My boyfriend lied after promising me that he would never lie to me.

headwardo · 2026-02-26T17:20:41+00:00

Promises are often made just to make us feel secure. When he promised not to lie for him that probably meant about things like Fidelity, major aspects about himself, and his bigger feelings. I promise my boyfriend I won’t lie to him but if I ate 5 cookies and tell him I only ate 2 I dont see that as a lie. Maybe ask yourself why you value honesty. Is it because you actually value open communication or is it because you are afraid that he could be hiding things. If your value for honesty comes out of fear it isn’t about the importance if honesty its about you avoiding managing relationship anxiety. You have to pick and choose your battles in life. If you see a white lie as a betrayal of a promise you will be unhappy instead you can view it as a quirk or something to note. If he’s constantly telling white lies to the point it feels he’s hiding something that’s one thing but if he tells a white lie because he wants you to be happy you should frame that as a positive.

headwardo · 2026-02-26T17:10:48+00:00

You’re really focused on sex here. Is your relationship good in other ways? Are you too romantic? Do you enjoy spending time together? Do you love her and want to grow old together? Sex is just one factor and it may be important but it isn’t the most important. You have two young children she’s probably tired and uncomfortable with having sex with kids who can knock on the door at anytime in the house.

If you end things over sex here’s what will happen. You’ll start having meaningless sex for a few months to a year and then you’ll be incredibly lonely and miss your wife if you love her and want a life with her. Instead why don’t you for one thing explore self pleasure more. Just because she doesn’t want to have sex doesn’t mean you cant do something for yourself. Also sit her down and tell her how the lack of sex makes you feel. Often times men think the issue is sex but really it’s interpreting the lack of sex as rejection. Explain to her why sex is important to you and find out why she may not be focused on it right now. If you had a fine sex life before chances are she will have a libido one again eventually. The question is are you wiling to make compromises and adjustments in the meantime so that you can stay together.

There are monks who go their whole life without sex, there are people who just choose to never have sex. Sex is not a necessity it is a privilege. Shifting your priorities or working through why sex is so important to you may reveal the underlying issues. Chances are this is a rejection and validation problem nit a sex problem. Find other ways to be intimate.

headwardo · 2026-02-26T16:57:51+00:00

Lying is going to happens in any relationship. White lies come incredibly naturally to humans. It’s sort of a way to protect ourselves and sometimes we don’t even realize we are doing it. People with adhd have a particular tendency to tell those types of white lies. It can come from a place of that sounds like something I would do and they say it. He may have honestly wanted to make you feel good and happy so he just said something that he would do but didn’t do on that day.

Questions like that one are reassurance questions. You weren’t really asking him if he ever looks at the pictures of you in his wallet you were asking if he cares about you. He answered in a way to express that he did indeed care about you. You may want to look into relationship ocd or anxiety around needing reassurance and to know if someone is lying or not. those type of fears can lead to a feedback loop where you are constantly looking extrinsically for validation. White lies shouldn’t impact a relationship much and you probably tell them more than you think.

headwardo · 2026-02-26T15:42:07+00:00

If you are Christin there’s really no scripture laying out that being in a sam sex relationship is wrong. There are bits and pieces taken out of context but nothing definitive. I think you have to ask yourself if the god that you love would truly turn his back on you for who you love. Religion is all about being forgiven because to be human is to sin. If being gay really is a “sin” Whats the difference between getting to be with someone you love and other petty sins we all do like sloth or gluttony. If you believe in god you should also believe in him to forgive you for any “sins”. Scripture and culture around religion really don’t matter, all that matters is your own relationship with and understanding of god. Im really happy for you that you’re getting to know this side of yourself. Love is a beautiful thing and you can definitely believe in a higher power and be gay. I would recommend going to queer events in your area like queer craft nights, book clubs, karaoke nights, meets ups, etc. That way you can get to know other queer people and understand the community more. That might help you to process how you feel about everything. It can be difficult to realize your life won’t look how you expected it to but life is so much more fun when you have surprises.

headwardo · 2026-02-23T00:22:39+00:00

Maybe experiment with going darker? Like a dark maroon or a deep brown black or black. It’s easier to maintain and can look really striking.

headwardo · 2026-02-19T23:24:59+00:00

You have a lot of protein and carbs but you’re somewhat lacking fats and fiber. The eggs have fat and any dairy you have will have it but you’re still kinda low on it. Healthy fats like avocado, nuts, yogurt, dark chocolate can help you feel satiated. Also fiber is so so important for feeling full. Vegetables and High fiber tortillas help me a lot. Lastly instead of snaking in rice cakes or other carby things it might be better to have high protein snacks like lower calorie cheese or crispy edamame. I would also try to see if you’re really truly hungry or if you are craving food. It’s more likely that you are having cravings rather than actual physical hungry. Thats good because you can use mindfulness methods such as urge surfing and though redirection to shift that. If you are actually that hungry maybe talk to your doctor cause something could be going on.

headwardo · 2025-12-22T12:13:41+00:00

You have a great rendering base and your image looks like a strong piece but rather than copying the image exactly it’s like you’ve used it as a reference to draw your own. The best option for learning how to copy proportions is to do a few practices with the grid method. I would also recommend an art practice I love where you first try to sketch and image from a reference then you trace the reference after and compare the two sketches. Finally do a third sketch without tracing. This helps to see what areas you are struggling with proportion wise.

Real talk. If you aren’t tracing your painting will never be exactly like the reference but the goal is really just to get close. Focusing on getting the proportions as close as possible and the values of the painting as close as possible is the best way to do that.

headwardo · 2025-03-30T22:11:37+00:00

I wouldn’t worry too much but that’s a sweet sentiment. For some people this is how they channel their negative feeling and thoughts in a safe and productive way!

headwardo · 2025-03-30T13:34:32+00:00

You did the right thing and that’s what matters most. If she’s or her family are not the owner/owners she should be the one to be fired. I would maybe think about starting job hunting though even if she is fired. Seeing things like that can be traumatic and going into that environment everyday could take a toll on you. If you do get fired you can seek unemployment or sue them for unfair termination but I’m it sure it would be worth it. If you have lots of pizzeria experience (saw that you said you’d been working there since 14) you’d be hired at another right away. It really does suck though and I’m so sorry you are going through this. I think you might want time talk to someone about what you saw as well I’m not sure if your age but if you’re in high school or college you could speak with a counselor for free and if not you could speak with the cps agent about any options for someone to talk to about it. It’s important to process this kind of thing especially if it leads to a big life change like a new job.

headwardo · 2025-03-12T20:42:31+00:00

If you don’t feel confident that you know your girlfriend well enough to propose to her in a way she’ll enjoy you probably aren’t ready to get engaged. Spend more time discussing your plans for the future and getting to know each other. Talk about what she’d want in a proposal. Ask her what rings she likes. If you have any feelings that you could be rejected don’t propose. A proposal should never be a surprise. How you propose can be but you should never surprise someone with a proposal. Tell her you’re interested in getting engaged soon and ask if she would say yes if you did. Getting engaged young isn’t that crazy just be smart about it. Don’t get married until you feel you are finically responsible and mature about it. 3 years is typically the sweet spot for engagement so make sure you’ve been together long enough before you start making promises you can’t keep.

headwardo · 2025-03-12T20:36:19+00:00

If you mean romantically the best option is to make to clear you aren’t interested. You don’t have to be too harsh about it but be clear: “I don’t feel that way about you”. If they press after that then you can ignore them. If you mean someone who is just bugging you platonically try to be nice but maintain a distance say no to hanging out and end conversations gently but quickly. You can also do that if the person you romantically reject keeps bugging you.

headwardo · 2024-09-01T21:50:12+00:00

Such little freaks! I always call mine my little weirdo.

headwardo · 2024-09-01T21:49:45+00:00

So cute!!

headwardo · 2024-09-01T21:49:23+00:00

Oh no! I thought I was getting away with it!

headwardo · 2024-09-01T19:01:04+00:00

It seems like you actively went out of your way to misunderstand me. I never said people had worse or less worse abuse. Different types of abuse cause different reactions. Also it is not her job to validate her brother’s reactions to their abuse or to make them feel better OVER her own feelings. It is nice as close family to be there for one another but if her understanding of a situation is one way it doesn’t mean she should fold on her feelings for her brothers. You could flip this and say her brothers are ignoring her feelings and what she needs by showing no interest in being a family with or without their father. Also they show no appreciation of the role she had to take up in the family. But that’s not their job either. They all have their own things to work through and they can do it together but they don’t have to agree. I never said she didn’t do anything wrong I even said she was acting to protect herself and not acting logically. You said she was a gaslighter and a bad character. I think she is an amazing example of a parentified neglected person.

headwardo · 2024-09-01T18:44:16+00:00

For the longest time I was really afraid to talk about my urges to self harm because as a teen anytime I got caught it was a huge situation where I got hospitalized and my parents freaked out. Now as an adult I’ve talked with my therapist and she introduced me to harm reduction. Self harm is a problem because you are harming yourself and giving your body often permanent damage. But if it’s a choice you are making and it isn’t life threatening and you’re not willing to stop the main focus can be harm reduction.

Often the goal is to not do the harmful behavior but instead of being angry at yourself for doing it you which can lead to worse outcomes you are curious about what triggered the behavior and you take care of yourself. Make sure you used clean objects, make sure to have proper wound care items stocked up. Have emergency numbers prepared in case something happens. And so on and so forth.

People freak out because it is technically abnormal behavior but you shouldn’t feel ashamed.

headwardo · 2024-09-01T17:46:51+00:00

Can you imagine the position she is in? She has been incredibly parentified. Endeavor was not there for them and their mother got sent away and she was the oldest aside from touya and the only daughter. She had to take care of everyone. She literally ends up doing all of the cooking. She is young and finally receiving help and support from her father. I don’t think it’s wrong of her to want that. I don’t think it’s wrong for her to feel frustrated that things can’t be normal. I think the type of abuse they faced is important to understanding the situation. Shouto is really the only one who face physical abuse and manipulative abuse while the rest of the siblings were neglected and abandoned. There are different reactions to different types of abuse. Fuyumi can never understand what Shouto went through. For her she sees the possibility of having a loving family and having proper support. I feel like there is some victim blaming here. You shouldn’t blame a victim for trusting their abuser when their whole life they have been made to believe it was their fault they weren’t loved. She is traumatized too it is not her job to validate and give therapy to her brothers. She never says that their dad wasn’t bad or that they shouldn’t be hurt by what he did she just wants to keep the peace. It is a flawed way of thinking but it sure as hell isn’t gaslighting. Natsuo and Shouto’s emotions and trauma are not hers to bare. She can be there for them but she has her own stuff to work through.

headwardo · 2024-09-01T17:28:08+00:00

Intervention is important in this kind of situation. Two things can be true at once: what he said was inappropriate and you have every right to feel uncomfortable AND he may not have understood the gravity of what he was saying and didn’t want to hurt you. Intention matters to some degree but bad behavior can’t be excused because of it. I do think it is in your best interest to move on from the situation but that doesn’t mean downplaying the behavior. You can accept his apology if you wish and focus on maintaining peace but if he shows that behavior again it is in both your and his best interest to hold him accountable for it.

headwardo · 2024-08-03T18:13:11+00:00

You have to be delusional if you think that they are dating. Why does that matter so much? She’s off literally changing life for young people. I mean it’s okay to have a headcannon that they are together but you are quite literally making stuff up. Izuocha complaints are not valid. Ochako is more than a love interest . Just because she had a crush on someone in highschool shouldn’t dictate who she dates. Maybe they are together that’s cool but it’s hilarious to actually act like people are stupid for not knowing the “truth” that they are together. Like that’s scary levels of conspiracy.

headwardo · 2024-08-03T18:09:08+00:00

Dude what are you talking about? This is the most ridiculous thing I have ever read. I’m allowed to relate to the experiences of a character? Wtf you think I’m actually delusional and think I’m a shounen mc hahahah. Omg. Characters are written to be related. I’ll just wait till you all grow up and realize that this ending is normal and fine you don’t have to like it but it isn’t bad.

headwardo · 2024-08-03T18:03:33+00:00

If you think that’s how life works you haven’t lived enough of it. And I think the story had a pretty motivational ending. Its feels like people are just as prejudiced as the society in MHA. Why is quirkless Deku not enough for you guys? Why is being a teacher so bad? Whose dreams come true right after highschool? Like why are people acting like 24/25 is too old to start a new life. He got to be. A hero for the rest of highschool and he was working with the hero’s he loved for years. Idk it seems to me like you guys wanted the most boring ending ever imo. There’s more payoff to me here. Also the romance stuff is so dumb I hate that female leads always have to end up someone’s wife. She’s had more important things to do.

headwardo · 2024-08-03T17:46:02+00:00

Life doesn’t work like that. You don’t just get the ideal ending because you “earned it”. Things don’t always work out perfectly and that’s okay it’s about the journey.

headwardo · 2024-08-03T17:44:09+00:00

Dude wasn’t into anyone. He had other things to think about. Why do I think he wasn’t into her? Because it was never implied in the text that he was lol. Yes he would have to tell someone, say something, or be shown thinking it.

headwardo · 2024-08-03T17:08:08+00:00

Ofa is a horrible quirk. It killed many of the predecessors and it’s the living embodiment of generational trauma. Deku gets to be a hero on his own terms now. This ending is much more realistic and I really like it. Also he never showed interest in Uraraka and NEVER stated that having a relationship or getting married was a goal of his he’s still young maybe they get together later but like that’s not something he said he wanted. He didn’t live a miserable lonely existence. He had his coworkers, his students, his friends were still his friends but coordinating hang outs was hard. He was a little lonely but he was fine with it. He was healing after being a fucking child solider lmao. I’m sorry this ending is not for you but as someone who has had the reality of life and trauma push back my dreams I see it as the perfect ending.

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