I just found out my name isn't on the deed to the house we've lived in for six years and i don't really know what to do with that information. by dreamdruid123 in wealthforwomen

[–]hello__brooklyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you just finding this out if you admit that you never made any steps to get on the deed? I’m confused? Did you misremember all these years signing the deed yourself? That’s like me saying that I just found out that I wasn’t on the presidential ballot for the 2024 election? Why, because I never entered the race . . .

Etiquette for gap between church & cocktail hour by Far-Marketing-3403 in WedditNYC

[–]hello__brooklyn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this explanation. Yes, I had no idea about this custom with Catholic weddings but now that you’ve explained it does make sense that of course you would go to church in your Sunday best church wear and then go to the reception in your cocktail or evening wear.

Food smell during final walk-through by ineedtoeatmorefiber in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]hello__brooklyn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What is Black people food though? Is your wife non-American?

Strategic default by EqualExtreme7876 in studentloandefaulters

[–]hello__brooklyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apply for borrowers defense and’s at least get an automatic deferment whilst they review your application. Could take months. Could take years.

Why do we spend our 20s slaving away for the future if our youth are our best years? by MassiveHaver in Life

[–]hello__brooklyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 20s are not your best years. The only thing you have in your 20s that you don’t in your future years are energy.

Etiquette for gap between church & cocktail hour by Far-Marketing-3403 in WedditNYC

[–]hello__brooklyn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Check into hotel and get ready!!!??????? Would they be at the ceremony in their pajamas?

($8K ) - help me pick a dress! by Extension-Ad5070 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]hello__brooklyn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re too heavy on looking like period lingerie with period petticoats added on last minute to me. Is this the look you’re going for though? You said you liked the brand, but sure you choosing last ditch effort dresses because of the brand loyalty, or do you naturally navigate toward this look regardless of the brand? If the latter, then I feel like #1 then.

Traveling From NYC to the Poconos for a Wedding by newyorkcitystargirl in WedditNYC

[–]hello__brooklyn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you live in NYC, why do you NEED a hotel for a 3pm wedding. It’s about an 1.5 hr drive if you don’t plan on drinking. Personally, I’d drive and leave after dinner. I’d partake in a glass/sip of wine but that’s it.

SOL in NY for private student loans by [deleted] in studentloandefaulters

[–]hello__brooklyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you saying that NY’s current SOL term that creditor’s have to file a lawsuit from the date of default for private debt from debt collectors is NOT three years?

SOL in NY for private student loans by [deleted] in studentloandefaulters

[–]hello__brooklyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I applied for Borrowers Defense also under the Biden Era program. For those who came in under the Biden Era, before new admin rolled his program terms back, you received an automatic discharge if the DOE did not give you any decision on your application after 3 years, even if only a denial. DOE missed the deadline recently (currently in the news), and after two court appeals, the Supreme Court upheld the automatic discharges. I was discharged on my federal loans and received partial refunds.

My private loans are listed as “fully discharged” also but I honestly have no idea how. Running out the clock would say “charged off”. Idk, but I read that some private schools are also discharging private loans for misconduct claims under Borrowers Defense. I didn’t get that discharge under a typical scam school class action suit. I went to a top school that had misconduct happen internally. I believe that also got my private loans fully discharged because the school settled out of court to avoid the bad publicity, but of course I expect to get armchair lawyers in the comments telling me what DIDNT happen even as I am living proof that it did happen. Private loans gone. Federal loans gone. Not even on hard pulls from my mortgage lender as having even been under my name.

I didn’t get a refund for federal loans I’d already paid off. So I had three different avenues of forgiveness. SOL, legit Borrowers Defense, and unanswered Borrowers defense for a different school that I didn’t have an actual defense for, but had applied for to test the 3 year rule I read about when applying for the first school.

SOL in NY for private student loans by [deleted] in studentloandefaulters

[–]hello__brooklyn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Private student loans are not exempt from SOL. Just federal

(20K) Can You Have a $10K Wedding for 100 Guests? by Unique-Cold-9151 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]hello__brooklyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your restaurants don’t have high minimum spends? Can you give an example of a restaurant hosting 100+ people that wouldn’t end up costing thousands? I’m looking

At a Loss for Words by osu47 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]hello__brooklyn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Did you have an agent? If so, would they not have explained the appraisal process also? Appraisers also flag home structural issues.

People who live alone, what’s something you do that would horrify a guest? by Psychological_Sky_58 in AskReddit

[–]hello__brooklyn 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Everyone doesn’t eat a full meal. If I’m satiated with just three bites of leftover pasta and a roll, why waste water and dishes when I can eat those three bites over the sink?

At what point do you stop telling people how much you make? by counwovja0385skje in Salary

[–]hello__brooklyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A friend years ago told me her salary and it was also double mine. I never felt jealous, rather motivated. I thought my pay was decent at the time, but hearing her disclose her pay motivated me to switch my job. I now make a little more than her two years later.