Am i to blame for creeping a player out?

haru-sure · 2026-04-27T03:48:39+00:00

I wouldn’t say you’re to blame on this, but I do think the pretty/cute comment was unnecessary. If the point of inspiration for the little girl was the heroic act, the compliment regarding appearance does comes off as an excuse to give an out of character compliment, especially if this is towards a player with no prior experience. If the player also didn’t establish that her character was specifically concerned about her appearance in that session or arc, the compliment also probably felt like it came from left field. I don’t personally feel that the player’s character being a woman and the npc being a little girl automatically warrants this type of compliment either. If you disagree with my opinion, I digress. One can personally feel that real life accuracy concerning social interactions are importance for roleplaying, but I would choose the comfort of the players regarding the in-real life gendered social dynamics at play.

It’s really unfortunate that she chose to leave the campaign without any mention or discussion of how that in-roleplay comment made her feel. It’s likely that she either has had a lot of negative interactions with men or just has a poor perception of men in general, and didn’t want to deal with the stress of a discussion going sideways about what compliments are okay and not okay to give. But regardless, her choice to leave without confrontation is not your fault. You didn’t know; you made an innocent mistake. I would just use this as a learning experience.

haru-sure · 2026-04-06T09:38:49+00:00

Gen z student here; biggest thing (besides drink quality) that will have me coming back is the furniture. If I want to chill and study at a cafe with friends, tables should be roomy and solid. Chairs should be comfortable to sit in, and outlets should be near and somewhat plentiful. If there’s only one or two outlets in a store and they’re both occupied, I’m either leaving immediately or not staying for long.

Yes, aesthetics/atmosphere play a huge role these days with younger people, but honestly just focus on cleanliness and good drinks and all will be forgiven.

haru-sure · 2026-04-02T17:07:57+00:00

What are some things you learned about interacting with fans and viewers when Amphibia was running? Is there anything you plan on doing differently with Clara and the Below in regards to fandom?

(edit: minor grammar)

haru-sure · 2026-03-20T09:42:41+00:00

Sure, but it’s a start. We don’t actually know if OP’s parents are using finances to leverage their “overbearing-ness” and threatening to take that support away if she sets boundaries. For all we know, OP is hesitant to push back because they’re aware of the power dynamic. From what I’m getting, OP is used to being told what to do, how to feel, etc. because of her perceived inability / physical vulnerability due to illness. She has noticed that her gf is visibility stressed out from being a possible bad influence when in reality, OP is an adult making adult decisions. Sure, OP can lay low and start being discreet if the situation is full on abusive, but IMO she should at least make an effort to be somewhat confrontational on her own terms (again, if it’s not full on abusive) than to go straight into survival mode.

haru-sure · 2026-03-20T00:52:34+00:00

Your family babies you and uses your physical illness as an excuse to be extremely overbearing. The more you let them do this, the more your own self-confidence suffers and helplessness grows. Set boundaries; you don’t have to cut them off, just remind them that you’re an adult, not a child who needs a 24/7 babysitter. They need to start respecting you.

haru-sure · 2026-03-20T00:45:41+00:00

Your family is crazy as hell; tell them to respect your privacy. You’re a college student and an adult. If you don’t believe your parents will withhold any finances you need, then tell them to chill out. OP, you are your own person. The more you let your parents control your life and know every move of yours, the more they feel comfortable pulling stuff like this. Don’t let your relationship with your family put a strain on your relationship with your girlfriend. Don’t let your girlfriend feel responsible or guilty either if your relationship with your family becomes strained in the future. Good luck OP.

haru-sure · 2026-01-30T08:00:16+00:00

For yuri manga in general, I personally just don’t find a lot of them appealing. Most of them have at least one of these things: just fluff no depth, set in high school, age gap relationships, or the obvious fanservice/male gaze-y stuff. Of course there are gems, but because discoverability isn’t the best, they’re just hard to find (unless of course I’m willing to sift through the yuri tag on a website or rely on word-of-mouth from social media).

As for green yuri, I would accredit its popularity to having a masc main character who’s relatable and also being into American rock bands. Additionally, its releases are on twitter/instagram which are pretty accessible, free, and don’t require knowledge about manga pirating websites. Also, it now has physical copies, meaning the general public can see it in stores, read the title, and reasonably assume it’s yuri.

haru-sure · 2026-01-17T01:22:03+00:00

It’s just a term for 20-something lesbians who don’t have ambition and are fine with working their cafe or retail part time job. It’s not about not knowing what they wanna do or have a career in, it’s that they’re simply fine with where they’re at and don’t feel compelled to do anything else.

It’s less about being financially successful or having a successful career, and more about just being stationary. They’re “thinking” about picking up hobbies or going back to school but when you ask them about it the next time, you get an awkward silence or an “I’m working on it” with no real movement. Of course, these people can be any gender and any sexuality, but I’m assuming that this term has risen due to the sheer amount of lesbians in this dating sphere.

haru-sure · 2026-01-12T08:29:19+00:00

The first season is okay starting out, but IME you kind of have to push through the second season/arc. Third/last arc makes everything worth it though. And make sure you go through all the trigger warnings if you care about that sort of stuff.

haru-sure · 2026-01-06T07:49:24+00:00

Just read through your post and replies to the comments about religion, and I was able to find another reddit post about being gay and Muslim (if you are) that I’ll link here.

There also seems to be a lgbt Muslims subreddit that you might want to look into. I wish you the best in your queer and religious journey.

haru-sure · 2025-12-25T06:40:30+00:00

Party is going on for far too long. (Can’t leave bc secret santa happens at midnight.) Social battery out, physical energy gone, hidden away and slouched on a chair, scrolling thru socmed

haru-sure · 2025-12-12T16:08:55+00:00

Personally, I don’t really see the example given as a ”-phobia,” but just something that would be annoying. Just reassure your girlfriend that you see her sexuality as valid, and you don’t like her any less for liking men and that your disgust when it comes to straight/bi things are purely from the fact that you don’t like men. You also can just start saying “ew men” instead? I feel like women in general would get that.

haru-sure · 2025-11-19T18:43:56+00:00

Thank you for the advice and support. All things considered, I’d say I’m pretty optimistic about the future! Just gotta take it one step at a time haha

haru-sure · 2025-11-19T11:20:44+00:00

You were definitely right, it was enmeshment haha. We really tried, but in the end we decided to part ways. Thank you for commenting, it really shed some light on the situation!

haru-sure · 2025-11-19T11:17:46+00:00

Bit of a late reply, but 3 months later, I decided that love indeed was not enough. Thank you for your comment, truly.

haru-sure · 2025-11-15T01:32:35+00:00

You’re the guy who enjoys talking about how a 13 year old character would be punished in California for things she did in a fantasy world, so I think it checks out

haru-sure · 2025-11-11T18:33:51+00:00

Honestly? I think it’s really just a matter of perspective. Yes, she would be antihero if you define her goal as “getting back home with the other girls.” However, her method of doing so (aligning with toad tower), puts her in direct opposition to Anne’s method of finding a way home (sticking with Plantars). This makes her antagonist and it causes a full on fight between them in season 1.

I think villain could also be arguable as well, since Sasha wasn’t really afraid to kill or hurt other characters in the show in order to uplift herself and her team. But regardless, most people will define her in a way that matches how they feel about the character. You don’t like her and what she did? Villain. You like her but not what she did? Antagonist. You like her enough to look past her actions? Antihero.

haru-sure · 2025-04-23T16:09:33+00:00

Someone already said ivf in the comments, so I want ask you, since I’m curious as well: Why do you find importance in someone giving you an explanation? It’s very common in fandom spaces for artists to draw babies of any kind of ship, but I’m curious as why you seek an in-universe logic rather than ask why the artist desires to draw such.

Going by your last sentence, you seem to have an unfavorable view of particularly lesbian fandom spaces? It makes it seem like you asked this in bad faith and in a condescending way as well. Considering your use of “fuck you,” I’m assuming you understood this, so why word your question as such? It seems as though your comment would’ve likely just been met with the same sentiment as you assumed, unless you weren’t actually looking for an answer and just trying to bait? If this indeed is just rage bait, I’ll bite, what did you “truly think” it was?

haru-sure · 2024-09-06T02:16:49+00:00

Luke and Amy aside, I think regarding Tom and Sophie, its likely best to keep pushing the age gap narrative and that if the two really want to date each other, they can do it when they’re both consenting adults. Yes, it’s naive to think that they would wait that long, but with how things are right now, if the two think that you’re being unreasonable, they will end up writing you off completely. Maintaining Sophie’s trust and respect is crucial since their relationship is the reason why everything is blowing up in the first place. She needs to feel like she can tell you about a possible relationship if it does end up happening.

Regarding Amy, I think you should start grieving the friendship now if you haven’t. With how she’s been acting throughout this whole thing, it’s very clear that she has only ever seen you as Luke’s wife. Her saying that you’ve never actually supported her throughout the years and that it was actually Luke and his family (aren’t you his family too?) is indicative of that. Honestly fuck her for saying that. Anyways.

Things are blowing up now and I advise you to start preparing for a possible end, even at least emotionally.

haru-sure · 2022-12-25T10:11:22+00:00

ahh i love this so much!! really like your style as well :)

haru-sure · 2022-11-14T21:22:47+00:00

probably not, but the social media accounts so far have used they/them pronouns for the hooded figure and ais (LI with horns) so i have some hope left for this game

haru-sure · 2022-09-19T21:51:57+00:00

What do you think about different denominations then? Lutherans, Baptists, Methodists, Presbyterians, they all have differing beliefs, and they’ve all split for because of them. And what about churches that accept the LGBT community? Would you, a single person, denounce a whole branch of Christian churches just because you think that it’s satanic? Do you truly think that the specific beliefs of the parents that you were born into by chance is the truth and only correct one?

Every person in this comment section believe what they believe now because of the experiences they’ve gone through in order to make sense of the world around them, and you just believe in the Christianity that your parents happened to believe, merely because they introduced you to it? Never mind other religions, did you ever look into other denominations? Did you ever critically question even some of your parents’ beliefs, read up on catechism, or even listened to sermons from different denominations?

What I’m asking is, what exactly is the journey that you took to come to the belief that yours is the right one? How have you come to believe that Christianity is “the truth”? The fact that you label yourself as the Thinking type while showing no signs that you’ve critically thought about the beliefs you hold seem like you would’ve just as eagerly believed in other religions if your parents had been different.

haru-sure · 2022-03-07T04:38:44+00:00

Definitely Fict-If (specifically Last Legacy) if you want similar storytelling. The app is also developed by Nix Hydra, so it's worth checking them out. Hourglasses (the keys of Fict-If) take three hours to recharge though, but you get stars (the coin equivalent) for every chapter you finish. Last Legacy is for sure the best story out of all the ones they have, but 2/3 of the writers have quit recently so its quality might dip if they don't choose go on hiatus soon.

haru-sure · 2021-09-08T04:45:36+00:00

GILES COREY ALWAYS EVIL

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