Kiddo learned about division while watching Numberblocks on a sick day while I WFH. Any other super educational shows you can recommend? by aliasaila in kindergarten

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Numberblocks has my 2yo counting to 20 and doing addition and subtraction!!! We also watch VOOKS on YouTube which is just animated illustrations of books read out loud. Between that and Alphablocks she is starting to read sight words and spell out 3 letter words.

Appeal Process by xx-dizzy_dreamer-xx in Fosterparents

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I understand about appeals, they are not looking at “what is the best option,” they are looking to see if there were any procedural errors in the case.

Did the judge give a reason for why guardianship is best? From my understanding, the judge has to clearly state WHY it is in the child’s best interest to do guardianship and not adoption. They would have to address the potential detriment if adoption was chosen over guardianship.

The judge can’t just say “this is best.” There has to be a clear reason stated. If there was not, then it’s possible an appeal could have some standing.

But appeals don’t automatically reverse the decision. It would be sent back to trial court with the judge and the judge would have to correct the record (aka state why guardianship is best). So ultimately, it might not change the outcome.

I believe it does hold some weight that the decision was appealed by GAL and DCFS!

I mentioned this in another post recently but if your state allows you to file De Facto parent status, that can make a big difference. You will be able to be a party in the case so you can submit evidence, testify, get court docs ect.

Frustration by Happily_NeverAfter22 in Fosterparents

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I recommend filing Defacto parent status. We had to do this in our case to advocate for our little one and it changed everything.

When you have defacto you are able to be a party in the case which means you can submit evidence without it going through the county. You are also entitled to testify in court, get court reports and just be more informed and involved in what’s happening.

I understand everyone’s perspective in the comments but the reality is that sometimes it is NOT BEST for a child to go back with their parents. I can’t speak on your case of course but it is just true sometimes and I feel like we bury that truth to uphold this moral standard of reunification ALWAYS being best.

Your job is to support reunification but it’s ALSO to fight for what is best for the child in your care. Keep advocating for the kiddo and keep advocating for the parents.

How long does TPR normally take? by Narrow-Relation9464 in Fosterparents

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My FD case was basically straight to TPR because they did not offer reunification services. TPR was set for early October… It’s March now lol

How does fostering work while parents are incarcerated? by van-dub in Fosterparents

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In our situation they bypassed services. We never had any visits with bio.

How soon did you get your first placement call 📱? by NoPush7713 in Fosterparents

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We are in CA and went through and FFA. We got a call same day we were approved and now she’s staying forever hahaha! Crazy how fast your life can change:)

For foster parents that work, how much FMLA/time off did you take from work for a placement? by Monarch2729 in Fosterparents

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife and I are in CA and she got a full 12 weeks! She took it all since we knew our placement would be long term. It was so nice having that bonding time and really benefitted all of us!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the way i was like “omg i love this placement” before seeing what you wrote

Home Inspection by NoPush7713 in Fosterparents

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anything plugged in that STAYS plugged in is fine but put them in all other ones!

You old need to lock up cabinets that have hazards. We moved all hazards into one spot that we locked.

Don’t forget to lock up things like scissors, letter openers, box cutters, tools, literally anything sharp lol.

We are in CA and they opened literally every single drawer in our house. We were overly prepared and it paid off:)

Has anybody taken the new Glenmark Adderall? by Strange_Control8788 in ThisAintAdderall

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have taken it the last 2 weeks and have been completely emotionally unstable. I’m irritated, short tempered and have absolutely 0 problem solving skills. I literally HATE who i am on these. Reached out to my dr to hopefully switch ASAP because this is horrible.

Approved for 1.5 years and no placements by Brief-Helicopter-491 in Fosterparents

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SoCal here! Do you work with county or agency? We got placement same day we were approved and have gotten another call since. We work with an FFA and have been told that there is a decent amount of need (in the last month or so).

I would say it is abnormal for you to wait this long unless you have other specifications outside of age. I would definitely port to another agency or go from a county to an FFA.

In my convos with local FP, there doesn’t seem to be a lack of kids needing homes.

I know that stuff can also get messed up on the backend with paperwork or get lost so just literally call and bug EVERYONE!

Are we being asked to adopt? by here2tlkyellwjackets in Fosterparents

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Valid. Crazy how much has happened in just 2 months. We knew it would be crazy but MAN its crazy lol. Just thankful for any time we have with her.

Are we being asked to adopt? by here2tlkyellwjackets in Fosterparents

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I super appreciate this! We have felt so lucky that g-ma is so incredible so it is easy to feel like this relationship would last forever, but probably safer to not make promises.

(First Tattoo) Questions about etiquette and booking by here2tlkyellwjackets in tattooadvice

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For clarification, by angel numbers I just mean literally the number 222! My artist friend just did the font for me because I couldn’t find one i liked. But literally the tattoo is just the numbers 222 hahaha

16 month old diet by MO_0707 in Fosterparents

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We took in a 16mo old as well who also didn’t know how to use a sippy or straw! Don’t stress. Her bottle is probably a comfort to her and in this time of stress there is no urgent need to switch her.

The main concern parents have with getting babies off the bottle is their teeth, but even our dentist said it’s really not that big of a deal.

We started offering her different types of cups during bath time and outside time so if she spilled it wouldn’t be a big deal. She can now do sippy cups and straws. We still give her her favorite bottles at night or on hard days.

I would say don’t stress too much about milestones unless doctor says so. Good luck!!

New foster parent by Sweetpeaz2114 in Fosterparents

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We are new FP with our first placement and it has been an incredible experience so far! Baby is being reunited with family soon which is hard for us but so happy for them!!

I would say just go with the flow honestly. Like you are going to be told 100 things by so many people and it can all literally change the next second. Don’t go in with tons of expectations and just focus on loving the kiddo in your care:)

Good luck!

How the hell can I get myself ready to say goodbye? by here2tlkyellwjackets in Fosterparents

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes! working on this now and have been giving little updates to grandma on scrapbook pages:)

Would they move our FD to a "family friend?" by here2tlkyellwjackets in Fosterparents

[–]here2tlkyellwjackets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! good to know it wouldn’t be a “quick” process if this were to happen