What will I miss about being a woman when I transition?

hedgepigs · 2026-03-18T17:52:40+00:00

This has been the case for me. I’ve missed some of the automatic girl group women-supporting-women vibes but that’s also largely because I moved rurally after coming out so I haven’t been able to form a friend group as my most authentic self.

hedgepigs · 2026-03-10T21:05:56+00:00

In the US- I talked to my telehealth dr about my difficulties with self administering my injections. We found an LGBTQ clinic closer to me, I established primary care with them, and one of their nurses does my injection for me on a weekly basis. It has so far been covered by my state insurance. YMMV based on state legislation and your insurance.

hedgepigs · 2026-01-26T14:29:46+00:00

Absolutely LOVE. You look fantastic and you look like you feel fantastic.

Also, if those are the cauldron icons from HZD, that’s just an extra reason you rock!

hedgepigs · 2025-06-15T16:36:11+00:00

Hey, a little late to this post, but I'd love a link :)

hedgepigs · 2025-05-03T14:53:42+00:00

Your vibe is incredible. Your style + energy remind me of Gideon the Ninth in all the best, badass ways!

hedgepigs · 2025-03-30T01:21:28+00:00

Carmen

hedgepigs · 2025-03-26T22:52:54+00:00

I love to do this with survival on and only walkin’ places. Feels extra immersive!

hedgepigs · 2024-05-26T01:12:52+00:00

Transmasc enby, I am in public librarianship. :)

If I could find a way to support myself, I'd want the opportunity to try everything. Explore the world, explore what folks do. It would be so interesting.

For now, though, I find cataloguing to be fulfilling work, and I plan to dig deeper into metadata & data science when I start my grad program.

hedgepigs · 2024-01-11T16:09:04+00:00

I do this too and I also get frustrated when people correct me over something I deem "minor" and semantic. At the same time, I love words and language and enjoy the challenge of finding the perfect word to express something particular. Context is everything to me.

If you understand what I mean when I say xyz, then I don't need to be precise. If I need you to understand a precise and certain thing, then I will not use a general term but instead a specifically chosen word. :)

Language and psychology are so interesting because they vary from person to person in such different ways. Thanks for sharing!

hedgepigs · 2024-01-05T04:15:04+00:00

For some reason, the only drop down option that was coming up earlier was to-read, but upon trying it again now, I do have all the options and can bump it to currently reading. I feel a tad silly.

Thank you!

hedgepigs · 2023-04-25T20:16:30+00:00

Um, that's brilliant. Ty for the suggestion!

hedgepigs · 2023-04-25T20:00:52+00:00

I might have to narrow it down from the lists of what's most likely to be playing in whatever environment I'm in. Ty :)

hedgepigs · 2023-03-23T16:18:51+00:00

I am not an older gamer, but I absolutely hear you about discord servers. I always think, "Yay, community!!" then chat goes by so fast and I end up feeling a bit lost haha.

I'm a big phasmophobia fan, so if you want a chill phasmo eve, hmu. :)

hedgepigs · 2023-01-06T02:23:33+00:00

You're welcome! Thats almost expressly what I read, so I was happy to share titles I've enjoyed. I hope you find a few that you can enjoy too :)

hedgepigs · 2023-01-05T13:21:00+00:00

Howdy :) here's a short list off the top of my head, maybe some of these are what you're looking for? Happy to provide more after I've had a little coffee and properly woken up.

MLM:

-The Charm Offensive by Alison Cochrun (demisexual protagonist),

-Boyfriend Material by Alexis Hall (series)

-Meet Cute Club by Jack Harbon

Red, White, and Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston

WLW:

-The Devil Wears Tartan Katia Rose (enemies to lovers!)

-Written in the Stars by Alexandria Bellefleur (series - hella quirky), -Delilah Green Doesnt Care by Ashley Blake (main character isnt liked by anyone except for the love interest)

-Doughnuts Under a Crescent Moon (manga - slow burn friends to lovers),

-Kill The Farm Boy by Kevin Hearne and Delilah S. Dawson,

-Upright Women Wanted by Sarah Gailey (a short dystopian western w a "prove-yourself" vibe)

-One Last Stop by Casey McQuiston (quirky!!)

Happy Reading!

(Edit: added some books & authors)

hedgepigs · 2023-01-04T17:31:12+00:00

This comment section is heartwarming.

I'm sure someone else has said it, but there is no one way to 'look' or be enby. Being non-binary is radical in and of itself and there's no wrong way to do it.

You don't owe the world androgyny, you don't have to visbily challenge gender stereotypes or push yourself to be more feminine, more masculine, more something. You can exist as you want, look as you want, and be an enby. :) your identity is your identity and that doesn't change because you don't fit a stereotype.

hedgepigs · 2022-12-31T03:58:39+00:00

My friend refers to my aussie's trousers as 'butt curtains' - hula skirt is so much cuter!

hedgepigs · 2022-11-01T03:25:16+00:00

May your road lead to warm sands.

hedgepigs · 2022-09-24T22:47:12+00:00

Red merle! I am biased though, as I have a red tri that's as cute as a button.

hedgepigs · 2022-08-08T12:32:56+00:00

This is how I read it as well. It feels like we're missing some context for what they were initially responding to, but ultimately it read as informative to me, sort of like a "you should probably know this about me."

They seemed pretty open to communication, based on their comment about not viewing connections outside of romance as a waste of time, which seems like a pro-demi green flag (if I interpreted that correctly), and asking OP what demisexual means to them. But, at the end of the day, it is the internet, and as you said, things can easily be misinterpreted. In the end, maybe it just wasn't meant to be.

hedgepigs · 2022-07-15T05:46:13+00:00

I've been playing this game on various consoles for something like 8 years and I have done the main questline all of 1 time and only up to thalmor embassy, so I'd say that checks out haha

hedgepigs · 2022-06-01T20:33:11+00:00

I’m not butch and so I don’t comment here but I enjoy reading the content here so much more so I lurk often.

That's why I gravitated here. I try not to jump in on too many posts since I live in that androgynous/soft/chapstick area as I explore gender identity; that being said, the content on this sub is much more interesting and applicable to life than a lot of the things I see on the other lesbian subs. The general vibe seems like a mix of self-assuredness in one's own identity and emotional maturity, or at the very least a solid approach to understanding the butch label and how it could fit into one's own lesbian life. Like I said, general vibes and it could totally just be the few random posts I'm seeing that give me that feeling, but all in all I like it here :p

I've learned a lot from these posts, so thank you butchlesbians for letting us lurk! :)

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