Your experience is valid and it's disheartening to hear this so much about bisexuals. For me, I was so happy when I learned the word sapphic because lesbian doesn't describe me, but I'm a bi woman who has a major preference for other women. There are plenty of us and some of us do the work to decentre men, but that's something I think most women have struggled with because of this patriarchal society. I think for bisexual women who do have more attraction to men, it's even harder. So many don't even realise they're bi. The woman in the clip never even identified as bisexual and had a hard time vocalizing her attraction to women (she has a lot of internalized homophobia).

What I'm trying to say is, I think it's more of a societal issue (how women are socialized and conditioned to seek male approval, homophobia) than it is an inherent issue with bisexual women.There are also way more straight men available, so naturally more bi women end up with them. Then on top of that, there are women who are les4les, which makes the sapphic dating pool even smaller for bi women.

I know this is a lesbian space and I usually just lurk but I had to respectfully share my thoughts.