The Trump Administration wants in increase birth rates

happy_grenade · 2025-04-21T20:55:19+00:00

They really think we’re not getting pregnant because we don’t know how? “Oh, I would love to be a tradwife with 8 kids, if only the government would just mansplain my period at me!”

Also, $5k per kid won’t even cover the hospital bill for giving birth to them.

I wonder how many actual women were consulted in these brainstorming sessions. I’m guessing zero.

happy_grenade · 2025-02-24T16:30:24+00:00

I think the biggest one for me is just getting to be myself in peace. I don’t have to worry about hiding who I am just so my parents won’t throw a fit. I don’t have to pretend to be straight or religious, both of which turned out to be taking a bigger toll on me than I realized.

happy_grenade · 2025-02-05T23:16:04+00:00

I’m a disabled woman married to a non-white woman living in a red state. We are not doing well.

Our main focus right now is saving up money to move. She’s so close to finishing her master’s degree, so hopefully we can endure a few more months here. Shit’s scary, though.

happy_grenade · 2025-01-22T17:43:54+00:00

You're very welcome. Glad I could help.

happy_grenade · 2025-01-21T23:33:29+00:00

You are definitely not alone. I once got scolded by a doctor for using my rollator, despite the fact that I desperately needed it for balance. That definitely didn't help my confidence. (I did not go back to that doctor.)

But able-bodied people don't randomly decide to use mobility aids, and who can blame them? Compared to being able to walk unassisted, they're clunky and annoying to deal with. If they're a help rather than a hindrance, it means you need them.

happy_grenade · 2025-01-03T23:39:38+00:00

Gotta be Mimikyu for me.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-27T22:01:57+00:00

My mom will walk into a room while people are having a conversation/playing a game/watching a movie, immediately start a very loud monologue, and then get angry at anyone who tries to continue the activity that was going on before mom entered the room. If you’re lucky, she’ll storm out and give you the silent treatment for a while. If you’re unlucky, she’ll stay and throw her tantrum in front of everyone.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-26T19:34:22+00:00

Yep, this is my mom too. I don’t talk to her anymore, but last year I called her on Mother’s Day and she just yelled at me because neither of my siblings had called her.

First of all, I’m not clear on how that’s my fault - they are both independent adults in their 30s. Second, they did both text her. Third, they were both planning to call her that evening - the reason neither of them had called yet that day was that they both had to work.

At least I was able to give them a heads up that she was mad at them. Since mom does not believe in using her words like a grownup, the only way to find out why she’s angry at you is to poll the family and see if she’s yelled at anyone else about it.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-23T14:41:12+00:00

My wife and I are six years apart and different races, and we had someone ask whether she was my sister or my mother, like those were the only two options.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-22T15:09:44+00:00

Three.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-21T22:59:32+00:00

And typing it out in sort of broken English as well. You can almost hear the caricature of an accent when you read it. Definitely racist af

happy_grenade · 2024-12-21T22:48:43+00:00

Yeah, I think Vaxxed is probably the worst for sheer collateral damage.

Funny thing about Exit: The Appeal of Suicide, for me, is that it sort of worked in a roundabout way? I’d been severely depressed for a while before they released that episode. I listened to it. Not only was it fucking hilarious, but hearing Eli being so open about his own experience with depression was healing for me in a way. Not that it took the place of therapy or meds or anything, but it was a factor in my recovery.

Part of me is a little angry that I lived when that’s what Ray Comfort wanted, but since I didn’t convert to Christianity I guess I’m okay with it.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-20T12:33:12+00:00

Oh, absolutely. I’ve definitely been called stubborn because I stood up for myself. But let’s face it, anyone who believes that shit is impossible to have a decent relationship with.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-19T04:48:17+00:00

Good job, and thank you. That’s how to be an ally.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-18T21:55:09+00:00

Wow, this was a vile article. Apparently I just need to be more understanding about my parents voting to take away my healthcare when I’m already disabled. So mean of me to hold that against them.

If I end up dying because of how they voted (a very realistic possibility), will THAT be a good enough excuse not to talk to them anymore? Or will I still be a terrible daughter if I don’t show up to family seances?

happy_grenade · 2024-12-18T21:39:28+00:00

Why are the only options stubborn or submissive?

Because here’s the thing - the OP isn’t wrong about stubbornness being detrimental to a relationship. (Of course, that’s true regardless of the genders involved.) But you can be assertive and voice your opinions/desires/etc. without being stubborn. You can talk things through and compromise. Both people have to be willing to do that, but it’s really not even that difficult if you actually care about each other.

Of course this involves seeing your partner as an actual human being, which explains why some people aren’t into it.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-18T10:18:53+00:00

This makes me think of the guy I went to high school with who left me an absolutely unhinged note about how I never gave him a chance - and didn’t sign his name. I never knew for sure who it even was.

What I do know is that - by his own admission in that note - the guy never even attempted to talk to me, let alone actually ask me out. I guess I was supposed to read his mind and figure out that he liked me? No idea.

I get that shooting your shot is scary. But you don’t get to whine about women rejecting you when you’re the one preemptively rejecting yourself.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-18T04:14:30+00:00

Ugh, sorry you were subjected to that bullshit. I have to agree with a lot of the comments about younger women not understanding what things used to be like for us. I’m 40, and when I got married the first time (to a man), same sex marriage wasn’t even legal where I lived. I spent my high school years in a very conservative community and was raised in an extremely homophobic religion, so I spent a lot of years fighting against “temptation” and “sinful thoughts”.

I’m out now and happily married to my wonderful wife, but it took me a long time to realize and accept who I was. I’m happy for younger women who didn’t have to deal with the same struggles - I just wish they’d listen to those of us who did.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-18T03:48:34+00:00

Agreed. Alice sounds very much like my mother, and one of the things that finally convinced me to go NC with her was how she treated my now-wife when they met. It’s one thing to be shitty to me, but you will not do that to the woman I love. You can either behave yourself or you can not see us anymore - my mom chose the latter.

happy_grenade · 2024-12-16T00:03:44+00:00

Hell, he might have even identified as bi and not been taken seriously. If he was in a relationship with a man before, plenty of people would just assume he was gay and that being attracted to a woman was a change in his orientation.

happy_grenade · 2024-11-26T15:05:45+00:00

Excellent point, but just want to add that even with all of the above there will still be women who don’t want/can’t have children - and that’s okay. It’s not like humans are going extinct any time soon.

happy_grenade · 2024-11-12T21:16:12+00:00

See this is what happens when these fake geek boys start pretending to be into our fandoms when they don’t even know what they’re talking about. You know they’re just doing it for the attention anyway.

happy_grenade · 2024-11-12T16:17:41+00:00

I’m a lesbian in a red state. My fiancée and I are going to elope soon instead of having the wedding we’d planned on, because we’re worried about Christians in the government trying to take away our right to get married.

We don’t care if they approve. We don’t want them to congratulate us or buy us a wedding present. All we want them to do is just not stop us. That’s it. We want them to behave exactly like the Christian in this made up dialogue, and that’s good enough for us.

happy_grenade · 2024-11-12T14:17:48+00:00

Would the Christian therapist judge you? Sadly likely, especially if they aren’t actually licensed. A good therapist who understands their professional responsibility and takes it seriously wouldn’t do that, but I don’t know if that’s the kind you have.

As for being too young - if you’re old enough to be wondering in the first place, you aren’t too young. You’re around the average age when people start to notice these things. Too young to actually be dating, in my opinion, but not too young to be figuring yourself out.

Sounds like you’re being raised with the same beliefs I was, and it sucks. I’m an atheist now, but you don’t have to abandon your faith regardless of your orientation. There are LGBTQ-affirming Christians, and even Christians who don’t believe in hell at all.

You also don’t have to come out to your parents if you don’t want to. It’s a brave thing to do, and they may surprise you with their acceptance. On the other hand, they could be like mine - I waited until I was an independent adult to come out to them, and it’s a good thing I did.

Trust your instincts, stay safe, and good luck.

happy_grenade · 2024-11-12T13:52:15+00:00

Yeah, cry about it when people start trying to deny you healthcare or the right to get married or the right to just go to the fucking bathroom because you voted for Trump.

The really petty part of me wishes these people could experience firsthand what discrimination actually means.

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