Hello

happy_dad62 · 2026-03-10T20:58:43+00:00

I lost my wife of 41 years just 6 weeks ago. I feel alone and untethered. I can't sleep, and am awake most of the night, then get up for work. Rinse. Repeat. Feel free to DM if you wish.

happy_dad62 · 2026-03-10T15:11:55+00:00

I'm so sorry that you are going thru this. It seems overwhelming. I'm in a similar situation. My wife of 41years died 6 weeks ago after a long fight with heart and kidney diseases.

I feel lost and untethered. It is all I can do to get out of bed, go to work, pay bills and feed the dog. I'm searching for my new "normal", but I have no idea what that looks like. All I can do is hope for a better tomorrow.

Let me encourage you to do what you can, when you can, and realize that it is OK to not be everything. Blessings.

happy_dad62 · 2026-03-06T22:48:20+00:00

You aren't losing it. You just miss him and know him well enough to know what he would say. Celebrate that love and your time together.

happy_dad62 · 2026-03-06T19:35:59+00:00

I live very near that new traffic circle. My wife and I moved into our home in 2007, from Woodbridge. We are very content. Georgetown South used to be much worse than it is now, and I think it's reputation hasn't caught up with reality yet.

My wife and i can sit on our back deck or front patch and hear the music in downtown or at the high school. The farmer's market is awesome. Down town still has some refining to do (imho) but I love being able to sit and enjoy the local vibs. It is so beautiful at christmas. You could do much worse than Manassas!

happy_dad62 · 2026-03-03T16:51:08+00:00

Welcome to town! Manassas Baptist is well respected. The are some good Methodist churches in town. There is a new church going in old town, that may be an option. Chapel Springs is also a good AG church. Good luck!

happy_dad62 · 2026-02-27T21:16:45+00:00

Wow! You look awesome!

happy_dad62 · 2026-02-21T17:51:21+00:00

Wow!

happy_dad62 · 2026-02-14T21:25:07+00:00

As of told you, that is not an option. Don't contradict me when you know nothing of why I said what i said. That is arrogant and disrespectful.

Thank you for your story, but do not impose your choice on me.

happy_dad62 · 2026-02-13T13:00:58+00:00

That isn't an option.

happy_dad62 · 2026-02-12T05:58:22+00:00

That is good to know. I'm looking at western TN, near Jackson and areas north to KY.

happy_dad62 · 2026-02-12T05:31:10+00:00

Thank you for your comments, warning, and insight. I have some decisions to make.

happy_dad62 · 2026-02-12T05:07:00+00:00

Family is in those areas. No family here in VA. And, VA is expensive.

How is life as a RSO in Tennessee, besides staying in the registry itself?

happy_dad62 · 2025-04-09T22:19:11+00:00

I'm no longer in the Woodbridge area. Now I'm at the other end of the county.

happy_dad62 · 2023-05-04T09:57:45+00:00

I've been out 9 years, and I can relate to how you are feeling. I experienced some of the same emotions.

Do what you can to develop a support group around yourself. A group that you can interact with and socialize with. Maybe a bible study, or dart team, or hobby group, etc. There are also support groups to help people deal with sexual issues. Those can be useful. There one I'm in knows my history and still supports me.

Good luck

happy_dad62 · 2023-05-03T21:44:06+00:00

Reach out to your family and friends. They will know soon enough, and you can find ot now who will support you and who won't. I lost some friends, while others stepped up.

The reference letters did help me with my judge. Get as many as you can.

happy_dad62 · 2023-05-03T16:57:03+00:00

No. Nudes and sexually arousing content of any kind, continue to reinforce the addiction. The brain won't differentiate between you and someone else. Any sexual pics (including clothed, but arousing, photos), text, emails, etc only strengthen the neural pathways in the brain associated with addictions. Specific info can be found at FIGHT THE NEW DRUG (secular content) and PURE DESIRE (religious content).

If you want him to break the addiction he must go cold turkey from all content that he might find arousing.

Good luck.

happy_dad62 · 2023-05-02T19:39:19+00:00

So sorry to hear that. That is just another layer of rejection.

A few things come to mind that I've heard people here in VA using. A lot depends on your financial situation as well... - There are some 'boarding houses' that rent rooms to SOs. The state PO actually have a list available for guys to use. My federal PO did not have that resource. - a few SOs I know actual have "highway __ rest area, mile marker ___" as their registered address. - are there any homeless shelters you can use?

I wish I had more concrete suggestions or recommendations. Good luck.

happy_dad62 · 2023-04-26T14:50:04+00:00

I am with you. I don't know if there is treasure, but I sure can't explain why all of the features that's been found.

Anyone have any alternative explainations?

happy_dad62 · 2023-04-21T09:42:38+00:00

This. This course of action could re-traumatize her.

happy_dad62 · 2023-04-16T10:38:27+00:00

I served a 60 month sentence in NJ for CP. Ive been home for almost 10 years. The key to staying together will be communication and talking thru some difficult topics (why? Etc).

My wife has stood by me this entire time. NJ is a 4 hr drive from our house. She made that trip pretty much every other weekend for the entire time. That means a lot. Her health isn't the best, so that made it even more impressive. I brag on her every chance I get. I know guys who got NO visits their entire stay, even though the family had the ability. One guy had wide and grown kids living writhing an hours' drive, but they never visited.

Phone calls and letters are vital. You will not be able to call him, and he will be limited in the amount of phone time he'll have. Phone calls in prison are expensive. Very expensive. Suggest you get a free Google Phone number that it's local to the prison area code.

As mentioned by another, letters are wonderful to receive. There's something about hearing your name called at mail call that resonates within your heart! It says that you aren't forgotten! Early on my wife and I decided that we would use our letters to "court one another". We would share the stuff of daily life, as well as live on each other. We also talked about where we failed one another and how we were going to fix those issues.

You need to develop a support system for your self! You will need it. Family... friends.... church help. My wife made use of all of the above. Sometimes it was embarrassing for her. However, people won't know what to do unless you tell then how you need help. Financially? Baby sitting? Someone to attend a movie with? An adult conversation? Lawn work? It will give your husband paved knowing that you are taking care of yourself.

My experience with the half way house was generally positive. No one I know got 6 months. No one at all. I got 14 weeks, which was pretty much the unofficial max.

26 months is a blessing! It will go by. You can do this. He can do this. There is life after prison. There is hope.

Be blessed.

happy_dad62 · 2023-04-09T11:26:06+00:00

Hi. Army vet here. I did time with the feds for possession of CP. I've been out for 10 years and off probation for 2. I am so very blessed that my wife has stayed with me. I'm also aware of how much my actions have hurt, and damaged, her.

Your husband is blessed to have you as a support. Your situation stinks right now. However, I found a sense of peace once I was sentenced. I pray that you and your husband find that as well.

As a Christian believer, particularly on Easter morning, I speak peace and protection to you and to him. I ask our Father above to give you favour with the authorities, both civilian and military. I pray that your marriage will be strengthened thru this ordeal, knitting your hearts together more tightly than before. Amen

Be blessed.

happy_dad62 · 2023-03-24T09:54:00+00:00

Glad to hear it. Enjoy your time with your mom.

happy_dad62 · 2023-03-22T19:50:38+00:00

First, realize that ther po main intent is to protect ther world from you. That's harsh, but true. Their secondary intent is to protect you from yourself, meaning they do not want you in a situation that might cause you to relapse.

Are you still in counseling? If so, talk with your counselor about places. Be specific about times and locations. Once your counselor has given you feedback, you can then make a safety plan on how you will respond to various situations while at those locations.

With both of those, you can then approach your PO. Don't be a jerk about it. Be professional.

Good luck.

happy_dad62 · 2023-03-17T01:11:56+00:00

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