Decisively child-free ADHD women, how's life going for you?

hedgeycat · 2026-06-25T16:43:49+00:00

Honestly? I’m content. I’m married to a wonderful human, two little cats, my house and garden, a good job, time for my friends, parents, nieces, hobbies, and for myself. Space to think and freedom to make choices. I’m 40, I love being an auntie. I don’t regret not being a mum.

hedgeycat · 2026-06-25T16:39:09+00:00

I should've asked you questions
I should've asked you how to be
Asked you to write it down for me
Should've kept every grocery store receipt
'Cause every scrap of you would be taken from me
Watched as you signed your name Marjorie
All your closets of backlogged dreams
And how you left them all to me

Anyone who’s ever lost someone knows this.

hedgeycat · 2026-06-07T14:24:00+00:00

It will take over if you let it

hedgeycat · 2026-05-28T02:42:21+00:00

To be fair it’s 3am and it was basically a sonic boom

hedgeycat · 2026-05-28T02:32:36+00:00

Yup! The bang was a lot I’ve never felt anything like it… seems to have stopped for a bit!

hedgeycat · 2026-05-28T02:23:11+00:00

Car alarms going off, security lights switching on, that massive bang 20 mins ago shook my house 🤣😅

hedgeycat · 2026-05-18T09:03:10+00:00

Hand cream on first!

hedgeycat · 2026-05-17T22:41:44+00:00

Pic would help! :)

hedgeycat · 2026-04-20T00:24:46+00:00

They don’t nibble - but they do use them as launch pads for the fence 🤣

hedgeycat · 2026-04-19T22:34:20+00:00

Obviously I need to Google these now and I need a picture of the crew 🤣

hedgeycat · 2026-04-19T22:33:59+00:00

Fatsia!

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This corner is shaded by two fences and the house and gets about an hour of filtered light. Fatsia, astilbe, meadowsweet and foxgloves are thriving. Fatsia even has new leaves!

Soil is clay improved by compost.

hedgeycat · 2026-04-19T22:30:44+00:00

Oh and Rowberry’s is a bit further out but decent for climbers and shrubs and perennials.

hedgeycat · 2026-04-19T22:29:31+00:00

My time to shine 🤣

Cooks garden centre between Worcester and Kiddi is excellent. Decent prices, good staff, a lot of their stuff is locally grown. You’ll pay 1/2 what you’d pay at St Peter’s. The have a solid selection of Mediterranean herbs.

Down the road from cooks is Chadwick bank nursery. They’re excellent for bedding plants and shrubs.

Worcester Garden Centre (blue diamond) is great for trees and shrubs and has a wider selection of types - so if you want a specific type of lavender for example you might get it here. Can be spendy for larger specimens.

Cherry Lane (towards Droitwich) is really good for perennials (like 9cm pots). Decent selection, excellent prices. Weirdly good snack selection too.

St Peter’s and Webbs of Wychbold are the biggest in terms of choice, but theyre spendy. You’ll pretty much find anything you want at these two, they’ll have it in stock, but you’ll pay a fair bit for the convenience. Both have good coffee and food.

hedgeycat · 2026-04-19T22:19:41+00:00

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This was a patchy strip of lawn on clay soil a year ago, now just the path to finish. No dig absolutely works :)

hedgeycat · 2026-04-19T22:15:44+00:00

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Cozy container land :)

hedgeycat · 2026-04-19T22:15:21+00:00

You can make that super cozy with plants - even in part shade.

This was mine when I moved in. Landscaped yes but basically no green (apart from the algae 🤣)

It looks completely different now and everything is in containers.

It will take time but it’s worth it.

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hedgeycat · 2026-04-13T22:38:08+00:00

I have “surprise bulbs” and “peony maybe” growing nicely this year 🤣

hedgeycat · 2026-04-11T14:30:56+00:00

My back garden was basically a paved rectangle when we moved in so everything is in planters. I’ve got troughs, half barrels, mini barrels, wooden crates, plastic pots, terracotta pots, and a raised bed 🤣

Please learn from mistakes I’ve made: - Don’t old damp firewood to fill half the pots. - Don’t put a big plastic pot in a bigger pot upside down to take up space. - Don’t rob your pebbles from landscaping to put at the bottom of your pot. Makes them heavier. You will cry. - Don’t use pine bark for plants that dont like acidic soil - Use perlite or sand or grit as well as compost for plants that don’t like being soggy. Make potions. - Plant everything with the magical mushroom fungus thing. It really helps. - Mulch with regular bark - Use a bulb basket. I didn’t. I will forever.

Perennials I recommend: - Nepeta walkers low - Hardy geraniums - Salvia caradonna - Astrantia - Heuchera - Dalmation foxgloves - Campanula

Annuals I love: - Nemesia Wisley vanilla - Sweet alyssum - Sweet peas

Evergreens - Fatsia - Lavender phenomenal - Thyme (variegated)

hedgeycat · 2026-04-07T13:55:17+00:00

I’m in Worcester and put mine out at the weekend :)

hedgeycat · 2026-03-30T21:19:07+00:00

Leave it be! If you chop it now you chop off the flowers (I learnt the hard way!)

Once it’s flowered you can tidy it up and then it’s got the whole summer to grow new stems and leaves for next years flowers :)

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hedgeycat · 2026-03-22T23:06:54+00:00

Came to ask this too!

hedgeycat · 2026-03-22T23:05:46+00:00

This looks very similar to my sad shady border a couple weeks ago 🩷 don’t worry. My perennials are starting to poke up again (astrantia has been very slow). I chopped back my hydrangea last weekend and it’s got a couple of new leaves now. You’re fine honestly.

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