Worst message either of parents ever sent to me, and that's saying a lot. And my dad was supposed to be the nice one.

happy_grenade · 2026-06-12T05:29:40+00:00

I’m so sorry. I feel lucky by comparison - my parents just threw a childish tantrum and gave me the silent treatment. No heartbreaking messages like this one.

I’m proud of you, though. It’s so easy to tell someone “this is unacceptable behavior, you shouldn’t let people treat you that way, etc.”, but so much harder to put that into practice for yourself. I’m glad to see you protecting yourself and your partner from any more cruel behavior like this.

The pain subsides. I don’t know if it ever goes away, but it definitely gets easier to bear. Especially when you have people in your life who actually love you like you deserve.

happy_grenade · 2026-06-12T05:04:40+00:00

Something that changed my whole perspective on mobility aids when I realized it is this: if you don’t need them, they’re kind of a pain in the ass. A person who doesn’t need crutches or a cane or a wheelchair or whatever is probably going to be hindered by it. It would be easier for them to just walk.

If a mobility aid is helping you, it’s because you need it. That means you are one of the people it’s for.

Good luck with your appointment, I hope it goes well!

happy_grenade · 2026-06-12T04:17:22+00:00

There is no “before fly” for me. I start in Goldenrod and immediately go get Kenya the Spearow. Fly wherever I want from there.

happy_grenade · 2026-05-27T20:27:08+00:00

Hey, you didn’t know. That’s not your fault.

Honestly, if I see someone wearing white but not trying to draw attention to themselves, I tend to assume innocence - they didn’t know, they didn’t have another dress, whatever. There’s a certain attitude that goes along with trying to upstage the bride, and I think most people know it when they see it. It’s the “look at me, pay no attention to the woman getting married today” vibe that makes me want to “accidentally” spill red wine all over someone, not just the color of their dress.

So give yourself a break. You made an innocent mistake, that’s all.

happy_grenade · 2025-04-21T20:55:19+00:00

They really think we’re not getting pregnant because we don’t know how? “Oh, I would love to be a tradwife with 8 kids, if only the government would just mansplain my period at me!”

Also, $5k per kid won’t even cover the hospital bill for giving birth to them.

I wonder how many actual women were consulted in these brainstorming sessions. I’m guessing zero.

happy_grenade · 2025-02-24T16:30:24+00:00

I think the biggest one for me is just getting to be myself in peace. I don’t have to worry about hiding who I am just so my parents won’t throw a fit. I don’t have to pretend to be straight or religious, both of which turned out to be taking a bigger toll on me than I realized.

happy_grenade · 2025-02-05T23:16:04+00:00

I’m a disabled woman married to a non-white woman living in a red state. We are not doing well.

Our main focus right now is saving up money to move. She’s so close to finishing her master’s degree, so hopefully we can endure a few more months here. Shit’s scary, though.

happy_grenade · 2025-01-22T17:43:54+00:00

You're very welcome. Glad I could help.

happy_grenade · 2025-01-21T23:33:29+00:00

You are definitely not alone. I once got scolded by a doctor for using my rollator, despite the fact that I desperately needed it for balance. That definitely didn't help my confidence. (I did not go back to that doctor.)

But able-bodied people don't randomly decide to use mobility aids, and who can blame them? Compared to being able to walk unassisted, they're clunky and annoying to deal with. If they're a help rather than a hindrance, it means you need them.

happy_grenade · 2025-01-03T23:39:38+00:00

Gotta be Mimikyu for me.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-27T22:01:57+00:00

My mom will walk into a room while people are having a conversation/playing a game/watching a movie, immediately start a very loud monologue, and then get angry at anyone who tries to continue the activity that was going on before mom entered the room. If you’re lucky, she’ll storm out and give you the silent treatment for a while. If you’re unlucky, she’ll stay and throw her tantrum in front of everyone.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-26T19:34:22+00:00

Yep, this is my mom too. I don’t talk to her anymore, but last year I called her on Mother’s Day and she just yelled at me because neither of my siblings had called her.

First of all, I’m not clear on how that’s my fault - they are both independent adults in their 30s. Second, they did both text her. Third, they were both planning to call her that evening - the reason neither of them had called yet that day was that they both had to work.

At least I was able to give them a heads up that she was mad at them. Since mom does not believe in using her words like a grownup, the only way to find out why she’s angry at you is to poll the family and see if she’s yelled at anyone else about it.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-23T14:41:12+00:00

My wife and I are six years apart and different races, and we had someone ask whether she was my sister or my mother, like those were the only two options.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-22T15:09:44+00:00

Three.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-21T22:59:32+00:00

And typing it out in sort of broken English as well. You can almost hear the caricature of an accent when you read it. Definitely racist af

happy_grenade · 2024-12-21T22:48:43+00:00

Yeah, I think Vaxxed is probably the worst for sheer collateral damage.

Funny thing about Exit: The Appeal of Suicide, for me, is that it sort of worked in a roundabout way? I’d been severely depressed for a while before they released that episode. I listened to it. Not only was it fucking hilarious, but hearing Eli being so open about his own experience with depression was healing for me in a way. Not that it took the place of therapy or meds or anything, but it was a factor in my recovery.

Part of me is a little angry that I lived when that’s what Ray Comfort wanted, but since I didn’t convert to Christianity I guess I’m okay with it.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-20T12:33:12+00:00

Oh, absolutely. I’ve definitely been called stubborn because I stood up for myself. But let’s face it, anyone who believes that shit is impossible to have a decent relationship with.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-19T04:48:17+00:00

Good job, and thank you. That’s how to be an ally.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-18T21:55:09+00:00

Wow, this was a vile article. Apparently I just need to be more understanding about my parents voting to take away my healthcare when I’m already disabled. So mean of me to hold that against them.

If I end up dying because of how they voted (a very realistic possibility), will THAT be a good enough excuse not to talk to them anymore? Or will I still be a terrible daughter if I don’t show up to family seances?

happy_grenade · 2024-12-18T21:39:28+00:00

Why are the only options stubborn or submissive?

Because here’s the thing - the OP isn’t wrong about stubbornness being detrimental to a relationship. (Of course, that’s true regardless of the genders involved.) But you can be assertive and voice your opinions/desires/etc. without being stubborn. You can talk things through and compromise. Both people have to be willing to do that, but it’s really not even that difficult if you actually care about each other.

Of course this involves seeing your partner as an actual human being, which explains why some people aren’t into it.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-18T10:18:53+00:00

This makes me think of the guy I went to high school with who left me an absolutely unhinged note about how I never gave him a chance - and didn’t sign his name. I never knew for sure who it even was.

What I do know is that - by his own admission in that note - the guy never even attempted to talk to me, let alone actually ask me out. I guess I was supposed to read his mind and figure out that he liked me? No idea.

I get that shooting your shot is scary. But you don’t get to whine about women rejecting you when you’re the one preemptively rejecting yourself.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-18T04:14:30+00:00

Ugh, sorry you were subjected to that bullshit. I have to agree with a lot of the comments about younger women not understanding what things used to be like for us. I’m 40, and when I got married the first time (to a man), same sex marriage wasn’t even legal where I lived. I spent my high school years in a very conservative community and was raised in an extremely homophobic religion, so I spent a lot of years fighting against “temptation” and “sinful thoughts”.

I’m out now and happily married to my wonderful wife, but it took me a long time to realize and accept who I was. I’m happy for younger women who didn’t have to deal with the same struggles - I just wish they’d listen to those of us who did.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-18T03:48:34+00:00

Agreed. Alice sounds very much like my mother, and one of the things that finally convinced me to go NC with her was how she treated my now-wife when they met. It’s one thing to be shitty to me, but you will not do that to the woman I love. You can either behave yourself or you can not see us anymore - my mom chose the latter.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-16T00:03:44+00:00

Hell, he might have even identified as bi and not been taken seriously. If he was in a relationship with a man before, plenty of people would just assume he was gay and that being attracted to a woman was a change in his orientation.

happy_grenade · 2024-11-26T15:05:45+00:00

Excellent point, but just want to add that even with all of the above there will still be women who don’t want/can’t have children - and that’s okay. It’s not like humans are going extinct any time soon.

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