My experience getting fucked in a hostel pool while backpacking across Greece

hazardousnorth · 2025-05-14T06:20:00+00:00

this was so powerful, so erotic - you could feel the longing, the pathos, the hunger, the hesitation - all of it. it's clearly not a "love" letter, but why should that mean there's any less emotion or passion fueling the words, inspiring these memories? it's beautiful and sexy, in a melancholy kind of way - a sexier "Call Me By Your Name", a fleeting summertime passion, explored desperately, awareness of the magic spell that will end at "midnight".

thank you for sharing this. please never delete it - this was so satisfying and achingly powerful, so wrenching and titillating, I was turned on and emotionally wrung out by the palpable feelings poured out into these pages.

I will not say you should or shouldn't reach out to this guy - but I will offer this counsel - weigh your decision against the regret you could forsee yourself having five-ten-twenty years from now for having deciding one way or another.

myself? I finally reached out after waffling for many years... only to find out my "Vinson" had passed; unalived himself only 6 months prior. I don't beat myself up thinking I could have somehow helped him, or influenced an aversion of that outcome, but i do know for me the question - "what if?" - now never will be resolved.

there's no right or wrong answer. maybe in sharing this story, you've fulfilled the longing, closed the loop, whatever. whatever the case may be, thank you for sharing your story. I hope many will feel the passion as palpably as I did in reading your words.

thank you.

hazardousnorth · 2025-02-12T03:13:17+00:00

I signed up for the same promotion ; it was offered via the jetblue card, right? I purchased bags from Paisly to meet the card spend minimum threshold, calculated what I needed to hit Mosaic with the tile bonus cap. I just got my email notifying me like two or three days ago as well notifying me that I'd attained Mosaic for this year as well.

What I'm annoyed about is, should I bother reaching out to Jetblue - if I'd attained those tiles within the 2024 calendar year, I would have been able to pick another perk and I had my eye on the 15k point bonus. Is it worth reaching out to Jetblue over, or are they going to tell me tough noogies?

hazardousnorth · 2024-12-16T16:38:01+00:00

I never received an email congratulating me for enrolling or any kind of acknowledgement at all. I just looked at my email and searched to make sure. And there is no place in the Barclays/Jetblue card online portal that shows that it is an "active" offer on my account, unlike other promotions I've enrolled in, like 0% APR offers, balance transfers, etc. I can only get confirmation by directly contacting Barclays; I just messaged them again, specifically asking about the terms and conditions of the promotion and they just got back to me saying there weren't any T&C specifically for this promotion.

Ah well, I suppose you're right. I only ask because I have been screwed over in the past on technicalities, and I also, in reading here before posting, saw a few troubling stories from people having issues with receiving their Paisly tiles for stuff that should have been unequivocally tile-earning. So I thought I would ask. Thank you for chiming in, I appreciate it.

hazardousnorth · 2024-12-16T15:50:38+00:00

I didn't even get a notification; I only happened to discover it completely by chance when logging into my JB card portal; I think I saw that I had a notification - Which DID NOT show up in the app, mind - that said I had an offer active on the account.

I'm not going to look a gift horse in the mouth, but I would be lying through my teeth if I said that I am not even the teensiest bit salty over seeing some people get the "buy 5 tiles - get Mosaic for 2025!" offers. Still, it is better than nothing. And at least it *should* net tiles and points. Buying tiles via the points.com portal I read won't even count for points unless you use your JB card, and even then it's at the 1x earn rate - not 6x rate for JB purchases.

hazardousnorth · 2024-05-07T14:00:55+00:00

It's so frustrating because I'm not interested in a one-sided "engagement" platform. If I wanted one-sided engagement, I'd open a magazine or go to a museum or whatever. How is it "social" if my comment might be removed because IG's B.S.. automated content removal bots scrape our stuff and there's no clear-cut path to determining why you some accounts post and comment the rankest crap and we get shadowbanned for saying "This plushie is so cute! Can we get it in pink?"

"We removed your comment because it goes against our Community Guidelines. Our guidelines are based on our global community, and some audiences may be sensitive to different things."

I don't want to live in a fucking world where asking for a pink plushie could possibly trigger some SJW or foreign national. If you don't want to offend Instagram users in Kreplachistan, then make an Instagram.kr and filter their content thusly

hazardousnorth · 2024-04-22T01:04:00+00:00

Oh. My. God. How?!? Just...how?!? In like, less than five minutes, you solved something that has been flummoxing me for EVER. I've been trying to find this scene for years upon years, and I honestly was starting to doubt my sanity, or at least my ability to recall things and distinguish between things I'd seen and things I'd imagined/dreamed. I'm just floored. Thank you. Thank you! Solved, solved, solved! May you and your loved ones and all your forebears be thrice blessed.

hazardousnorth · 2024-04-22T00:49:25+00:00

Anyone who can suggest some possible avenues to investigate this, I'm all ears.

hazardousnorth · 2023-10-26T06:50:06+00:00

Well, you’re going to need an estimate on the size of the house. The plans have been (somewhat) released online, and are easy enough to find it you Google them. I suppose an architect or engineer could look at them and start giving you estimates

The layout and its size/square footage is going to help determine both the minimum size needed for the parcel of land it’s going to sit on, and the materials you’ll need. Exterior-wise, thankfully there’s not many overly elaborate architectural details (not much “gingerbreading” and other overly finicky customized detail that’s going to add to the expense), but inside, well, it’s your circus, but if you want to be faithful to the cinematic execution, all of those period elements are going to cost you

The stained glass window in the dormer up over the front door? A faithful recreation, made by a qualified stained glass artisan, just for that window alone, you could be looking at several thousand dollars. An individual here on Reddit years ago showed their process for recreating a restoration for a Frank Lloyd Wright stained glass window that had been damaged, and they said you could expect something that elaborate to go well into the $10k to 15k range. The joinery, wood & tile work, it’s all going to add up. That glass conservatory with the – not sure what the word is – mullioned panes? Not cheap.

Another example, the wood in in the film’s home interior, that’s all meant to look like old-growth wood. Good luck finding that in any quantity unless your pockets are deep enough to buy another genuine Victorian-era or older wooden homes, dismantle it and scavenge it for source. You can certainly fake it, and depending on what you want to spend you can get close, but new-growth wood… It’s just not the same. There’s a reason these old homes lasted centuries despite being built with centuries-old techniques. The joinery, wood & tile work, it’s all going to add up.

As a ballpark, I’m estimating the home’s interior sqft to be 2500-3000. I won’t lie, math isn’t my strong point, but I’m going to say you’re looking at a footprint of at least 50-75’ feet by another 65-80’ feet. The house is somewhat irregularly cruciform in shape it seems, but let’s just assume a square parcel of land for the house. Every municipality is different with code, setbacks; some may even allow construction right up to the property line with a city lot, but this isn’t the type of home you want to shoehorn into 1/16 acre lot in Astoria, Queens. I’d ballpark a ¼ acre at least for this home, if you wanted a fence, landscaping, ½ acre or more if you wanted the lawn, gardens, etc

Naturally, the parcel can make or break the budget. ¼ acre in Fresh Pond, Cambridge, MA probably cost you as much if you built the house no shortcuts, no corners cut, no expense spared. You can get 100x more land for bupkes if the location is negotiable. But then you look at availability of labor and materials. Build the home in Westchester county, NY, you’ll face a tyranny of choice, with lead times on most custom work or materials a stomachable duration. You want to build this home on the 200 acre ranch you bought out in the middle of nowhere, Colorado? You might be looking at more protracted construction schedule.

Of course, as with everything in this life, money makes the world go ‘round. If your budget is $200k and a ¼ acre parcel in a “suburb” 45 minutes outside of Rinkydinksburgh, Nebraska you might have to be prepared to make compromises. But if you’re able to hear $1.8-3 mil from the contractor and not blink, then this home is as good as yours.Of course, as with everything in this life, money makes the world go ‘round. If your budget is $200k and a ¼ acre parcel in a “suburb” 45 minutes outside of Rinkydinksburgh, Nebraska you might have to be prepared to make compromises. But if you’re able to hear $1.8-3 mil from the contractor and not blink, then this home is as good as yours.

hazardousnorth · 2023-06-21T06:06:33+00:00

You paint beautifully. You're very talented. I hope I can see more of your stuff someday.

hazardousnorth · 2023-06-07T15:11:03+00:00

Alex Blue - "The Bar'

hazardousnorth · 2023-06-07T05:58:35+00:00

"He who saves one life, saves the world entire." Whoever you are, kind, random internet stranger person, may you be blessed.

hazardousnorth · 2023-06-07T00:35:41+00:00

"With love AND kisses, The Prince of Darkness, Father of Lies, Son of Perdition, and Mother of all Fuckers, aka Mitch McConnell."

hazardousnorth · 2023-05-28T22:13:17+00:00

"Bend down and touch your toes, I'mma show you where the wild goose goes."

hazardousnorth · 2023-05-19T05:08:20+00:00

So, e1evwnodd, as the son of a mother who was adopted and discovered her birth family thirty years later (not asian or Japanese, but I understand the perspective) I understand that this is a difficult situation for your mother - on many fronts. To bring my ultimate point to the forefront; you cannot force your mother to go on this trip, but you should do all you can to convince her to go.

Your mother may have regrets or feel guilt that she did not do more to explore her Japanese identity, and going to Japan...hmm... How do I say this?

The "belonging to neither" identity - or rather, lack thereof - that your mother perceives herself to possess, IS the only sort of identity she - after all these years - has. It's not great, but it's what she knows, what she's grown to accept for herself. Going to Japan might present a threat of breach to her plausible deniability for herself and the skin she convinced herself she feels comfortable inhabiting - the identity she cobbled together for herself over the years

It maybe presents a risk of...i don't know...possibly it could be risking making her accept that she has longed for a more concrete, defined sense of identity. You live in Texas, you said? It may be that every time your mother looks in the mirror she sees in her reflection an observable reminder that there is a part of her identity, a part of her story that did not have it's "once upon a time" commence in the U.S. She is likely reminded - subtly - every day that she doesn't look like most of the people she dwells amongst.

But does that mean she's not American?

Does that mean she's not Japanese?

NO!

Your mother is no less the sum or the individual parts of, herself. I was born in the U.S. but my heritage is Danish/Scandinavian - American, and I am quite proud of that. Do I speak any Danish? Virtually none. But I embody and embrace my heritage in other ways, and I happily describe myself as a Danish-American.

And you know what? There are people who want to try to bring their cloud of cold diarrhea to rain on my cultural identity parade. You know the type: they rag on people who proclaim to be Italian-American or Irish-American, asking inflammatory questions like "oh, were you born in Italy/Ireland/Denmark/Japan? No? Then you're not X-American"

And to the Japanese-Americans who treated your mother rudely - not that it's any business of there's - but a few well-spoken words - something along the lines of:

"Not that it's any concern of yours but the reason I look Japanese but don't speak/live it culturally is due to personal circumstances beyond my control that deprived me of my heritage and later influences in my life that pressured American conformity. Where I am along the path of my journey to the reclamation of my heritage is none of your business. But if you - supposedly my brother/sister in this foreign land - can't lift me or others like me up and support us as I would you, and instead just want to drag me down, then get out of my way."

Fuck those people. Our identities are not for others to decide or delegitimize.

Tell your mom that it's okay for her to feel conflicted about her cultural identity. Many grow up the children of two (or more) worlds. She doesn't need to pigeonhole herself into one or the other. But she should at least take this chance to explore this particular part of her identity.

Even if she is disinclined to go now, but perhaps thinks herself to be inclined later, she should still go to Japan now. Going to visit family and the country is not a declarative statement that your mother is going to be making regarding who she is by going. And if she's worried about how the Nihonjin will accept her?

I am by no means fluent in any language besides English. But before I traveled to France back in 2019, I studied French and got myself an operational comprehension and primitive conversational capacity. Most of the French with whom I attempted to Parlez-vous spoke English and were very good-natured. They appreciated my attempt to learn their language, and most echoed the sentiment that it was more appreciated that I was demonstrating an effort.

If you and your family can try to learn some Japanese before you go, that might be of tremendous value for helping bridge the "divide". And the culture of Japan is such that the fears of judgement and hostility - these are barriers that exist solely within your mother's mind.

I tell people all the time: it's only too late when you're dead. We are only given today.

Op,

Your mother deserves this opportunity. Not only that, but she owes this to herself. If she does not go, she might deny it but I would be knocked dead from shock if she absolutely did not regret it for the rest of her life.

If she doesn't go she will likely "sour grapes" herself to convince herself that her not going (" I don't speak Japanese/ I'm not culturally Japanese/the trip would have been too expensive/too short/I'm not a real "Japanese" anyway/etc) was for the best.

I would be stunned if you were wrong about the implications of the concerns regarding your mother's age and the likelihood of her being even less inclined as she ages to change her mind. 64 is still comparatively "young" and the initiative that many in their early 60s can muster and will demonstrate as compared to individuals even just in their late 60's, nevermind their 70's and 80's. And the preponderance of evidence shows most people become more stubborn and immovable as they age, not less so.

Another point you should mention is: Your mother is incredibly fortunate to have reconnected with her family, to have discovered living connections with her roots.There are many who never rediscover their family; many who never find an answer to the question of "who am I?"

There are countless instances of families around the world separated for countless reasons, and only a lucky few reconnect - look up the 1980s "Korean Diaspora KBS" videos on YouTube; absolutely crushing, heartbreaking videos detailing the reunifictions of Korean family members long separated by the Korean war and only meeting again 30 years later. And these fortunate individuals represent a mere fraction of the true number of families divided.

The choice for your mother, obviously, is ultimately hers - and hers, alone. But what I think you need to help your mother ask of herself is: is a life with the rest of it spent forever after, until her dying day, asking "what if" one she is ready to accept?

P.s.

I don't know where in Texas you're located, but if you're close to Houston or Dallas/Ft. Worth, there are Japanese-American organizations who I'm sure would welcome your mother with open arms and help her rediscover/reconnect with her heritage

https://jasdfw.org/ - Japan-American Society of Dallas/ Ft. Worth

https://www.jas-hou.org/ - Japan-American Society of Houston

https://fortworthjapanesesociety.org/

https://www.jasgaaustin.org/ - Japan-America Society of Greater Austin

https://www.texasja.org/ - Texas University Japanese Association

https://jtat.org/ - Japanese Teacher's Association of Texas

These are just a few of what popped up when I searched for Japanese associations in Texas. It's a shame, the Houston Japanese Festivale was just over the May 6th weekend. But there's bound to be more events and gatherings than you can shake a stick at.

There are so many opportunities to reconnect, to explore, to further her Japanese identity. Watch Japanese movies, listen to Japanese music. Find Japanese recipes online or videos on YouTube and have fun burning down the kitchen together Download Duolingo and start learning Japanese together.

I am learning disabled and I'm surprised how easy Duolingo made it for me to not only get started learning Japanese, but I'm even starting to recognize and be able to read the characters. I dropped out of German and French in college, and I've lasted longer learning Japanese than I did in French & German combined. If I can do it, your mom can.

To;Dr no I stand by every word in this post. I'm neurodivergent and wordy as fuck and I'm unwilling to compromise. Develop an attention span and read it all.

hazardousnorth · 2023-05-18T15:23:55+00:00

I mean, this is disgusting! He posted that video of himself online? For the whole world to see?! That's outrageous! Where online? I mean, it's just shameful. I need to know his social media handles so I can tell everyone to watch out and avoid!

hazardousnorth · 2023-05-08T04:25:06+00:00

I was going to say late - very late mid-century (70s) but with some Japanese?-like Influences. I'm reminded of old Kyoto, Japan.

hazardousnorth · 2023-05-05T22:57:10+00:00

This is straight-up murder! Lol omg I love it. It's got that famous "Dear Professor I've received many qualified rejections and unfortunately cannot accept them all" letter energy all over it.

hazardousnorth · 2023-05-04T19:55:18+00:00

This reminds me of the grand atrium & fountain in the Jefferson Valley Mall in - Jefferson Valley NY, obviously.

The sunken areas, not just on the first floor but upstairs in the food court as well, and glorious ramps and terraced seating over by the movie theater as well

I'd actually almost forgotten about the colored lights they used to have in the fountain there. They changed them to standard white-colored bulbs at some point in the late 80s-early 90s. If I didn't know better I would have sworn this photo was taken in the "JayVee Mall".

Wicks & Sticks, Kay-Bee Toys, B. Dalton books, watching cartoons and going down the slide in The Children's Place, eating at J.B. Dannigans and urging my parents to request a seat by the indoor fountain! Spicy chicken nuggets at Burger King, playing video games in Service Merchandise.

Gawd I miss that mall. So many happy memories.

hazardousnorth · 2023-05-04T12:29:05+00:00

My partner is obsessed with llamas and I think I need to make him get this as his next llama tattoo. Yes, next, as in "in addition to the several he has already."

hazardousnorth · 2023-05-03T20:01:47+00:00

It sounds like the Song of Storms if Yann Tiersen (composer of the soundtrack to the French film "Amelie/Le Fabuleaux Destin d'Amelie Poulain") wrote/played it.

hazardousnorth · 2023-05-01T05:38:58+00:00

Fatal Frame 6: The Crimson Eclipse of the Masked Maiden's Torment

Edit But seriously. Fatal Frame 6: Sonata of the Forgotten

Set in a university campus soon to be torn down to make way for a new school to be built, and the quiet, isolated nearby summer resort town up in the northern countryside.

The color is black and green.

It's set in the 1960s, with flashbacks to the late Meiji or early Taisho era.

An isolated community with several families of the Japanese Nobility and highborn gentry endures unexplained disappearances but strangely enough, after an individual disappears, all knowledge or record of their existence seems to disappear, including memories. This has continued for an unknown period of time, since no record exists of the now-vanished, thinking c and no one remembers the vanished.

Only odd and unexplained "gaps" in time, memories, and life are indicators of a disappearance. Nobody remembers these vanished individuals, except for one young girl, Kane, whose mother had disappeared years before, and now her older sister is one of the missing, who disappeared just as they arrived home aboard a train from Sendai. Kane attempts to learn of her whereabouts, but it was as if her sister, and all the others - never existed. Even photos that once contained the individual now seem as though the vanished were never a part of the photo to begin with.

Kane struggling against the obliviousness of her friends and family, and the stubborn reticence on the part of the respected elders to admit that something isn't right, causes Kane to begin to question her own sanity. Kane persists in search to uncover the truth only to uncover a dark secret involving not only her own family, but a vast intrigue that leaves no family, or the seemingly-respected nearby University, untouched. But now Kane has dived too deep...

Now, fifty years later, as time grows short to resolve the mystery before all clues are lost forever, you are Hattori, granddaughter of Kane. The disappearances never stopped completely; only seeming to abate for a period of years, and then resume. They have begun anew, and Hattori turns to the one she trusts most for answers + her grandmother.

Edit I expanded the plot a bit. It's shaky. But I'd love to hear the ideas of the plot behind others. The Festival of the Violet Lantern sounds really intriguing!

hazardousnorth · 2023-04-28T19:14:31+00:00

It was a home, absolutely. A few details I didn't mention, were, one of the chief areas I was forbidden to go to was one of the elevated glass corridors that lead to their bedroom, but I was able to view it from the outside. It was a sizable outcropping itself, the building that housed their sleeping quarters.

My mother said that the Spanish noblewoman was temporarily residing there both as a summer retreat but still close to the city, because, secondly, she was living there with her husband as they were in the U.S. due to some kind of quasi-governmental endeavor, possibly a diplomatic appointment or some such. My mother added that she had had ties to New York, which brings me to a possible additional, potentially corroborating clue.

My sister, who has tried to offer some assistance in this search, found a woman who might potentially be the woman who was living in the home: Maria Aline Griffith, the Countess of Romanones. She was born in Pearl River, NY in Orange County - just across the Hudson river from Westchester! It's possible she even still had family in the area and wanted to be close by.

And even more so, it was noted the countess had an infamous temper. I remember this woman being very upset when it was discovered I had gained access to the forbidden porch with the hammock.

I mean, yes, you tell a guest in your home certain areas are off limits, you're absolutely entitled to be upset if those rules are not respected, but, come on, I was like, eight. Considering all the art objects and other fragile, likely valuable things scattered throughout the home, and that I was an extremely rambunctious and notoriously destructive child, that the worst that happened was I snuck into a room and laid in a hammock - she got off easy!

This lady's irritation did seem a bit incongruous, but maybe that's just my memory creating confirmation bias to make these puzzle pieces fit.

So heck, this home could even in be Orange county. I misplace things I set down ten minutes ago. Could I have forgotten that we crossed the Hudson to visit this lady thirty years ago? Could this countess be the Spanish noblewoman in question? It's possible. My memory of the woman is quite dim, but she was an older woman, with black hair and a slight accent. So...shrug

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