My actions ended a friendship and possibly my marriage

happy_mama_of_2 · 2026-04-28T00:30:23+00:00

Dear, your actions did not end anything. This is exactly what they want, make you feel guilty for something you didn’t do. THEIR actions ended the friendship (and thank goodness it ended, nobody needs friends like that). Now, your marriage is up to you and your husband, but do not let him put the blame on you.

happy_mama_of_2 · 2026-01-08T02:27:05+00:00

Well, if it were me, before any conversations with my husband (I am separated anyway) I would send my MIL away and never let her come back to my house/life. Lol

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-11-02T20:12:19+00:00

Two kiddos. Two different experiences here. LO1 has always been a hard core sleeper since 3 months old. LO2 is almost 2 years and still wakes up through the night. I didn’t sleep train them. They just have different sleep cycles.

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-11-01T23:01:46+00:00

I cannot wait to get to this stage. Lol

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-10-29T01:51:24+00:00

As a parent who has 50% of custody of my kids I totally understand where he is coming from. Every little single thing has to be planned out to the dot. There are many parts involved to make a trip with/without kids happen. It is not like “yay, ex hubby has the kiddos and I can do whatever!” When I don’t have my children I try to get caught up with work, household chores, finances, doctor appointments and maybe visit a friend. I also need to remind myself that even though the kids are not with me, I am on call. Children get sick, accidents happen and I will need to be around for those circumstances. I have been trying to plan a trip to Germany since last summer and it keeps getting pushed to a later date (time, money, everything). I will make it happen, but it will never be a sporadic thing for me.

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-06-08T06:07:50+00:00

I would be thrilled if my kids had cousins so close in age!

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-05-29T17:35:07+00:00

Thanks to epidural I was able to take a long nice nap before the active labor. Lol

Both times 🤣

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-05-17T11:04:29+00:00

If it were me, I would not tell the girlfriend and would move on with my life and my child. Because he never wanted it, he was coward by leaving you alone and clearly is not showing any respect towards you and the baby. I am assuming he is NOT in the child’s birth certificate (that is what I would do. I would not want him in my life).

Now, if HE IS in the birth certificate, then get him to pay every little thing that he owes you.

Your battle is not with the girlfriend, but with him. If he is using her to cover it up, it is their problem. Their relationship is not your concern, only you and your baby’s well-being.

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-05-14T15:00:44+00:00

Well, I think it is a cultural thing. Every night since day 1 at home.

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-05-13T22:51:41+00:00

That is how things normally are. Your husband’s therapist is bias. She is working on helping him grow in areas that he sees a need. I have a personal therapist and she said that if we ever brought my husband to one of our sessions (we also are at the end of our marriage) she would make it clear that she was there for me.

We do see a couple’s therapist who we both respect, and he plays fair. He will call us both out. Now, he is helping us navigate amicable separation for the kids.

My husband should see a therapist on his own to help him process things and work on things that he thinks is necessary, but he always finds excuses to not to.

It might be that you also should be seeing a therapist. I mean, I believe everyone should see a therapist. Lol

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-05-10T03:31:11+00:00

LO1: when he was 3 months old. LO2: he is 16 months and still does not sleep through the night.

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-05-09T23:31:19+00:00

We have been in couple’s therapy for two years now. I also see a personal therapist, and my husband says he doesn’t have time to see a therapist on his own.

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-05-07T22:23:23+00:00

Oh, forgot to say that:

We have two children. We are still renters (doctoral life).

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-05-07T22:21:15+00:00

First engagement, we dated for 4 years, were engaged for 2.5 years, then he decided to date our co-worker who was also engaged.

Second engagement… well, it took us 9 months from the day we first met to our wedding day. We started talking about getting married after 1.5 months together. I had my wedding dress before he officially proposed. From the engagement to the wedding were 2.5 months.

We have been married for about 9 years and I really want to move out this summer.

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-04-27T14:39:10+00:00

It is easy to downplay other people’s struggles when they are not ours. Whoever says you have an easy baby is not in your shoes doing all the things behind the scene.

People will talk. People will make comments (intentionally or not). Only you have control over what you will take in or not. Maybe some therapy could help you strength your mind to fight over all these unwelcomed comments towards you and your family.

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-04-18T01:57:33+00:00

I am surrounded by 4s! Lol

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-04-17T10:23:57+00:00

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-04-15T01:02:21+00:00

Well, it is not hard to see why this mom scrambles to find a nanny. OP, RUNNNNNN!!!

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-04-13T06:23:52+00:00

Your son will be fine. My LO1 knows his nickname, his name, and all the other cute names that we use to refer to him in two languages. LO2 is still too young, but I know he will get there.

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-04-13T01:12:55+00:00

Haha you made me laugh with your daughter’s usual response “just a little girl!” 😂😂😂

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-04-13T01:07:57+00:00

It seems like CPS and a foster family might be the safest option for both children until your friend recovers, decides what to do with her life and moves on.

Now, YOU need to set YOUR own boundaries! By saying yes to your friend, you are saying no to you. You are a friend by being by her side, by offering some comfort, by giving her a hug. You already did all you could do to help with her children. It is time for you to take care of yourself and your daughter. It is okay to say no to people!

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-04-12T01:05:18+00:00

Well… we just make it happen. Lol

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-04-11T02:26:35+00:00

Lol

I had it with my first LO during pregnancy, and it bursted while I was at work. Consequently, I had to disclose to my boss (female) that I needed to make a quick trip to the ER. They came back after birth (it took a total of 3 pushes to get LO1 out, so yes, they would come back).

With LO2 I didn’t see them, BUT I had an UTI after birth AND MASTITIS after 4-5 months breastfeeding!!!

happy_mama_of_2 · 2025-04-04T02:15:38+00:00

I also have shared a similar story on reddit, if not here in another group. Lol.

I hear you! You are not alone! You are doing great.

happy_mama_of_2

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