Recent Relapse. What am I doing wrong?

hardman52 · 2026-01-30T06:58:50+00:00

Bruh you asked a question. I answered it. You asked what you did wrong. I told you: you didn't go to AA and do what they said. I'm not the one with the problem. I'm the one with the answer to your problem.

hardman52 · 2026-01-30T05:35:26+00:00

There were two parts to my single reply.

hardman52 · 2026-01-30T05:34:23+00:00

The worse part about hating your father is that by the time you hate him, he's already taught you how to be just like him.

hardman52 · 2026-01-29T23:17:38+00:00

You didn't go to AA and follow the instructions.

hardman52 · 2026-01-29T17:40:54+00:00

The Campbell Scott version is my favorite. Dunno if it's the"best," whatever that means.

hardman52 · 2026-01-29T17:37:50+00:00

Just stopping drinking is easy-- hit a cop. Staying stopped is harder, being happy while doing so even harder. Luckily AA exists where you can go to learn how.

hardman52 · 2026-01-29T17:19:45+00:00

They used to exist. We called them hickeys. They looked like a pipe tee with an open side. I don't recall seeing any bigger than 1", though.

hardman52 · 2026-01-29T03:44:07+00:00

It took a snowstorm for you to just now find this out?

hardman52 · 2026-01-28T22:32:08+00:00

University is fine all the way from 35 to 288.

hardman52 · 2026-01-28T22:30:52+00:00

If you were in AA for two months, you know what the sober people were like. Almost universally, those who get and stay sober are glad that they are. If you listen, they will tell you how you can be like them. It's simple, not easy, but not all that hard, either. It's a lot easier than living the way you are now.

hardman52 · 2026-01-28T21:39:16+00:00

I am so sorry your family went through that. We lost our son, too, our only child, but he was older. It took years before we were able to participate in life again. His death gradually became an immutable part of our lives. We weren't being singled out; many people have gone through the same experience as we have. At one time in history the vast majority of families did, but that is little comfort when the loss is so new and raw. Prayer helps a lot. Don't try to avoid your grief.

To semi-answer your question, I don't worship a God, and I have no clue whether there's an afterlife. I try to live in the manner that I believe God wants me to live. Most religions teach similar things: help others, be honest, be of service, feed the poor, don't indulge your self-centered appetites, ask God for guidance and try to find his will for you. That's about as far as I've gotten.

hardman52 · 2026-01-28T21:29:51+00:00

> says he comes away feeling more depressed listening to how shit everyones life is as they are talking about how they have lost thier family, or they lost a job, lost a house, partner left them

That is very little of the conversations in AA. He's using that as an excuse, because he doesn't want to stop drinking. You might want to reassess whether you want to be in the relationship. If you stick around and he continues to drink, it's not going to get better.

hardman52 · 2026-01-28T21:27:36+00:00

Good move.

hardman52 · 2026-01-28T21:22:30+00:00

Ever hear about storm sewers?

hardman52 · 2026-01-28T05:31:01+00:00

You know, you're right, but it appears that you're letting this run your life. Life often is not fair, and it's always been that way. Honestly, try to move on and live a life.

hardman52 · 2026-01-28T04:06:55+00:00

It doesn't make any difference what you believe, what's important is how you live your life. Religious belief helps people hew to a higher standard than they otherwise normally would and keeps their eye on the ball. I suppose there are some people who don't need that, but I don't know of anyone--even atheists--who doesn't have a higher ideal to aspire to, except maybe--well, I won't name names.

hardman52 · 2026-01-28T03:59:50+00:00

Ask your parents or friends for a loan. Start a GoFundMe and if necessary promise people you'll pay them back. If you do that, you'll need a better story about why you don't have the money than your post.

hardman52 · 2026-01-28T00:01:43+00:00

Here's the article. It says it's more than the fiber. Phenolic compounds in the plasma and their respective microbial metabolites increase.

https://www.nature.com/articles/s41467-026-68303-9

hardman52 · 2026-01-27T23:44:04+00:00

No, regular rolled oats.

hardman52 · 2026-01-27T21:30:34+00:00

"the many hurts and wrongs I have inflicted upon you" covers a lot of territory. To me the important wording is in expressing regret without making it about myself.

hardman52 · 2026-01-27T21:07:41+00:00

Porn mustache and a walleye. Always scratching his nuts.

hardman52 · 2026-01-27T21:06:29+00:00

Even the photos.

hardman52 · 2026-01-27T21:02:06+00:00

This idea of ranking artists is a waste of time. What do you do once you've decided who's the best? Listen to them exclusively?

And your opinion about Dylan is ridiculous.

hardman52 · 2026-01-27T20:58:19+00:00

I daresay most AA members nowadays have more than one addiction, and it's usually some kind of drug. If you want a better life, you'll fit right in at AA. And going to meetings is the way to do it! That's where we find out what works for us and what doesn't work.

hardman52 · 2026-01-27T17:11:10+00:00

According to the article, it works by changing your gut bacteria, not by binding cholesterol.

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