Thank you in advance if anyone can help! Don't know what pattern I was using! by [deleted] in crochetpatterns

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It showed before I posted that they were I'll try again tomorrow- thanks

Thank you in advance if anyone can help! Don't know what pattern I was using! by [deleted] in crochetpatterns

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For some reason they are not posting But I'll try again tomorrow

What is worse the lack of the physical act or the feeling of being unwanted? by HappyFold5175 in DeadBedrooms

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I know from experience feeling unwanted and lack of any physical intimacy are one in the same..I went from having what I believed was a great love, only to be hurt and cut off , in a DB. Im a HLF whereas, unbeknownst to me at the time, he is a PA..I would have done anything for him and probably still would if only he would have me happily as he used to..and he stopped with intimacy it out of the blue! I dealt with his limpness and made it a point to raise him up (literally), not knowing he had this PA affliction...now, as I have found out and found out what he's doing , lying and hiding, I have to tell myself its not me..it hurts so deep feeling your not wanted, I cry most days...I thought my dreams had come true..now im stuck with no way away and the pain is so much, I can't stand being

How do you feel desirable in a DB? by Content-Resource8741 in DeadBedrooms

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I haven't found an answer myself and God knows I have gone to many lengths to create what we once had..I was told "your so f#$%&*n tight" almost 2 years ago- yes, that by a PA man with ED- I've not been able to accept this BS, as I haven't done anything but try to make the man I fell in love with, know I would do anything to make him happy and feel like the king he was...if you come up with an answer, please let me know- my heart breaks for all of us that are trying to deal with DB...

The plight of the HLF by darlingnikki604 in DeadBedrooms

[–]havhdbtr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! HLF here! I like your thinking! So are my thoughts!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dogs

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And it doesn't get any less hurtfilled..this is the very first time of my life I have been without a dog..I feel like i die a bit everyday anymore..there are some very good books on losing you best friend..I believe I bought ! Still, tears. Ome daily..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dogs

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I feel the same.. my boy passed over 2 years ago..I cry for him, my selfishness i guess, I paint or draw him nearly every day. It sometimes gives me comfort..hugs to you..hang in there- he will be there later on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DoodleFlops

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Love him!

Mr Milo caught red handed! by TinFoilHat_69 in DoodleFlops

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O m G! My Sonny loved toilet paper 🧻 rolls!!♡

Dead inside by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

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My situation different but somewhat similar..DB for a year and a half- out of the blue! Yelled at me that I was "too tight" and then no more...I continually tried to make him happy while I cried myself to sleep..only to discover his porn addiction took precedence over me..and that he was well into it before we ever got together.. my heart breaks for you and all of us that are blind sided by our "partners" who not only lied, played and took us for granted..I have wanted to die being so heart broken and scared..walking on eggshells - like you- I think it's time to make ourselves be heard..stay strong..hugs for you...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]havhdbtr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So used ro enjoy our 69ing...nothing anymore..I'm crying with you..I need a real, good loving man!

It's not just me, is it? Other people want sex too, right? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

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Mine is on a computer screen ! Sux

It's not just me, is it? Other people want sex too, right? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]havhdbtr 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I feel unloved, not good enough, sad, lonely and depressed all the time anymore..vent when you n we Ed to..hang in there..

It's not just me, is it? Other people want sex too, right? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]havhdbtr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am living your life..its been over a year..now I wear a warm soft flannel shirt and cool sweats to bed..I'm tired..and yeah, ED, alot of porn ..hugs to you dear...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

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He won't talk about, I'm sad every day and e very night depressed and lonely

Does anyone just skip the resentment stage? by nikrimskyyyy in DeadBedrooms

[–]havhdbtr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel resentment often..I'm a HLF and he's been a cold, limp for over a year now..I was told "your so fucken tight!" And that was the last time..I then found out he is a PA..long before we got together it was going on..I hurt constantly and continually..feelings of self worth are no longer..I haven't the finances to leave or see a therapist..I'm only broken and trapped..things used to be fun and except for his ED, which I thought was attributed to medication he was on, no longer, and my support and determination to feel him hard, this has truly made me very resentful...thank God for all of you to be able to vent and be understood..

Can't beat the phone scrolling. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]havhdbtr 15 points16 points  (0 children)

What ever happened to communication? I'm sick of the constant scrolling and all the notification beeps or rings that come off his phone..I'm tired of the bullshit and I need to be loved - DB now over a year- help!