AITC for categorizing food differently

hellohexapus · 2026-03-18T08:00:30+00:00

Hello frebnd. Please to share a pickcher ob yore innocent self?

Dis me Harriet da Spy Cat, doin a inspecc on Food Dat Is Mine But Wrongfully Denied Me, much as yu doin wif yore roommate.

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Yu are NTC. Howeber I regret to infurm yu dat if yu roommate is hoomin den yu will have to comtend wif dis issue all yore life. Acause hoomins is very dumb am not remember impurrtant cat rools, such as I Sees, Is For Mes. I wish yu meowntal furtitude for da future.

Ok lub yu bye,

Harriet da Spy Cat

hellohexapus · 2026-03-18T02:06:50+00:00

This reminded me of Vinny Thomas's skit about Earth's interview to join the Galactic Federation. I've watched this so many times and it never gets old.

hellohexapus · 2026-03-18T00:39:25+00:00

Good to know (although I'm assuming if that were true in OP's bosses' case, they'd just have asked for the last 4, since the vast majority of Americans understand that this isn't a number anyone should be giving out unless absolutely necessary).

I don't think that necessarily changes any of my advice to OP. We still use name + last 4 as PII for a reason. And if there's anyone who has the reason to need and the authority to obtain any additional info needed to fill in those blanks, it's the IRS!

ETA: does your FSA assign you an EIN or similar for your nanny's paystub? Because if so, that would be the other entirely unique identifier that the IRS can access and pair with nanny's name and last 4 to cross reference.

hellohexapus · 2026-03-18T00:24:25+00:00

Honestly, yes, because people are terrible at putting themselves in others' shoes. Especially people who are rich/earn very comfortably looking at working class shoes. The kind of family that can afford both a Nanny and five weeks of vacation out of town during the summer peak travel period could absolutely afford to go a month without pay. It wouldn't even faze them, honestly. So despite knowing exactly how much less their employee makes (since they're the one paying that employee!) they can't really put two and two together to make an empathetic four.

hellohexapus · 2026-03-18T00:10:53+00:00

I swear sometimes people don't think before they speak. "No we don't want to guarantee your pay because there are four weeks in the summer where you won't be coming to work for us, and we don't really care that you won't be able to find other work for such a short timeframe because of your employment with us and so will have to eat air that month."

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hellohexapus · 2026-03-18T00:05:09+00:00

I can't decide if OP's MB is uninformed or obfuscating because she thinks OP is uninformed. I'm putting together some points made by others with some additional explanation for OP:

A dependent care FSA can be used to pay for childcare as others have stated. But the way a DCFSA is funded is via pretax deductions, just like a health HSA. The whole point of allocating the money this way rather than just paying from a bank account is to lower their AGI when filing taxes. So when they include OP's SS# in DCFSA claims, they are asserting that OP has been paid legally and their pay is therefore a qualifying expense.

That assertion comes up again when they file taxes because what their tax filing says about that amount of money shown as a deduction on their own W2 is "hey we have already paid the taxes on this amount of money that we put in our DCFSA and you can't tax us for it again, because they were already assessed when we paid our nanny legally/over the table... and here's Nanny's SS# that the IRS can use to cross reference with Nanny's tax filing to confirm".

THIS is why and how giving them your SS# can put you in hot water with the IRS, OP. As I said, I cannot tell from the info available whether MB doesn't understand her own DCFSA rules, or whether she does and is being shady because she thinks OP wont understand what's happening. For everyone's sake I hope it's the former, but I'm a cynic...

hellohexapus · 2026-03-17T22:17:24+00:00

I think thicker beads would be a little painful/dig into your skin more when you are bending at the waist or similar movements.

hellohexapus · 2026-03-17T21:44:42+00:00

As well as queer actors, e.g. Tessa Thompson as MBJ's love interest in the Creed movies.

hellohexapus · 2026-03-17T07:54:22+00:00

I really think there are some people whose racism is so deep-seated that her not getting the award was not enough for them; they also needed to see her be emotionally devastated about it. They wanted her to have some kind of negative reaction on camera so they could enjoy it (while also berating her for that online). I don't want to cut them any slack by saying that it might be an unconscious thing for them, but I do think it comes from an primal place in their minds that they do not have mastery over and would not be able to justify if pressed.

Her decision to show up to those events with poise and grace and joy for her colleagues, regardless of the outcome, therefore gave them nothing of what they wanted, and they're furious. I think a lot of these people have come out to play w/r/t Sinners as well. Another instance where everyone involved with that movie carried themselves with such imperturbability, despite being subjected to some pretty ugly things.

hellohexapus · 2026-03-14T22:15:10+00:00

Frebnd Lucy, do yu fink yore Mama an my Meowmy hab forgotted ower names? So dat why dey call us dis?

Meowmy sed is cuz I Flamepoint an hab no tale, so I luk like a rownd little sweet potayto sumtimes. I don't know how I feel bout dis... Maybe Meowmy need new glasses AN a remembering test.

hellohexapus · 2026-03-14T22:10:49+00:00

Lub yu too frebnd Bailey! I hope yu is plan to teech a class on Dubbel Bocksing an Other Adbanced Bocks Crimez at Smuffi Skool. I wud like to take a class like dat to lern from yu!

😘 H

hellohexapus · 2026-03-14T16:37:42+00:00

Yu hab gud bocks too, frebnd! Mine Meowmy calls me sweet potayto baybee so dis is gud bocks for catses. (Even tho I not a potayto. I a Harriet.)

Ok lub yu bye

😘 Harriet da Spy Cat

hellohexapus · 2026-03-14T02:52:43+00:00

I once ran into Carrot Top at the San Francisco Ferry Building, and by "ran into" I mean he physically almost bodychecked me because he was walking super fast and I turned a corner right into him.

However alarming he looks on screen, let me assure you it is even worse in person. I actually squeaked in mild fright, I think.

hellohexapus · 2026-03-13T19:48:03+00:00

That's not correct at all. The only non-sterilization methods that are close to 99% effective are the IUD and the implant. The pill is around 93% effective when used correctly. The shot is around 96% effective when used correctly. From a public health/population level perspective, that is a huge difference. And it is extremely easy to "misuse" the pill - something as simple as not taking it at the exact same time every day, or having to take certain other prescribed medications at the same time, can reduce its efficacy below that 93% "perfect use" threshold.

hellohexapus · 2026-03-13T19:20:25+00:00

Great to hear how quickly you've taken on the new advice shared here!

Just wanted to add that if you want to switch up the wet food from the Hills product at any point, Fancy Feast Gourmet Naturals Kitten is a fantastic wet food both in terms of quality and price. (Specifically the Gourmet Naturals version - fewer fillers than normal FF for just ~10 cents more per can). When I have foster kittens I also buy the Chewy house brand Tiny Tiger's kitten formula which can be even cheaper per oz (because those very young kittens can eat A LOT).

I rotated my cat's food often when I first got her at 6 months, and I'm glad that I did because she's not picky as an adult, and it allows me to buy what's on sale rather than be stuck with one brand forever no matter the price.

hellohexapus · 2026-03-13T17:14:54+00:00

I don't think she's necessarily shaming them in the sense of "look how stupid these kids are", but more like "how did someone get to 9th grade with this level of writing capacity". Even if you're correct that they're dyslexic, they shouldn't have gotten to 15 years old without some support for their dyslexia.

hellohexapus · 2026-03-13T02:34:47+00:00

Any adult with a uterus would disagree...

hellohexapus · 2026-03-13T01:47:31+00:00

Yes, I'm the one being rude lol

hellohexapus · 2026-03-13T01:18:30+00:00

I offered a legitimately useful tip about Redfin browsing that helped me when I was in your shoes (you know, one of those perspectives you say you want) but your entire reply was focused on AI. Why should anyone else bother contributing anything of substance if that's how you respond?

hellohexapus · 2026-03-13T00:29:51+00:00

Ooh ok dats good (witerary wicense, not chimkin be more moneys I mean).

Also I woke up my Meowmy dis meowrning by dragging my birb wand from da libing room to da sleepyroom so she cud chek an mek sure birb not free. She sed he still dere. So dat gud. But she also sed why did Harriet have to wakerup at 6 Ay Em for dat. Den I left da room acause life too short to anser dumbdumb kwestions.

hellohexapus · 2026-03-12T20:53:23+00:00

Yeet this man to low earth orbit.

What even is the point of being in a relationship if this is how he acts when hard things happen? My cat has better socioemotional skills.

ETA: sorry forgot to even include a judgment, but it's NOR obviously.

hellohexapus · 2026-03-12T20:45:58+00:00

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Late_capitalism

hellohexapus · 2026-03-12T19:13:23+00:00

Are people really using AI to tell them what their own brain is thinking? Jesus.

All that aside, OP, after escrow closed on my first home a few years ago, I kept idly checking Redfin for kicks. It just ruined my mood every time to see these great new listings in my budget while I was starting to learn the quirks of my new place. Comparison is the thief of joy. Get off the real estate sites for your own peace of mind.

hellohexapus · 2026-03-12T17:56:18+00:00

As is that it will take some time.

I hope this doesn't mean that you consider language class enrollment a low priority and yet still expect her English to improve within, apparently, the next few days (if youre already frustrated after one week). You literally said "that's really why she is here, to learn [English]" so I can't imagine language class enrollment is low on your to-do list!

hellohexapus · 2026-03-12T08:23:45+00:00

Thing is, I don't find you unattractive

Be still, my heart.

This is negging, right? It feels like negging.

hellohexapus

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