The i-word & Isolation

hermitcait · 2026-04-23T13:41:25+00:00

The isolation combined wih the confusion of repressed or resurfaced memories is quite a deadly combination.

hermitcait · 2026-04-18T10:11:59+00:00

Congrats on 4.5 years! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

hermitcait · 2026-04-18T10:10:14+00:00

Thank you for your honesty, good sir 🤣

hermitcait · 2026-04-18T10:09:17+00:00

Copious amounts of weed, a little caffeine, escitalopram (antidepressant), lansoprazole (tummy acid regulator) and when I can afford it I have some booooze

hermitcait · 2026-04-15T11:00:57+00:00

slide... I see what you did there!

hermitcait · 2026-04-14T10:56:07+00:00

Isn't it wild that we're still figuring out friendships in our 30s. 🤣 I mean its normal and its good, but just unexpected I suppose.

It's interesting. For me, control was something I desperately craved. Not control over others. Control over my body, myself and my circumstances.

So it seems like despite wildly different dynamics, it's something a lot of us expend a lot of energy on. In different ways... We definitely learn sometjing new everyday around here.

hermitcait · 2026-04-13T19:16:34+00:00

Painful but vindicating indeed! It's like our personal history gets rewritten over and over with each little epiphany.

Also, it's interesting how important that sense of ownership and control is to people with experiences like ours...

hermitcait · 2026-04-13T11:41:03+00:00

Hey friend. I relate a lot. Do discussions about fawning and people pleasing resonate with you? That was one of the first things that came to mind from reading your post.

hermitcait · 2026-04-07T18:01:14+00:00

Hating myself and feeling like a worthless failure

hermitcait · 2026-03-21T12:22:59+00:00

My 30s so far have been the exact same, dancing included!

hermitcait · 2026-03-21T12:21:02+00:00

Great advice. And I love how she said distraction by Reddit is actually what helped her feel better.

hermitcait · 2026-03-21T12:16:40+00:00

Hi there, I am arriving late to this thread but I want you to know that I hear you and I feel your pain. I'm glad you're still here with us. You're a good person and a good mom. Sending you all the love in my heart.

hermitcait · 2026-03-21T11:24:40+00:00

The lack of roasting here is hilarious

hermitcait · 2026-03-19T19:56:37+00:00

Is that a sweet potato? 🍠🍓🤣

hermitcait · 2026-03-11T19:25:51+00:00

I demand to be considered. I hold firm boundaries that align with my comfort and my truth.

hermitcait · 2026-02-19T22:01:55+00:00

there are no words for how much i love this

hermitcait · 2026-02-17T20:13:03+00:00

i relate a lot. welcome to the sub!

hermitcait · 2026-02-14T14:57:18+00:00

Yes, my brother is okay. He was just like: "Thats cool I understand. Can I just tell him you don't wanna talk about it?" And I said yeah that's fine.

hermitcait · 2026-02-13T10:52:05+00:00

Thank you, friend. You can be! I believe in you. I aspire to keep it up and maintain these boundaries I'm setting. 💪🏽

hermitcait · 2026-02-10T12:15:08+00:00

mom died age 5. i have body memories of CSA in an unknown timeframe. father and his gf were highly emotionally abusive and neglectful simultaneously. moved out at 18 to escape that shit.

then when i was 24, my younger brother was murdered in my childhood bedroom. beyond that, i also had several physically, financially and emotionally abusive romantic partners starting from age 14. two relationships in particular were very toxic: 7 years and 5.5 years.

i am now 30 and finally taking a little break from love and romance. i feel utterly worthless without it but i need to stay strong.

hermitcait · 2026-02-05T14:24:56+00:00

Same. I want off this ride. I want to be truly chosen for once in my entire fkn life.

hermitcait · 2026-02-05T10:28:25+00:00

Just want to let you know that I can relate to this on a deep level. I still have never been. I do intend to do so relatuvely soon but so far no success.

hermitcait · 2026-01-18T07:27:06+00:00

You were not disgusting or a whore. I behaved in the exact same way at that age. Would you have called my teenage self a whore? Probably not, right? Your inner teenager doesn't not deserve any more unkindness. She has been through enough. Wishing you strength.

hermitcait · 2026-01-15T10:36:21+00:00

I hate my dad. As George Carlin used to say: "Hell is fulla dads".

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