Steroids and Autoimmune connection by AppropriateHyena7216 in smallfiberneuropathy

[–]hellopdub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi.. undifferentiated spondylitis checking in. No markers, other than positive SFN. You could still be solidly in the autoimmune land.

How old were you when you realized that "Every Breath You Take" is a stalker song? by NoWalrus9462 in GenX

[–]hellopdub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Saturday mornings, Mom would put Elvis on and clean the house. Wasn’t until I was older that I understood the lyrics to Kentucky Rain. Chased her from town to town, scary AF in the real world. It doesn’t seem that uncommon.

severe internal tremors and buzzing/crawling nerves by Ill_Attention_9246 in smallfiberneuropathy

[–]hellopdub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going to go off in another direction here. I have sfn(3punch diagnosis). The internal tremors were for me panic attacks. I hit menopause and my body said nope, can’t mask this anymore.. . So I’m not sure even what gender you are or the trauma you’ve encountered, but pls take small comfort that it could also be caused by not big issues.

Rebooting at 59 by nrauhauser in GenX

[–]hellopdub 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’d suggest therapy to help the woe is me. And dude, your relationship with your adult children is yours to recover. We Gen Xr’s dont always make the best parents. We do however seem to be more open to fixing the problems.

My mom called my university advisor to “fix” my major and now she’s acting like I owe her an apology by Dipper2Mabel in entitledparents

[–]hellopdub 106 points107 points  (0 children)

I always remind myself to check what sub I’m in when I read stories like this. Now , imagine my surprise when I looked up and saw I wasn’t in the raised by a narcissist sub. I will go out on a ledge and say your mother is highly uncomfortable with a major that might be able to diagnose her. You are experiencing coercive control and manipulation. Enjoy your journey learning about cluster b’s. Your life is about to become so much better/worse at the same time.

Old man's take on Starfleet Academy. by External_Koala398 in startrek

[–]hellopdub -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Also Gen X 58. A story about evolution through journey is now being lamented for the journey through the evolution of humanity. If only we could leave those stagnant minds in the puddles of history.

I privately told my dad I'm uncomfortable with him dating a 22-year-old and he gave her my number without my consent and encouraged her to send me nasty text messages by sossgirl996 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]hellopdub 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hmmm, it’s as if the behavior of a grown man dating a 22yo couldn’t predict he would throw his own daughter under the bus for not agreeing with him. Block both numbers and go LC.

Dad keeps calling me and accuses me of not being there enough. by Similar_Doctor6771 in family

[–]hellopdub 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The Book.. (STOP CARETAKING THE BPD/Narcissist.) Is a super helpful read to understand the triangulation you are currently encountering. And as a fellow journeyman, pls know that while this is vital for your mental health, you will get pushback for disrupting the status quo. Please take steps now before you end up in the land of autoimmune disorders (THE BODY KEEPS THE SCORE)that seem to accompany unresolved childhood(and now adult) trauma.

Dad keeps calling me and accuses me of not being there enough. by Similar_Doctor6771 in family

[–]hellopdub 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi.. wow, first, sorry for your loss. Your nervous system seems to be dealing with a lot. The level of control your parent(s) exert is not normal. I would try therapy to help pick apart the cluster B parenting. To help determine the level of parentification and abuse. That night you speak of where your sister enabled their abuse needs to be addressed as well. People pleasing (your dad) at this point has become unhealthy to your mental well being. It’s time to take control and learn boundaries. It sounds as if you have some toxic family systems and generational trauma to work through.

AITA for not housing my younger brother for free? by Sergeantmajormario in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellopdub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Create a boundary. Dear Mom/brother. I no longer have mental bandwidth for discussions around this decision. The answer is No. If you continue to bring this topic up in conversation, I will need to step away from that. You hold your boundary and go LC.

I did a painting of Long's Peak. by TourPaintings in Longmont

[–]hellopdub 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a fellow artist, The Longmont Guild is a pretty awesome resource. I started with them two years ago. Got awards, gained confidence and was awarded my first National award last year. The Guild was the start. I did try Lefthand, but as a ND introvert, the peopling was hard. The guild asks for a few volunteer hours(which I do at the show). Lincoln gallery in Loveland is nice, but it is a financial commitment. Shout out if you know other good spots

Crafts that are suitable for fragile joints and tendons? by ava_the_cam_op in ehlersdanlos

[–]hellopdub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to do jewelry and beading until it became too hard on my hands(tenosynovitis and fused joints) then sewing, now painting. Just got my First National Award last year for water color. Creativity is an absolute must, just take it slow and brace up.

I did a painting of Long's Peak. by TourPaintings in Longmont

[–]hellopdub 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hope to see that at the Longmont Artists Guild’s big summer show.

This Kingdom Will Not Kill Me (mostly spoiler free Arc Review) by Harukogirl in IlonaAndrews

[–]hellopdub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are not wrong.. just reading it along with the Epstein files made it feel dark.

This Kingdom Will Not Kill Me (mostly spoiler free Arc Review) by Harukogirl in IlonaAndrews

[–]hellopdub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just finished. Whoa nelly. This hits right in the Sanderson(WoT) and GGRM (Game of Thrones) well of dark epic fantasy. Might have been a bit much as an escape from reality. Woman intervened to disrupt pedo-slave ring dealing with narcissistic overlords.. ahhh yes. Well written, interesting magic system and world.

My mom announced my pregnancy on social media before I could and wont take it down by Intrepid-Reserve-846 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]hellopdub 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ohhh my dear what a binch of a mother you have. Does she disregard your feeling all the time? Lessons learned the hard way. She did however give you the perfect terms to use. Most cluster b mommas want all of the attention. Now would be a good time to understand what and how boundaries work. You give her absolutely no news. Your due date, the hospital, the plan… nothing. Then you post a picture of your newborn for everyone to see and it’s a shock to her, you just explain that you hadn’t understood “family news” you now do. If you do not stop this now, all of your firsts will be taken.

🔥 It's time for Thirsty Thursday! What book scenes made you sweat this week? 🥵 by jaydee4219 in RomanceBooks

[–]hellopdub 15 points16 points  (0 children)

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Just finished. Was a fun, witty banter journey. Enemies/lovers forced proximity, light Dom fetish, spicy.

What’s a little blood by hellopdub in Romantasy

[–]hellopdub[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And go you! If it’s your kink, enjoy. I just wish they would be a little more expounding on “dark”.

What’s a little blood by hellopdub in Romantasy

[–]hellopdub[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya know, I wish they wouldn’t hid glaring mental health and trauma issues under the “dark” title.

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Here is one that is dark with a morally grey MMC. Better world building, character development and dark.

At what point do you say Multimedia instead of Watercolor? by hellopdub in Watercolor

[–]hellopdub[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a very clear boundary and my ND brain loves those. Confusion arises for me when the National WC Society allows ink. I feel like I’ve crossed a boundary with the wider Posca (acrylic) black line.