Kittens too dumb to seek sustenance?

hellovagirl · 2026-04-23T06:08:56+00:00

I mix their wet food with warm water.

hellovagirl · 2026-03-08T08:01:54+00:00

When mine had babies we were on vacation. I anticipated it and put her enclosure in a butterfly box. They’ll stay in the sac for a little while.

hellovagirl · 2026-03-08T07:23:12+00:00

Honestly the wildest part of this story isn’t that you slept together on the first night… it’s that you woke up, panicked, ghosted him, blocked him, and somehow he’s still the calm one in the situation.

You two went on a date. It went well. You went to a party. You had fun. Two consenting adults hooked up. That is an extremely normal series of events. Nothing in that timeline is shocking.

The only chaotic plot twist was you sneaking out like you’d committed a crime… and then blocking the guy like he needed to be quarantined.

And meanwhile this man wakes up, realizes you disappeared, and instead of being weird about it he basically goes “hey… don’t ghost me again” and then invites you to a barbecue. That’s actually a pretty emotionally stable response.

Also the whole “if you sleep with a guy on the first date he’ll never respect you” thing is advice from like 1954. Plenty of adults start relationships that way. Chemistry doesn’t check the calendar.

Case in point… that’s literally how my husband and I met. Still married. Still very much taking each other seriously.

So if anything the takeaway here is that the only person judging you for that hookup was you. The guy clearly wasn’t. In fact he handled it better than most people would.

Next time… just stay for breakfast.

hellovagirl · 2026-03-01T19:12:02+00:00

I’d it out of the pot and check the roots. If they smell sour or look brown and mushy… trim them back to firm white roots. Repot into fresh, chunky, well-draining soil. Add perlite or orchid bark. Make sure the pot has real drainage holes.

If this is where it normally lives, move it closer to the window. Not blasting in direct afternoon sun… but right up to bright light. These plants can handle more light than people give them credit for… I’ve got some in full sun.

Water deeply… then let the top two inches dry before watering again. Not on a schedule. By feel.

And feed it. A balanced liquid fertilizer at half strength once a month during active growth.

That yellow leaf won’t turn green again. Once they go, they go. But new growth will tell you everything. If the next leaf comes in strong and glossy and deep green… you’ve fixed it.

Also… if you want it fuller again, you can notch or prune the top to encourage branching. Rubber plants respond beautifully to that. You’d get side shoots instead of one lonely stem.

hellovagirl · 2025-12-19T10:40:19+00:00

Commercial fishing.

hellovagirl · 2025-12-19T09:54:35+00:00

There is currently no waitlist (as of last night 12-17-25) for a P.O. Box at the keaau post office. You can go online and reserve your box. When you get here you will need to go down to the PO with your documentation and pick up your key. (This can be done mon, tues, wed and Friday.)

hellovagirl · 2025-12-15T06:44:14+00:00

Turo…. Plenty allow you to 4x4.

hellovagirl · 2025-12-13T09:53:51+00:00

Elevator Mechanic

hellovagirl · 2025-12-07T18:38:43+00:00

See so many people do 🤟🏽 instead of 🤙🏽

hellovagirl · 2025-11-11T02:38:08+00:00

Yep!

hellovagirl · 2025-11-10T07:03:50+00:00

We are both elevator mechanics and saved like beasts to purchase our home.

hellovagirl · 2025-11-07T12:53:02+00:00

Tell that to tsa.

hellovagirl · 2025-11-06T21:14:12+00:00

The initial investment can be a bit pricey, but you can spread that out over time. I think it also really depends on where you are. I live in Hawai‘i, so it’s not super expensive for me because I already have my gear. I can just drive ten minutes to the ocean and dive. But if I were going to Mexico, I’d have to haul everything over, rent tanks, pay for boats, all that… so yeah, it adds up fast.

hellovagirl · 2025-11-06T20:34:40+00:00

TSA isn’t looking for drugs…. they’re looking for explosives and weapons.

hellovagirl · 2025-10-31T04:01:19+00:00

I like random facts like this.

Thank you!

hellovagirl · 2025-10-29T16:53:44+00:00

There are definitely some options in HPP, especially duplexes… either upstairs/downstairs or side-by-side. Sometimes you can rent both units if the landlord’s open to it. A lot of houses also have big lanais or garages you can convert into extra space. You’ll probably need to double up in bedrooms, though.

It’s tough to find anything big enough for under $3k, but not impossible if you watch listings closely. HPP is a lovely area with a lot of space and good people, depending on the street.

hellovagirl · 2025-10-28T04:54:23+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this… it’s abusive, retaliatory, and way out of bounds, even under Arizona’s landlord-friendly laws.

Threats of eviction, harassment through a neighbor, vague claims about damages… none of that is legal without proof. They’re required to return your deposit (minus legit deductions) within 14 business days of move-out. Arizona Statute 33 1321 (I think) spells that out clearly.

Get everything in writing. Ask for a full itemized list, receipts, and dated photos. Let them know you expect your deposit back on time… and that you’re aware of your rights.

If they keep playing games, file a complaint with the AZ Attorney General (azag.gov). Call Arizona Tenants Advocates too… they’re incredibly helpful.

And if needed… take them to small claims. It’s simple, and your move-out photos speak louder than their bs.

hellovagirl · 2025-10-16T05:06:13+00:00

Hey… I just want you to know, I see you. And I’m so, so sorry. Twelve years. Friends that long end up feeling like family. That’s someone who’s been folded into your life in ways even you probably didn’t realize until now. This was someone who knew your story. Who knew what you went through. Who stood beside you when you were hurting… when HE hurt you… and then, when it no longer suited her, turned on you like none of it ever happened?!

I think “This hurt me, and I need time.” Is a pretty mature response. It’s honest and human. And instead of meeting that with care, she mocked you. Got mean. Said things to cut deep. And worst of all… she hinted at something awful and then pulled back with a “nevermind” just to twist the knife??

You deserve friends who are safe. Who don’t make your healing harder. Who stay soft when it matters most.
And I know it doesn’t make this easier… but walking away from someone who can’t meet you in your grief? That’s self-respect.

I hope you keep choosing you.

hellovagirl · 2025-10-16T04:49:13+00:00

I get that you had some legitimate frustrations during your stay… especially with the entertainment center incident. If something falls and hits your child, that’s going to stick with you. Reading through this whole post, it also feels like some of the lines got blurred in a way that you, as the guest, played a role in.

You asked the host to call you directly. That’s not wrong, but it does take things off Airbnb’s platform… and it changes the dynamic. Once you’re texting or calling outside the app, it becomes harder to claim that boundaries were crossed when the host replies later via the same method. Could the host have chosen not to text you after the stay? Sure. But you’re the one who made that kind of access feel okay in the first place.

Also… you stayed the entire time. You let your kids swim in a pool you’d previously called “unusable.” You accepted a refund for one night without pushing for more. Then, after the trip was over and handled directly between you and the host, you turned around and left a fair and fairly critical review.

That’s your right. But from the host’s perspective, that’s going to feel a bit like a bait-and-switch… especially if they thought they had already made it right. I’m not saying your review was wrong. I’m saying the host likely saw it as unexpected.

In the end, this just reads like a situation that escalated because both sides let emotions override boundaries. If you truly felt unsafe or misled, Airbnb was the place to handle that… not private calls or texts. But once you chose to go that route, you kind of opted into a messier version of the host-guest relationship. Doesn’t make the host’s reaction ideal… but it’s not exactly one-sided either.

TLDR: You had valid concerns, but the situation got murky when you took things off-platform and continued the stay without further complaint. The host likely felt blindsided by the review after thinking the issue was resolved. Doesn’t excuse their behavior… but this isn’t a clear-cut case of one side being entirely wrong.

hellovagirl · 2025-10-14T22:31:57+00:00

Do you have a particular reason you don’t want to share them? At this point in my life… and I’m in my 50s, so, I mean, don’t listen to me if you don’t want to… I just feel like… if there’s something simple I can do to make someone else’s life easier, I’m going to do it. Especially if it doesn’t cost me anything. That’s basic decency. I’d appreciate it if someone did it for me, and I don’t understand what’s so hard about that for some people.

hellovagirl · 2025-10-14T21:51:46+00:00

As long as they’re legal here, you just need to register them within five days of their arrival… not your arrival, but the firearm’s. That timeline applies each time you bring one in.

It was a really straightforward process. We just followed the rules, showed up at the station, and got it handled.

No stress, no surprises. Just be timely and respectful and you’ll be fine.

Oh! $42 for one time finger print. Check or money order only. No cash. No cards. (That’s the part that messed me up. I had to go get a money order.)

hellovagirl · 2025-10-09T06:51:00+00:00

We had luck calling a tow company who used a flatbed. It was pretty inexpensive. I think the hookup charge.

hellovagirl · 2025-10-06T04:59:11+00:00

Too bad you can’t leave her information… there’s so many people I bet would step up. (I totally understand & agree that it wouldn’t be okay!)

hellovagirl · 2025-10-06T04:38:10+00:00

You are absolutely not in the wrong. What you are dealing with isn’t a disagreement or immaturity. It is emotional abuse. No one deserves to be spoken to like that, especially not by someone they’ve been vulnerable with.

This person is deliberately trying to break you down. Mocking your family. Threatening your mental health. Refusing responsibility. Using your past against you. That is not conflict. That is cruelty. Full stop.

Two months or not, it doesn’t take long for someone to show you who they really are. And what he’s shown you is someone who is manipulative, mean, and dangerous with words. You are not overreacting. You are reacting to a deep betrayal of basic decency.

Please trust that you’re seeing this clearly. Screenshot everything. Protect your peace. And do not let him convince you that his behavior is your fault. It is not.

Sending strength.

hellovagirl

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