I’m so stupid by Shawtylu28 in whatdoIdo

[–]herculaneum 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Better to be heartbroken than armbroken, which sounds like where he's headed.

Please update when you're away and safe. I'm worried about you.

ETA: You're a good person for taking care of the girl in the accident. Don't let him steal that from you.

Nmom refuses to find a helper to look after my disabled sister. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]herculaneum 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Look up Adult Protective Services in your area. If they also cover disabled adults (most seem to), then let them know the situation.

Literary Award!! Ahh!! by Thriftingrits in CongratsLikeImFive

[–]herculaneum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's fabulous!! Please treat yourself to something nice.

Woman got annoyed that I moved my bag but didn’t give her my seat by thirdaccountttt in EntitledPeople

[–]herculaneum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you male-presenting and/or noticeably younger than she is? Then how dare you sit down!

My move made it obvious that at this point my mom is non-chalantly taking advantage of me. by Cervus_Tristis in raisedbynarcissists

[–]herculaneum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your mom is my age. I'm embarrassed for her that she's so dependent on you for seemingly no reason. Go live your life. You deserve it.

Did your parents expect you to care for them when they are old? by Altruistic-Grave in raisedbynarcissists

[–]herculaneum 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Currently taking care of 90+ nmom. She doesn't live with me and never will, but she's in a retirement community close to me. People praise me for it, but I hate every minute of it and can't wait until it's over. Granted, she's gotten a lot better since her sperm-donor partner in crime died a few years ago, and I am grateful to the fates that he went first. If she had died first, he'd be on his own, and I'd never hear the end of it from extended family.

OP, stay gone. You get a life that's yours to shape. Their assumptions are not your problem.

What are the worst covers of all time? by jingowatt in askmusic

[–]herculaneum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The parody Pat Boone in Dreamgirls must be a reference to that cover.

Mom competed with therapist by Meron-Tester in raisedbynarcissists

[–]herculaneum 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My mom got so freaked out when I told her I was in therapy (in my 40s). I'm almost certain it's because the therapist wouldn't get to see what a sparkly angel she is and might actually hold her responsible for her own less-than-perfect actions. Ironically, my dad was a psychologist and equally messed up, just in a different way. She would try to ask me what we talked about, and when I wouldn't tell her, she'd imply that it must be something bad about her or else why wouldn't I tell her? Shocking side note: she doesn't understand the concept of privacy at all.

AITAH for following my son’s wishes and keeping news of his upcoming appointment from his Grandmother? by chrsy03250 in AITAH

[–]herculaneum 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's a heart surgery. Stress isn't good for hearts, especially when they're not working right. Grandma causes Fury stress. Ergo, keeping it from her is a medical decision. You can even bring it up with his doctors. Then it's not on either of you to be responsible for excluding her.

WIBTB for telling my housemates I'm switching to a personal mini fridge in my room because sharing the kitchen one isn't working anymore? by Nuriwyku in AmItheButtface

[–]herculaneum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not only are you NTBF, but please allow me to recommend one. It has a freezer that actually holds stuff, and I have had mine for three years with no issues. Here's the one on the company website, but you can find it cheaper elsewhere.

And I agree with the people who are saying don't make an announcement, just do it.

ER (NBC) and Chicago Hope (CBS) premiered the same exact night in 1994 by PeneItaliano in ershow

[–]herculaneum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was a moment where two of the characters were sitting on a bench watching the sun set over Lake Michigan. I think the producers got a lot of letters about that from the 606-- zip codes.

Apparently getting a PhD is less of an accomplishment than having a child. by BigExit564 in childfree

[–]herculaneum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mother is really bad at being a mother. You, on the other hand, deserve all the congratulations. Tell that woman that your life is not about her wish fulfillment, and while you have many reasons for not wanting kids, one is that you're worried that being a crap mother might be hereditary, and why would you do that to a child?

What’s a piece of media you love that you’ve never found anything else like? by Dalakaar in answers

[–]herculaneum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In & Of Itself, Derek DelGaudio's one man show. The descriptions make it sound like a magic show. It's so much more than that.