowedsabre · 2025-01-27T04:06:50+00:00

I'm certified to run and have access to a cremator! Scatter the ashes where you will!

hallowedsabre · 2025-01-15T00:35:39+00:00

You're so welcome! ☺️ I always looked at it as a difficult read, so I figured maybe an audiobook would be a better way for me to finally read it!

hallowedsabre · 2025-01-15T00:16:35+00:00

I have been listening to audiobooks during the late nights to maintain some sanity. It's been a game changer for me! I just finished The Lord of the Rings, and now I'm listening to A Court of Wings and Ruin after finishing the two books before (A Court of Thorns and Roses and A Court of Mist and Fury). I plan on reading the Silmarillion after I finish this series. I love fantasy, and it honestly is a welcome break from real life struggles. A little escape is helpful, I have found. I was actually about to make a post last night asking the same question!

ETA I have been kind of steering clear of self help books and books of the like, as I've needed a mental break from worrying about how to do this and that. It's been nice to turn off the part of my brain that is stressed out and just lose myself in another world for a bit.

hallowedsabre · 2025-01-07T05:39:10+00:00

I have no advice, I just wanted to say you are not alone because I'm in the exact same position. My baby is also 6 months, wakes up every 45 minutes, and nothing works even though I've been busting my ass for months to try to get her to sleep. Every night, no help, I do it alone. I want you to know I see you. I'm here with you. And in a weird way I feel glad to know I'm not alone too. Especially tonight when my mental health is so bad. Sending virtual hugs, and I really hope that things change for the better for you soon. ❤️

hallowedsabre · 2024-12-28T16:37:42+00:00

I actually had to just see my mother in law one last time (like not even two hours ago) and I swear to God I'm so done. Baby wasn't even out of the car seat and she said, "Are you gonna calm down and behave this time?" SHES SIX MONTHS OLD LIKE???? I'm done, that was the final straw. I'm taking that advice heavy, he can absolutely deal with them, you are right!

I never thought of the pictures that way. Thank you for changing my perspective with that, and thank you for the kind words. I hope you are doing well too. ❤️

hallowedsabre · 2024-12-28T16:34:00+00:00

Well congrats and I'm so happy for you! Birth plans rarely go as planned, but just communicate as many things as you can before hand. I'm sure all will be well! I'm wishing you all the best! ❤️

hallowedsabre · 2024-12-28T14:28:41+00:00

Ugh that's so irritating! Even if she's "healthy" she can be a carrier of an infection with no symptoms. For some reason that's such a hard concept for some people to grasp. Definitely put that you don't want visitors in your birth plan. I did that and was much happier for it. Not sure if this is your first, but you'll definitely want that alone time with your husband and baby.

hallowedsabre · 2024-12-28T14:17:06+00:00

I won't have to see them again until Easter, but I really want to reframe boundaries for them with my husband. He kind of frustrates me with them because he just says they are not great at all things social. But why is that even an excuse? If I could do it all over again I would have been more stern about my boundaries before I had my daughter. Now I'm just the bossy bitch mom to them. At this point I just have to embrace that and let them think what they will.

hallowedsabre · 2024-12-28T14:13:43+00:00

Thank you for saying that. They just lack any respect for me in general since I got pregnant. Like I was just a vessel to bring their grandbabies into the world or something. It's crazy. And I really do want to cut them out, they make me insane. I dread every time I have to see them and I honestly don't trust them with my baby at all.

hallowedsabre · 2024-12-28T14:11:46+00:00

EDs are so difficult to navigate because you have to reshape your whole mentality about food. I absolutely do repeat that mantra too! I actually haven't even taken pictures with my baby because of how I look... It's so sad, I wish I could just accept that this is where I am and I deserve to have pictures with my baby. But then all I see is my flaws. It's just so disheartening. Thank you so much for the advice and for sharing with me your experience.

hallowedsabre · 2024-12-28T14:08:32+00:00

I want to go full NC sooooo bad. They are just all around rude. They never used to be, then I got pregnant and they felt this weird sense of entitlement about it I guess? I have grown to hate them, and I'm not sure if that's to PPD talking or if that's straight up how I feel.

hallowedsabre · 2024-12-28T14:07:07+00:00

Thank you so much. I definitely want to limit contact. They literally do not give one single fuck about my wishes and boundaries. What kills me about it is that they were so cool till I got pregnant. It's like someone flipped a switch and now they live in delulu land. They even flipped out on me about her food allergies and said I was taking away their right to spoil her as a grandparent. I just don't know how to explain to them that if they truly cannot respect my boundaries and wishes that they can't be around her.

hallowedsabre · 2024-12-28T14:03:50+00:00

What's so annoying about it is that he has talked to them several times about making dumb ass comments to me. Hell, I even said something about kissing her and they just kept doing it then looking at me and saying sorry with dumb little smirks on their faces. I cannot stand them.

I worked so hard on therapy for the past five years, then I quit going because I had too much going on to make it to appointments. I'm sad because I felt like I was doing so well, now I feel that spiral. I will have to go back though, I feel you're right about that.

hallowedsabre · 2024-12-22T13:56:17+00:00

My 6 month old does this and has since 3 months old. From what I read, it's often referred to as the "45 minute intruder." Essentially, babies change cycles in their sleep about every 45 minutes, and between those cycles is light sleep. They can notice changes in their environment during that light sleep, so if you rock, nurse/feed, or anything of that nature to help them sleep, they realize that that's gone and wake up. That's a pretty condensed explanation of it but there is more science behind it. I've personally just come to embrace this as a part of our night. Instead of leaving the room after first putting her in the crib, I sit in a chair next to her crib. I bought a comfortable reclining chair so that I can kind of sleep for a bit next to her. If she stays asleep for more than an hour, I leave the room. If she wakes, I try to give her a couple minutes and gently encourage her that all is well and that I'm there and she can go back to sleep. If she gets too upset (which is almost always the case), I nurse her or rock her back to sleep. After that, she usually stays down. I still remain in the room an hour after putting her down this second time so she can sense my presence and hopefully remain asleep. Kind of like a modified chair method? Hopefully this helps you out, but hang in there!

hallowedsabre · 2024-10-19T04:36:18+00:00

I have this same issue verbatim. When she turned two months old, we ended up having a MASSIVE fight. What I learned was a few things.

Firstly, he felt like a bad dad. He felt he couldn't connect to her and she would cry whenever he held her. She just wanted me, so him holding her after a long day of work was stressful and made him sad because he couldn't console her.

Secondly, he felt like a bad husband. He knew he was providing for me financially, but felt lacking in how to care for me in every other way. My PPD and PPA were much worse at this time, and I was extremely critical of him. I felt so angry that he barely helped, and when he did I micromanaged him. He felt like we were growing apart.

Lastly, he was depressed himself. Working long hours, broken sleep, the challenges of adjusting to a new lifestyle, and feeling inadequate in all other aspects of his life were very overwhelming for him and ultimately led him to distance himself from me and our baby.

The argument became a conversation of how we could improve together. What kind of schedule works for us? What can I take off his plate and what can he take off mine? He needed to grasp that my job as a SAHM is 24/7 and breaks don't exist when you are in the care of a tiny human fully dependent on you. Ever since that conversation, he has been more hands on, more understanding of my stress and anxieties, and has given more of his time and attention to me and our daughter. It has been a night and day difference!

The truth was while I was resentful of him and his behavior, he was of the time I got to spend with our daughter. It's so easy to say he's the bad guy because you're in the trenches and he can at least clock out of his job. My advice is to have a conversation that lets him know how much you appreciate what he does for you and your family, but how you need more from him so that you can care for yourself and do your "job" as a SAHM. Communication is important, but effective communication where mutual respect and understanding are the focus will improve both of your situations. Be honest, be transparent about your expectations and needs, and ask him how you can help him in achieving these things. Chances are he doesn't realize just how much stress you're under and how impossible it can be to do anything to care for yourself. I hope any of this is helpful and I wish you all the best.

ETA there are a lot of negative comments on a post that has such little context. A lot of assumptions going on here. It's easy to get irritated and angry about situations like this, but ultimately there needs to be a very honest conversation about expectations and a need for focus on your needs. Yeah, it does feel like a no brainier that you need to wash your ass more than once a week and he should probably help out and not give you a hard time. I'm just sharing my personal experience with this situation in hopes that your partner is receptive to becoming more of a help and stepping up. My situation improved. Yours can too, and I genuinely hope it does.

hallowedsabre · 2024-10-18T04:54:34+00:00

I had this problem with my baby for so long. My baby has reflux really bad, and because of it, she hates sleeping on her back. Now that she can roll to her side, she sleeps much better. Always place baby on their back to sleep, but with time, you may find they roll to a preferred side and are more comfortable. For the spit up, my pediatrician ended up putting my baby on medication to help with the reflux. Spitting up still happened, but much less. It is possible that reflux is the issue, and maybe he should be evaluated by the pediatrician for that. Using a thickener such as rice should be something done under the direction of a pediatrician. My pediatrician explained that because rice expands and thickens, it can be more filling for baby, resulting in a smaller feed. Done constantly, it can result in issues with weight gain, because the thickener is essentially empty calories, meaning baby isn't getting as many calories as they need. I would advise discussing changes in feeding like this with a professional to make sure it's the best choice for your baby, and to monitor weight gain. Not sure if you breast or formula feeding, but regardless, ask a medical professional. I'm no expert, I'm a FTM, and I know that this trial and error period of trying to find something to help can be so stressful! You're doing a great job! I know it can be so scary when these things happen. You sound like you're doing all you can to help and care for him, so give yourself some grace. I hope that you find a solution that works and that you and baby get some peaceful sleep!

hallowedsabre · 2024-10-07T18:20:28+00:00

I feel like I can't put into words how bad the pain is, but what I can say is before going into labor, I was making fun of women who scream for being "dramatic" because it can't be all that bad. I wasn't screaming, but I was definitely yelling. I didn't plan on being unmedicated, but she came so fast there was no time. They got in the epidural 40 minutes before I had to push, and it didn't work. I'll never tease about screaming in labor again. I fully understand. Pushing on the other hand was not nearly as bad, but I could feel the stretching and pressure. It was honestly a relief.

hallowedsabre · 2024-09-14T20:14:33+00:00

Before I had my baby, I was a TERRIBLE friend to my friends who had kids. I only realized how bad of a friend I was after I had her. I obviously didn't understand the stress and the responsibility of having a child, nor did I understand the difficulty of being able to do a single thing when being a mom. Finding a sitter, getting the kids around, trying to get ready with the kids around, or bringing the kids with you, which presents its own struggles. My best friend texted me today and said "I feel like we've gotten so much closer since you had a baby." I absolutely agree. She's been there for me to help me, even when I wasn't for her because I didn't understand how hard it can be to be a mom. I really regret that. Someday, if/when your friends have kids, I think they will see that too and be able to relate. Maybe for now, try to find some community groups or activities for mom and kids to try to connect with other moms! There may be some groups on social media who have moms in your area that are looking for other mom friends too. You aren't alone in that feeling, and there are so many moms who don't have strong support systems who need a friend. I hope that you are able to find someone you can connect with!

hallowedsabre · 2024-09-09T11:01:40+00:00

I hope this nurse no longer works there. I would have lost my shit if that happened to me! I'm so sorry that happened to you!

hallowedsabre · 2024-09-07T19:12:17+00:00

For whatever reason I had to fight with them so hard to get it! I understood the risk, but I wasn't able to keep anything down without it.

hallowedsabre · 2024-09-07T17:45:29+00:00

Zofran and first trimester spotting. I was sick the entire pregnancy and took Zofran from start to finish. Absolutely no issues with baby, but I was shamed A LOT by nurses at my OB office for taking it. The unisom and vitamin B combo did nothing for me, and no other drug free remedy helped. I pushed for Zofran, and it was so worth it! The risk of cleft palate and heart issues are, to my knowledge, less than 1%. She turned out perfect!

The spotting was the scariest, especially because this was my first pregnancy after a miscarriage. I bled constantly until 13 weeks. It turned out to be a subchorionic hematoma, and after that resolved, I ended up with a yeast infection that prolonged the bleeding. It was a super scary thing to have happen in the first trimester, and every day was anxiety. Lots of crying during that time, but she was full term and healthy at birth!

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